“I hate missing out.”

This is something I used to say on repeat. By then I had decided to change my drinking and was committed to that plan, but would sometimes feel overwhelmed with full-blown fear of missing out. And as we approach the big party season it’s something I’m being asked about more and more.

In today’s podcast I show how this fear of missing out does not have to act as a stop sign. I talk about how we can use it to question the type of person we want to be and how we are choosing to show up in the world. 

I show how getting into a spin about missing out can impact our life in more ways than just a lack of wine. And I’ll show how you can actually spin this sense of lack as a tactic to go out and get what you do want.

If this resonates, I can help you break the pattern and create lasting change. Book a free consultation call with me here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

“One more won’t hurt” is an innocuous-sounding phrase that keeps so many people stuck drinking.

It’s easy to understand why. It’s just one. What difference will that make?

In this episode, I explain why it does matter - a lot. And how this actually has nothing to do with the alcohol you want to consume. 

If you find your resolve collapsing whenever you think one more won’t hurt, then this episode is for you.

If this resonates, I can help you break the pattern and create lasting change. Book a free consultation call with me here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

Perhaps you want to stop using alcohol as a way to deal with stress and overwhelm - in fact maybe you want to stop experiencing so much overwhelm. If so you need to tune into today’s episode. 

I talk with my client Kate about what her drinking used to be like, what it looks like today and how she now sees herself in such a different light. 

If you want to stop drinking in response to the stresses of life but feel stuck, you need to talk with me. I will map the exact path to step you from where you currently are to where you want to be. And it will be more fun than you think. Talk with me and I’ll show you exactly how. Book your free consultation call here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

Anticipated pleasure is a powerful thing. It’s basically fast forwarding the tape to experience the sensation of future pleasure now. 

We do this as children when Christmas is approaching: from our minds we can create the physical sensation in our bodies of all the excitement about the presents and the fun we’ll have when Christmas finally arrives. As adults we do it with holidays - we spend time daydreaming about what we’ll do on when we’re relaxing in the sun: all the fun we’ll have, all the activities we’ll do, how wonderful it will feel.

We do the same thing with alcohol. Most people start drinking in the evenings. This gives you all day to start sensing the anticipated pleasure you will get from that first sip. You may start experiencing this way ahead of the moment when you open the bottle and pour the glass. It’s holding out a promise of release and relaxation and enjoyment that’s definitely coming later, which can help you to push through the day. 

Anticipated pleasure is powerful. In this episode I explore how we create anticipated pleasure, why it matters and how to use it to your advantage. If you want to change your relationship with alcohol, you will want to listen up.

If this resonates, I can help you break the pattern and create lasting change. Book a free consultation call with me here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

Decisions are beautiful things. They are where we find the power to create the lives we want for ourselves. How we learn to evolve into the highest version of ourselves. Every day we each take dozens, if not hundreds, of decisions. But how many do you take consciously in a way that serves you? Tune in to learn how to take back control of your decisions and create the life you want to live on purpose.

If this resonates, I can help you break the pattern and create lasting change. Book a free consultation call with me here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

Rebelling against yourself as you take steps to change your drinking can feel frustrating and infuriating - but is extremely common.

How this shows up in my world is when you decide to do something about your drinking, you sign up to do the work - whether that’s following along with me on the podcasts and taking action or when you say hey Anna I want to work with you to get results faster - then at some point you reach a point of rebellion.

You start to work against yourself, blame the tools, other people or yourself for your drinking, stop taking responsibility and self-sabotage.

Today I talk about why this happens and how it shows up. I also share four simple ways you can move out of rebellion and back into empowerment to create the results you desire.

If this resonates, I can help you break the pattern and create lasting change. Book a free consultation call with me here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

Today’s episode is for all of you who tell yourself you drink to relax. You know who you are. Come the end of the day you want to kick back and relax. It’s the end of parent duty. You’re home from the office. It’s your time. You’ve worked hard all day. It’s time to put your feet up and crack open that bottle of wine. What’s so wrong with that?

Nothing at all if you’re happy with the results you’re getting in life. 

But if you’re frustrated with not being able to relax without a glass of wine in hand or if you feel deprived and miserable on the evenings when you force yourself to go alcohol free, I’ve got you. 

Relaxing is part of the human condition. It’s a very human need.

But when we drink to relax we build a strong association between alcohol and downtime. No wonder we feel as though we’re saying no to relaxation when we say no to a drink.

If this resonates, I can help you break the pattern and create lasting change. Book a free consultation call with me here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

“I like it.”

That thought alone kept me drinking for years longer than I really wanted. My life wasn’t at rock bottom and alcohol was fun so why on earth would I want to stop?

In this episode, I explain why you don’t need to wait for motivation to strike before changing the way you drink.

If this resonates, I can help you break the pattern and create lasting change. Book a free consultation call with me here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

“I’ve got to do this right. I should know how to do it by now.”

When it comes to changing any habit all or nothing thinking shows up as striving for nothing less than perfection or throwing in the towel and saying you’ll never change.

In this episode, I explain how to spot all or nothing thinking, why it doesn’t work and what to use instead.

If this resonates, I can help you break the pattern and create lasting change. Book a free consultation call with me here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

In this episode I explain what’s at the root of your drinking habit (and the result of centuries of human evolution).

The important distinction between natural and concentrated pleasure.

Why you have what it takes to rewire your behaviour.

If this resonates, I can help you break the pattern and create lasting change. Book a free consultation call with me here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult