Do you find yourself plotting out how you're going to respond to someone even while they're still talking to you?

We all do this.

And it never works well.  Not for any of us.

Upleveling our listening skills is one of the most important upgrades we can make for our relationships.   Today's episode is rich with ideas of where to focus during a conversation in order to create an experience that fosters intimacy and connection for both parties.

We discuss:

• 1:20  I'm defensive and I jump to conclusions in conversations with my partner.  How do I stop?
• 3:22  How to focus on our 2 internal listening resources
• 4:28  Tips for listening deeply
• 9:02  Surfacing universal human needs
• 14:12  How "right" and "wrong" block our ability to listen from our heart
• 15:58  Unlearning domination programming
• 22:11  The price of disowning anger

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Twice a month, I host live calls where members bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care.

You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans.

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