Grief sucks. There's really no way about it.

Shock-denial-anger-depression-acceptance, and these stages are not linear y'all.

During the holiday season grief compounds and can really exemplifies any other struggles we are going through.

Strategies:

-Give yourself AND your loved ones grace: its NORMAL to cry, yell, go in to action, clean, sleep, laugh... its.all.normal.

-Remember and Honor the loved ones: find a way to build a new tradition that honors your loved one(s)

-It is OK to step away and be alone, but being sure you have someone there. Lean in to family/friends- they love you and even if they have NO idea how to help, let them however they can.

-understand you and your families baseline: understanding the symptoms of anxiety, ADHD, depression, other chronic mental health or medical issues. These can and WILL be exemplified during the grieving process and often people with these symptoms struggle to self regulate at baseline and will need more time to process simple tasks. Understand this and be aware.

-substances are NOT the answer. dulling the pain by drinking or otherwise will only delay the healing process. I am not saying you CAN'T or SHOULDN'T but I am saying to be very aware of what you are consuming and how your central nervous system will respond differently while using any substances.

The healing and grieving process can be long and a forever process; but it can be something we adopt in to your life and become aware of.

If you need professional health please PLEASE reach out;

988 for immediate assistance

585-275-8686 if you are local to Rochester

and of course PLEASE reach out to this community for non urgent follow up, I am here, we are here [email protected] or DM us on social media at all things Erin Pitt

strength, love and belief.

go set the world on fire

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On this episode of QPS, we unpack what the four core areas are of our life and how what we have created as belief systems can impact how we show up for ourselves and others 

I refer to belief systems as B.S. and sometimes what happens is we have created our own belief systems based on someone else's BS.... ;)

Often as we mature and age, we encounter situations that will challenge an existing belief system, usually causing some internal dysregulation and this will usually have a domino effect of massive discomfort. 

This is not wrong, in fact it actually often means incredible growth. 

We talk about what this means, how we can work through this and create new systems that will serve us.

Don't be afraid to challenge your thoughts and your B.S. We are always changing and evolving, its in our DNA. 

As always, I love you and go light the world on fire! 

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PS if you or someone you know would like to join us on the The Pitts or you have a topic you'd love to dive in to, please reach out to us at [email protected] 

Having some anxiety for the holiday season? Here’s some reminders on how to protect your peace

Boundaries- setting boundaries is KEY. Communicate your needs and limits to those you love.  It is OK to say no and to decline invitations that make you feel uneasy or set a limit on leaving early if needed. Protect your peace

Self care- move your body. journal. Drink the stupid water.  Do the things that BRING YOU JOY for YOU. You can not be well to anyone if you are taking care of yourself so take some time to prioritize yourself even before the holiday begins. Protect your peace. 

Gratitude- I know I know it’s Thanksgiving, but for real just sit with yourself for a few minutes and jot out what you’re grateful for.  This will ground you.  Protect your peace.

Check in- reach out to those who you know will be there for you with out judgement and do a quick mental status check in- a quick mentiB as I like to say.  Protect your peace. 

Remember, you might be anxious but you are able. 

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On this episode I jump in to the idea of imposter syndrome and how fear can show up and take over our ability to move through challenges and keep us from evolving in to who we are mean to be.

Understanding your imposter syndrome and how things you can do to mitigate the symptoms is half the battle.

One of the main things we can do to combat this is to visualize what success and happiness mean to you. When we have a clear vision of what that looks like, we can work towards this and not allow the fear to hold us back from achieving it because it has NOTHING to do with what other people define it as, but rather WHO we define ourself to be when happy.

Thank you for being here to dive in to this topic with me today and always go set the world on fire!

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Today on the Pitt Stop we dive in to emotional intelligence and how this plays a part in how we set and hold boundaries.

In order to master our boundaries we have to build and strengthen our emotional intelligence.

There are some simple strategies to this however none of this is easy; it takes practice and consistency.

Consistency isn't sexy y'all, but keep working on it, over time strengthening that mental muscle you will build an emotional intelligence you never knew you had.

as always I love you, now go set the world on fire!

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As a therapeutic coach I pride myself on being able to bring to the table the psychology behind mental health and the energetics behind mental fitness.

First and foremost knowing what you need is important; do you need to stabilize or are you ready for growth?

Therapy= Mental Health

Coaching= Mental Fitness

When looking for the right fit for you, here are the 3 main things to consider:

1. What is the therapist/coach's background (credentials, experience, education, knowledge)

2. How do I feel when engaging with them?

3. Do they embody what they teach/coach/support?

be sure to ask questions, understand yourself, know what you need and don't settle.

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Have you ever heard the saying, you are the combination of the 5 people you surround yourself with... well it's true, but really what is more important is the HABITS of the 5 people you surround yourself with.

You will behave and belief in the same things that the people you surround yourself with do as well.

Take some inventory of this in your life, do you need to shift who you are with to expand and evolve?

here are a couple ways to shift this

as always- go set the world on fire

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In a world that could paralyze you, with devastation, sadness and crisis, we get to choose how to respond.

It starts with us.

Are you living for?

Is what you're doing expanding you?

we can live with desire and gratitude. We can continue to live for ourself while still being heavily invested in our tribe.

go set the world on fire <3

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When we feel like the world is spinning out of control, when there is violence and struggle and hatred and negativity

we have to be able to ground ourself back to center, we have to be able to take control of the ONLY thing we have control over and that is ourself.

three things we can do ON OUR OWN to take back control of our body and mind is

1. move

2. look at your thoughts from a different lens

3. gratitude

give yourself so much grace through times of global difficulty.

as always

go set the world on fire

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