Struggle Care

95: How to Bring Sexy Back with Lindley Gentile, LMFT


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Do you want to bring sexy back into your life? This concept encompasses much more than actual sex, but it reaches to the inner depths of a woman’s core identity, vitality, and attitudes about life. This episode was prompted by the response to a recent TikTok in which I commented about how I’ve rediscovered things about myself here in my late 30s as my kids are a bit older and I have more time to myself. The response was big, with many questions about what I’ve done. I hate to say that there really is no big secret, but this topic is well worth exploring, so I’m bringing in my good friend, Lindley Gentile, a licensed marriage and family therapist. She is an expert who works specifically with women around rediscovering their sexiness, or perhaps, learning to discover it for the first time. 


Show Highlights:

  • Contributing factors to why women lose their individuality and sexiness
  • The roles women fall into throughout life’s phases—without any renegotiation with their partner
  • Sexiness in identity is about MUCH more than having sex.
  • Being “turned on” is about aliveness, vitality, positivity, and a vibration of your soul.
  • Care tasks create a barrier to pleasure.
  • Sex is like a playground for fun and pleasure, and the aging woman can have more fun at the playground.
  • Aging women, what they wear, and feeling sexy
  • Sexiness is about energy and how you feel.
  • False messages from society around fatphobia, suppression, and ideology
  • Fantasy is a gift and a power that can overcome our tendency to overthink.
  • Lindley’s starting point with women who want to rediscover their sexiness
  • Lindley’s recommended reading for every woman: Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski

  • Resources and Links:

    Connect with Lindley Gentile: Website, TikTok, and Austin Couples Concierge Counseling

    Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook

    Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning

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