The locus of control in a boundary lies with us, and concerns what we are willing and unwilling to do.

One of the data points we can use when negotiating our boundaries is how others engage with us.

In this podcast episode, we discuss our responsibility for setting up terms for engagement that are centered around our values, and we discuss:

• 1:11  How do I reinforce a boundary with out losing my temper?
• 5:37  The locus of control in boundary setting
• 5:55  Setting terms of engagement in our relationships
• 15:14  I apologized to my friend, but now she thinks we're friends again
• 20:43  Conversation role play with a friend 
• 34:23  Is it even worth having these types of conversations?  They're so hard!
• 40:05  I'm worried verbal empathy can make things worse

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