When Jaed Coffin was 23 years old he had recently graduated from college, and like a lot of people in that stage of their lives, he found himself looking ... for something. What he found was an austere and single-minded life in Southeast Alaska, training to become the next big thing in the sport of roughhouse boxing, a boozy, bloody, and rugged class of amateur boxing. Coffin chronicled his rise from wide-eyed novice to eventual middleweight champion in his 2019 memoir Roughhouse Friday, which the LA Review of Books called "a beautifully crafted memoir about fathers and sons, masculinity, and the lengths we sometimes go to in order to confront our past."

On this 2020 episode of Paternal, Coffin discusses life in the small Alaskan coastal town of Sitka, the phenomenon of roughhouse boxing, and how a complicated relationship with his father helped steer Jaed into the ring, where he came up close and personal with a unique cast of characters looking to prove their manhood in the ring.

Coffin also discusses his 2019 New York Times essay about his father's need to go "Out to Sea," an idea that offers forgiveness for men who sometimes or even permanently abandon their families when the burdens of real life become too overwhelming.

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