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8. How To Change Your Attachment Style


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​​In this episode, I tackle a question I received from someone on Instagram regarding attachment styles. She asked, “Do you talk about how to do [attachment] differently cause I could sure use that?” With that, let’s explore how to change your attachment style, especially when dealing with avoidant and anxious dynamics.

HIGHLIGHTS:

  • Attachment Styles Aren’t Fixed – your attachment style can change with effort and intention.
  • Self-Awareness – observe your feelings, thoughts, and behaviors in relationships to identify patterns and triggers.
  • Identify Your Attachment Style – understand that attachment styles can vary depending on the context and relationship.
  • Reflect on Your Past – examine how childhood experiences shaped your current attachment style. Your past can provide clues to your present behaviors.
  • Assess Inner Working Models – review past experiences and consider how you would like to change your responses.
  • Inventory Anxious/Avoidant Behaviors – keep track of these behaviors and analyze them from a working model perspective, considering thoughts, feelings, and actions.
  • Understand Triggers – identify what activates your attachment system and how you react. Reflect on what you miss out on by succumbing to these patterns.
  • Narrate Your Attachment Patterns – practice articulating your attachment behaviors and their impacts.
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    CONNECT WITH ME:

    Join the conversation on social media @chantelleenelson and if you want to personally dive deeper into relationship coaching, reach out to me at comealivelifecoaching.com. Don't miss out on future episodes where we'll continue unraveling the mysteries of human connection and personal growth!

    Until next time, remember: understanding your attachment style is the first step toward building the thriving relationships you deserve.

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