Hello podcast listeners!

I'm Peg Fong, writer and creator of "Alone Together."

We are continuing our journey exploring loneliness...in Spanish: "Juntos en soledad."

Listen to this new adaptation presented by business professor and producer Guillermo Serrano (@guilloserrano).

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We are living in lonely times, but the human conditions make us wonder, are we alone in our loneliness? 

And that answer is clear. 

Somewhere, someone else is taking off for the unknown, moving to small towns or hitting the road to start a new life.

We can understand loneliness when we peer up into the sky or see celebrities doing ordinary things, when we laugh at comedians and still feel sad because we recognize their loneliness. 

And we may not be hermit crabs or whales in the ocean or rare birds or lone wolves, but the way animals behave tells us something about loneliness and isolation. There’s solace in discovering we all need a shell and we are allowed to grow out of that shell, or we need to be apart from others like lone wolves. 

We can see it in clouds or in comics, read it in words and feel loneliness in our silence, in remembering and in those times when we can’t sleep or want to talk to someone else sitting on a bench.

Those are the lessons in loneliness that come from understanding the way we see ourselves and the world around us as we wrap up with the final episode of this season. 

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Benches are places in public spaces where people can sit by themselves. They are special because they’re not just a place to sit, 

they’re spots available to anyone and that availability turns benches into opportunities for connections.

Benches are bridges between those eager to chat, and those wanting to just listen. 

When we sit on a bench, we’re indicating we’re part of a world that maybe we feel too lonely or afraid to fully participate in.

Benches give us an opportunity to be engaged in our surroundings whether it's observing from the side or opening up a chance for conversation.

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The first multiple blind dates in the world are believed to have taken place in April 1827. The story goes that Thomas Swain, a 52 year old bachelor, had vowed to take the first woman to step ashore the world’s most remote island. Her name was Sarah Jacobs, a widow, and Thomas Swain took her hand as soon as she put her foot on the island. The four other women who had arrived with Sarah Jacobs married the four other bachelors on the island. 

From those beginnings, the island population at Tristan da Cunha grew exponentially. 

By 1832, just five years after the five women arrived, Tristan had a population of 34--22 of them children. 

The solitary outpost which had been a British garrison had become a community.

Today, it is still the most isolated island in the world where people live and Tristan da Cunha is located in the middle of the ocean between two continents.  The residents who live there, all 247 of them, understand a type of loneliness like no one else. But their isolation has, for hundreds of years, been a place that others have learned from: how to survive away from anyone else.

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We Don’t Talk About Bruno, the number 1 hit song, written by Lin-Manual Miranda for the Disney movie Encanto, is all about a member of the Madrigal family who no one talks about, Bruno. 

Encanto is a movie about family, but it’s also about trauma and how families connect, separate and become estranged.

For a Disney movie, there are some very heavy themes, including war and violence and ruptures within what family members expect from each other and what they can’t accept. 

We all have been told and taught that family bonds are unbreakable but for many, family is their pain, and these relationships are broken. 

There’s a certain type of loneliness that comes from being estranged from family, in choosing to depart from the ties that are part of our genetics and our lineage. 

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Sleep is often viewed as something that takes us away from social interactions. We have to give up sleep in order to be social. Sometimes, it’s very tempting to stay home and sleep rather than be with others. 

But when you think about it, sleep is actually something that connects us to each other. 

Because without sleep, we lose the motivation to socially interact with others.

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Imagine forgetting John Lennon.

It isn’t hard to do when collective memory fades. 

We remember things because they have meaning for us and we forget things because other things become more important.

Seeing people and hearing songs that aren’t part of our day-to-day conversation brings with it a sense of nostalgia, a longing for the past, and a remembrance of what had been. And in that longing and in those memories, we form a connection to what had been things or people who once mattered to us and then, the realization of all that has been lost. 

Is it that realization that makes us lonely, or does the loneliness come when we remember what was once real. 

How does nostalgia become a way for us to forget our loneliness?

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The Saddest Day of the Year will apparently be on Monday, January 17, 2022. It’s called Blue Monday by some, and there’s even a formulation for how the date was decided. It’s a combination of weather, the due date of our credit card bills from our holiday spending and the failure of our ability to keep our New Year’s resolutions. It’s the cold reality that we failed at budgeting, exercising, finishing our novels or thesis, eating better, and learning a new language.

There’s a version of Blue Monday in Denmark--called Bla Mandag and it has nothing to do with sadness. It’s actually a day for spending money and spending time with others. Blue Monday in Denmark happens in the spring when young people go shopping after their confirmation the day before on Sunday. Bla Mandag is when young people get together -- they get the day off school -- to go spend the money they received, head to restaurants, and celebrate. It is blue for the blue skies that emerge after a long cold winter. When we want to escape from loneliness, what we may be seeking is the warmth of another person. And when we’re feeling cold, we crave connections.

Temperature can regulate our loneliness and how we warm up or cool down is based on social interactions. Huddle around this episode, where it’s warm and cozy-or cool and refreshing--depending on your needs at this moment.

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A lone wolf named Takaya was spotted living on an island by himself and stayed there in isolation for eight years. Despite all the odds, on an island where there was no natural food source, Takaya survived.

A lone wolf doesn’t fit in with the pack. A lone wolf is a strong and powerful wolf who wants to go off on their own and seek their own territory and let others stay in the family pack. 

Takaya lived on his own and there are lessons we can learn from lone wolves.

There are some people--and some animals--that prefer to be on their own, to figure out for themselves what they can do when they choose to leave the familiar for the unfamiliar. In the animal kingdom, there are lone wolves. Animals who break off from their families, their relatives and even their own offspring in order to form their own family of one. And when they strike out on their lonely journey, they leave behind tension and conflict with others who are part of their group. For lone wolves, it’s better to be on their own, than part of a pack. 

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The key to the song of silence is personal and internal.

In troubled times, people have endured silence as a way to learn to live in solitude. 

Silence makes us lonelier, some say, and others say it’s just silence and it’s the only way we can learn to live with being alone.

The default thinking is that being alone with only our thoughts swirling in our heads is destructive, negative. A constant cul-de-sac that leads nowhere. But silence allows us to listen to our innermost feelings and silence leads to an understanding of who we are- it helps us when we need it most critically – in stressful situations. 

Silence has a message for us wanting to understand loneliness.

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