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If you have high-functioning anxiety, over-thinking, over-worrying and over-responsibility are probably going to be familiar to you. They make us think about made-up scenarios in negative ways, which have a reaction in the body and cause panic and overwhelm and make us behave in ways that we wouldn't have otherwise. It's so important to get to the root of your generalisations, and so in today's episode I'm sharing a bit about a recent client I had who I helped stop the excessive worry and over-thinking. She's given me permission to share a little about how these traits affected her and what overcoming it has allowed her to feel instead. 

Today I'll be discussing:

• Common traits for high-functioning anxiety
• The impact of worry on the nervous system
• What you subconsciously believe worrying excessively is helping you to do
• Finding out what's really going on behind your generalisations

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A big part of hyper-independence protection levels is over-responsibility - having an innate need to try to control all aspects of your life, for yourself and other people, in the hope that if you take on that responsibility, you can prevent anything bad happening around you. What we often find though, is this never actually happens. It doesn't reduce your anxiety and you end up making decisions alone because at least that way, if something goes wrong you can say "it's on me". It's a really complex topic that I'm only brushing the surface of today, but it's so important because it can cause a lot of overwhelm, fear of taking time off and burnout. If this is sounding all too familiar, dive into today's episode!

Today I'm talking about:

• Over-responsibility and trying to control everything in your life
• Perfectionism and the different avenues it can show up in
• Operating from within high-functioning anxiety and false regulation
• The balance of masculine and feminine energies
• My October retreat!

If you're interested in joining us in October for group coaching, please get in contact with me via Instagram or email and I will be more than happy to have a chat with you!

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Trust is such a monumental part of being human - who do we trust, who don't we trust, which businesses do we trust, where do we put our trust aside and take the risk, do we know fully what we are putting our trust into or have we been misled? It's a massive topic with a huge number of avenues to go down, but in today's podcast episode I'm joined by Sarah Gold, who is founder of a web design and strategy company called Projects By If. Her aim is to help organisations and individuals design trust into data enabled services. She wants to make trustworthiness in the products and services we all rely on the expectation and not the exception. This conversation builds on a few solo episodes I've had on the podcast before, so if you enjoyed episode 18, "What Thread Got Pulled?" or episode 4, "Are You Burning Out on Your Way to Authenticity?", you'll be sure to love this one!

Today Sarah and I are chatting about:

• Who and what we trust and where we are more or less concerned about it
• Where FOMO and digital platforms encourage us to put our trust to one side
• Our loss of patience as humans and adding friction into choices
• Sharing personal data and stories with others
• Separating yourself from your personal brand
• Gaining your customers' trust as a business

If you loved this conversation or want to work with Sarah, you can connect with her on LinkedIn here or on her website, projectsbyif.com.

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Welcome to the first ever guest episode on "And What Else?"! Today I'm joined by the wonderful Dr Sophie Mort, who is a registered Clinical Psychologist and Sunday Times Bestselling Author. Our conversation went in depth on a lot of topics I've touched on in the podcast before, such as hyper-independence and distracting yourself from the real problems. Sophie is also the British Mental Health Expert at Headspace and her aim is to break down and share the information usually kept behind closed therapy room doors, inside stuffy old textbooks, and in the ivory towers of universities. This conversation will be sure to keep you thinking on how you can start to prevent rock bottom moments, build your way up to being rejection-proof (it's not actually what you think!) and how you can teach yourself to embrace rest. If there's anyone in particular you think would be great for me to interview on the podcast, please send their details my way!

Today Sophie and I are discussing:

• Being proactive with your mental health
• Hyper-independence as a coping strategy in different life areas
• Productivity anxiety and the feeling of not doing enough
• Overcorrection and intergenerational patterns
• The fear of death and if it's actually a fear of not having lived
• Rejection therapy and aiming for average

You can find Dr Soph on her website at https://drsoph.com/, on Instagram @_drsoph. Her books, Unstuck and A Manual for Being Human can be purchased through links found on her website.

If you've enjoyed this episode, please leave me a review and subscribe! And if you want to learn more from me, come and say hello on Instagram @thecompletioncoach or via email at [email protected] or find out more about working with me on my website, thecompletioncoach.co.uk.

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I wanted to start the conversation today around the topic of hyper-independence. I haven't fully percolated on it yet, but it's a really important discussion for us to have as there are many people out there who feel they have to make decisions alone, otherwise they think they'll be a burden or be abandoned. They don't feel like they belong anywhere and so they face the world alone, without letting anyone else in. It can be a really hard position to be in, so I wanted to open up the discussion today and I would love to hear from you if you feel like you have something you'd like to add to it!

Today I'm discussing:

• What is hyper-independence?
• Why others see hyper-independent people as strong and capable, but they feel weak inside
• The difference between alone and lonely
• How hyper-independence develops from childhood

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Way back in some of my earlier episodes I spoke about generalisations and how they allow us to focus on other things and keep ourselves distracted. While we're focusing on our distractions, it allows us to completely ignore what we really need to look at. This is the basis of all the coaching I do and I'm often saying the phrase "the presenting problem is never the problem". In today's episode, I'm going into why we can't just force ourselves to carry out the steps that we think we can see to "fix" our distractions and why we can't do this from a place of frustration. Tune in to find out more!

Today I'm diving into:

• The fact that we humans love distractions
• Why our distractions aren't the problem we need to focus on
• Dealing with the emotional residue of why we aren't taking the steps we need to take
• Why we don't want to follow our frustration

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With almost perfect timing, I "recorded" this episode without actually pressing record - so this version is my second one! It ties in amazingly with the topic I'm discussing today which is about what is in your control. I've had a lot of conversations with people recently about things we feel are outside of our control, getting frustrated by things happening based on others' decisions and a lot of comments of "it's not my fault" and "what else can I do". These are such highly emotive statements and feelings, and so often people just give up at this people and don't actually take steps towards the thing they think they can't have, but do actually want. Is this resonating with you? Tune into today's episode to hear my thoughts on what's really in your control.

In today's episode, we're covering:

• The way I really feel about my podcast!
• The "when X happens, things will change" thought process
• What true self-care really is
• Why we talk critically to ourselves

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Have you joined Threads yet? Did you read those pesky terms and conditions before you accepted your account there, or did you just dive in head first? I have a feeling I know what your answer is! I've joined, and (surprise!) I also didn't read the T&Cs. All the discussion around the new app, the way it's linked with Instagram and hasn't launched in the EU because of data security concerns have prompted a whole lot of internal thoughts for me that I wanted to share with you. And it led me to relate this all back to us as humans, how we often ignore things and pretend that we won't have to worry about them. It's definitely an in depth topic that I'm only skimming over today, but if you've been drawn into all the Threads excitement, today's episode might just give you pause to step back and really think about what you're giving your energy to in the future.

Today we'll be chatting about:

• The mindset of being an early adopter of Threads
• Reading the terms and conditions before signing up for things
• People talking about acting differently on Threads (and asking others to change, too)
• How social media is like reality TV

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Today's post is inspired by a post I made a few weeks ago, where I talked about the silence of people that can't cheer for you and how you may only be cheering for yourself in secret. Consider the reasons that you aren't cheering for yourself publicly - do you feel like what you're doing isn't big enough, important enough or that people won't like it or understand? There are so many reasons, and all of them are holding you back from celebrating yourself out in the open, which we need to do if we're going to reconfigure the way we're storing data about ourselves. It's a really important topic, so if you wish you could be more open and proud about your achievements, jump in to today's episode.

Today we're diving into:

• Why you might be holding yourself back from supporting yourself publicly
• Refusing to acknowledge what you have achieved
• The reason we might struggle to celebrate other people
• Why you are muting people who activate you
• Gatekeeper energies

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Today I'm wanting to talk about the topic of self trust and how important it is - even though it's not a logical thing at all. Trust in itself is not logical, it's really just a feeling that we get through actions and we can't always put a finger on what the exact feeling is, but we just have a knowing around. People are always quite baffled as to why they don't trust themselves which comes out in an emotional, young response. I have a lot of thoughts on this topic so if you feel like you might not trust yourself, listen in!

In this episode I'm chatting about:

• The importance of self-trust and why it isn't logical
• The idea that it takes 21 days to form or break a habit
• Your true self vs your presented self in different systems
• Repairing when someone reacts badly

If you've enjoyed this episode, please leave me a review and subscribe! And if you want to learn more from me, come and say hello on Instagram @thecompletioncoach or via email at [email protected] or find out more about working with me on my website, thecompletioncoach.co.uk.