You’ve taken wine off the table, but now what? In this episode, we dig into what really happens when alcohol used to be your go-to reward and nothing else seems to scratch the itch. You’ll learn why the “I deserve it” mindset feels so powerful, how your brain responds to alcohol in ways that build habit fast, and why you might feel flat or deprived without it, even if you don’t want to drink.

If you’ve stopped drinking but still feel like something’s missing, this conversation will help you understand why. And more importantly, what to do next. Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what reward could look like without the wine.

Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what reward could look like without the wine: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

And don’t forget to sign up to The Freedom Lab. A new and more inspired way to spend Sober October - whether you want to abstain completely or just learn to drink less. Sign up here: https://kickstart.90dayslater.co/tfl-eb

When life feels overwhelming, do you find yourself reaching for a drink just to switch off? In this episode I explore the difference between craving the alcohol itself and craving the escape it promises. From late nights when your mind will not stop racing, to heavy responsibilities at work or home, to moments of grief or stress that feel too big to bear, drinking to escape can feel like the only option. But it quietly chips away at your resilience and keeps you stuck.

You will learn why willpower alone is not enough, how to normalise emotions without numbing them, and practical ways to create real comfort in your body when everything feels too much. If you have ever told yourself, “I will cut back once life calms down,” this episode will show you how to stop waiting and start building resilience right now, no matter what is happening in your life.

Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what reward could look like without the wine: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

👉 Want to know the one experiment that makes escaping with wine unnecessary? Join my free Experiment Your Way to Alcohol Freedom this Sober October webinar this Friday 19 September at 12:30pm ET / 5:30pm UK. If you’ve got friends doing Sober October too, invite them along! Register here: https://kickstart.90dayslater.co/fl-webinar

When you crave a drink, are you really craving the wine, or the comfort you believe it will bring? In this episode I explore the difference, because so often it is not the alcohol you actually want. It is the relief from stress, sleeplessness, pain, or just the endless chatter in your head. Once you can see that distinction, everything begins to change.

I will share real-life examples, practical tools, and a playful reframe that helps you meet your body’s need for comfort without pouring a glass. You will learn how to pause, how to experiment with new ways of caring for yourself, and how to start breaking the cycle of chasing relief that never lasts.

Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what reward could look like without the wine: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

We tell ourselves the glass in our hand is what makes a night fun. That the drink is the sparkle, the release, the reason an evening feels special. But if that were true, then people who don’t drink would never have fun — and no event could ever be enjoyable without alcohol. In this episode, I unpack why our brains confuse permission with pleasure, how alcohol piggybacks on moments we’ve already decided are “fun time,” and why those nights often come with consequences that don’t feel so fun the next day.

You’ll hear real-world examples of how fun actually gets created, plus simple tools you can use to reclaim joy without needing a glass in your hand. If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s really the drink that makes the night, this conversation will give you the proof it isn’t — and show you how to create the kind of fun that doesn’t leave you with regret.

Ready to build real freedom around alcohol? Book a free discovery call with me today here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

By the way, I’ve got something exciting coming for Sober October—a 30-day break to reset your relationship with alcohol. If you’re curious, join my email list to be the first to hear all the details. Head to https://90dayslater.co/list/

“ Holding it all together” isn’t just about your to-do list. There’s the action of doing it, the belief you should be able to do it all, and the crushing pressure of being the one everyone relies on. In this episode, I unpack those three layers and show why wine feels like the shortcut release, but never actually lightens the load.

You’ll hear real-life examples from work, home, and relationships, plus practical ways to ease the weight without needing a glass in your hand. If you’ve ever felt like drinking is the only way to exhale, this conversation will help you find new options for relief and remind you that your worth has never depended on holding it all together. Ready to create real freedom around alcohol? 

Book a free discovery call with me today: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

Last week we explored the regret that comes from not starting sooner. This week I am diving into the other kind of regret, the one that shows up the morning after when you wake up frustrated and think, “Why do I do this to myself?” On the surface, it sounds like a reasonable question. But the truth is, it is not curiosity at all, it is criticism dressed up as reflection. And that keeps you stuck.

In this episode, I will show you why that question is really a roadblock, the three common responses people fall into after a night that did not go as planned, and the one that actually leads to lasting change. If you have ever found yourself replaying the night and beating yourself up, this is the conversation that will help you step out of shame and into supportive curiosity instead. 

Listen now and then book your free discovery call with me to put this into practice in your own life: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

Ever decided to change your drinking and then been hit with the thought, “Why didn’t I do this years ago?” You are not alone. That “regret for not starting sooner” can keep you stuck before you have even built momentum. In this episode, I share why regret is one of the most pointless feelings out there and give you a simple 3-step process to drop it fast.

We will talk real-life situations like trying to make your holiday more alcohol-free but finding yourself drinking on autopilot, and how to shift from beating yourself up to actually using the lesson. 

If you have been listening to this podcast for months and waiting for the right time, this is it. Book your free call today and if you decide to start coaching with me in August, you will receive a free copy of my book The Off Switch as my summer gift so you can start making changes before our first session.

Book your call here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

You’ve taken wine off the table, but now what? In this episode, we dig into what really happens when alcohol used to be your go-to reward and nothing else seems to scratch the itch. You’ll learn why the “I deserve it” mindset feels so powerful, how your brain responds to alcohol in ways that build habit fast, and why you might feel flat or deprived without it, even if you don’t want to drink.

If you’ve stopped drinking but still feel like something’s missing, this conversation will help you understand why. And more importantly, what to do next. Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what reward could look like without the wine. 

Book your call here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

You’ve stopped drinking, but the thoughts are still there. Why? In this episode, we explore what it really means to find mental freedom, not just behavioural change. You’ll learn why thinking about alcohol all the time isn’t a sign something’s wrong with you, but a sign your brain is still working from an old script.

If you’re feeling stuck, afraid you’ll slip, or like you’re wearing someone else’s life that doesn’t quite fit, this conversation will help you understand what’s really going on. Ready to stop managing alcohol and start moving on from it? 

Book a free discovery call and let’s get to work: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

Why do we still reach for a glass of wine, even when life feels good? In this episode, we unpack the science and psychology behind the dopamine default - the pattern where wine becomes your easy button, not because you're stressed, but because your brain has learned to expect it. You'll hear why craving isn't a flaw, why dopamine isn't the problem, and what’s really going on when simple pleasures stop feeling satisfying.

If wine still feels magnetic even on the best days, this episode will change the way you see desire and help you understand what your brain is really asking for. Ready to build a different kind of default? Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what that could look like for you: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult