Today’s episode is for all of you who tell yourself you drink to relax. You know who you are. Come the end of the day you want to kick back and relax. It’s the end of parent duty. You’re home from the office. It’s your time. You’ve worked hard all day. It’s time to put your feet up and crack open that bottle of wine. What’s so wrong with that?

Nothing at all if you’re happy with the results you’re getting in life. 

But if you’re frustrated with not being able to relax without a glass of wine in hand or if you feel deprived and miserable on the evenings when you force yourself to go alcohol free, I’ve got you. 

Relaxing is part of the human condition. It’s a very human need.

But when we drink to relax we build a strong association between alcohol and downtime. No wonder we feel as though we’re saying no to relaxation when we say no to a drink.

If this resonates, I can help you break the pattern and create lasting change. Book a free consultation call with me here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

“I like it.”

That thought alone kept me drinking for years longer than I really wanted. My life wasn’t at rock bottom and alcohol was fun so why on earth would I want to stop?

In this episode, I explain why you don’t need to wait for motivation to strike before changing the way you drink.

If this resonates, I can help you break the pattern and create lasting change. Book a free consultation call with me here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

“I’ve got to do this right. I should know how to do it by now.”

When it comes to changing any habit all or nothing thinking shows up as striving for nothing less than perfection or throwing in the towel and saying you’ll never change.

In this episode, I explain how to spot all or nothing thinking, why it doesn’t work and what to use instead.

If this resonates, I can help you break the pattern and create lasting change. Book a free consultation call with me here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

In this episode I explain what’s at the root of your drinking habit (and the result of centuries of human evolution).

The important distinction between natural and concentrated pleasure.

Why you have what it takes to rewire your behaviour.

If this resonates, I can help you break the pattern and create lasting change. Book a free consultation call with me here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

You go into a bar intending to order an orange juice, but end up with a glass of wine in your hands … You swear you will only drink two glasses, but end up consuming a bottle … You weren’t going to drink, but you’ve had a hard day and after all you deserve it…

If you lead a highly functional life but find yourself unable to resist the pull of alcohol and would like to drink a little less, you’re in the right place.

In this episode, I explain why you drink and share the reasons why you continue to drink even when you don’t want to.

If this resonates, I can help you break the pattern and create lasting change. Book a free consultation call with me here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

A hangover isn't just physical. For most people who drink too much, the headache is the easy part. The hard part is the anxiety before you've opened your eyes, the guilt you can't name, the "I did it again" that starts before you've got out of bed. That emotional layer is not a character flaw. It's chemistry. And it's making everything worse than it needs to be.

This episode explains what's actually happening in your brain the morning after, why shame never changes anything, and what to do instead. Including why you can get a full emotional hangover without having touched a drink.

If you're done waking up with the shame spiral and you want to actually change it, book a free consultation call at tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult. 

I’ll help you build a plan that get rid of emotional hangovers for once and for all.

You've tried drinking less. Maybe it worked for a while. But if you're still having the same conversation with yourself every evening, the problem isn't your willpower. It's your identity. You're trying to change your behaviour while keeping the same story about who you are. And that's a fight you will never win.

In this episode I talk about the identity gap, the space between who you've been and who you're becoming, and why closing it is the real work. Not drinking three glasses less. Becoming the person who just doesn't.

If you want to understand what that looks like, book a free consult call at tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult.

You've been saying it for years. "I have no off switch." And you've been treating it like it's just a fact about you. But think about it for a second. Where is it? Where exactly on your body is this switch?

There isn't one. There never was. And in this episode I'm going to show you why that story is the thing keeping you stuck and how simple it actually is to change it. 

If you're ready to find your off switch properly, book a free consult call at tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult.

Perhaps you want to change your identity around alcohol, but wonder what that means in practice. If so you need to tune into today’s episode. 

I talk with my client Ishali about what her drinking used to be like, what it looks like today and how this has been the catalyst for so many other positive changes in her life. 

If you really want to change your identity around alcohol but feel stuck, you need to talk with me. I will map the exact path to step you from where you currently are to where you want to be. And it will be more fun than you think. Talk with me and I’ll show you exactly how. Book your free consultation call here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

What you feel about your past isn't coming from what happened. It's coming from what you're thinking about it right now. And that's actually very good news.

If you've been carrying shame, regret, or a quiet sense that you left it too long, this episode is going to change how you see all of it. Listen before you do anything else today.

Book a free discovery call with me and we’ll work through it together at this link: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult