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Today I'm wanting to talk about the topic of self trust and how important it is - even though it's not a logical thing at all. Trust in itself is not logical, it's really just a feeling that we get through actions and we can't always put a finger on what the exact feeling is, but we just have a knowing around. People are always quite baffled as to why they don't trust themselves which comes out in an emotional, young response. I have a lot of thoughts on this topic so if you feel like you might not trust yourself, listen in!

In this episode I'm chatting about:

• The importance of self-trust and why it isn't logical
• The idea that it takes 21 days to form or break a habit
• Your true self vs your presented self in different systems
• Repairing when someone reacts badly

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Even when you're in self-development and have done a lot of the internal work, explored your blocks, beliefs and limits, something we all have in common is the human experience - part of being alive! Sometimes life throws all sort of different things at us - something goes wrong while we're on holiday, a podcast episode doesn't save correctly, or you're having a brilliant day at work and pick up your phone to find bad news - and part of being a human being is learning how to cope with all of this. We all go through it, but some people appear to go through it easier than others - why is that? That's the topic I'll be exploring in today's episode, so if you feel like it takes you 3 days to come back after a setback, you'll want to listen in to this one!

Today we're diving into:

• The highs and lows of the human experience
• Flexible discipline and consistency vs constancy
• Replacing the word "but" with "and"
• Cut my nose off to spite my face" energy

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Over the years, there's a response I've noticed people receive when they say they are in coaching or therapy and that's that they're mentally weak, have poor mental health, been through something awful or are suffering with grief or abuse. It's often seen as more of a negative thing that they need help, rather than a positive thing. I've experienced it myself, when I see judgement on people's faces when they hear what I do. What I want to touch on in today's episode, is that I really don't think it's a negative thing at all! To be willing to do the inner work, be open-minded about healing parts of yourself that you didn't even know were unhealed and being aware of things in your life you'd like to change, makes you such a strong, coachable person.

Today I'm covering:

• The idea that coaching or therapy is negative
• Being as conscious of your mental health as you are of your physical health
• What causes people reach out to therapists and coaches
• Being open-minded enough to be willing to get help to make changes in your life

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In the last episode, we touched on what we "make things mean" in our lives, which is a huge part of any coaching relationship. If we find that we're being reactive, self-sabotaging or unable to make changes that we want to make, the thing that gets in the way more often than not is "what we're making it mean" that we don't realise we're making it mean.

Today we're going into:

• Generalisations and how they help us avoid what we're really doing
• Developing controlling behaviours of self-sabotage
• The fear of what having the perks of a change means about you
• Internal childlike conflict

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There's so many times in our lives where we attach meaning to things that don't really need to mean anything - particularly numbers. We're this size so it means this, what it means about people who have X amount of friends, how much money we have in the bank means this about us, and it's so interesting that we can take a situation, attach a number to it and suddenly it means something about us and the way we live our lives. It fascinates me on so many levels because the meaning we attach to something is so much bigger than what is actually going on!

Today I'm covering:

• Attaching meaning to numbers in our lives
• How other people can plant seeds and change our beliefs
• Examples from my own life where people have made my decision (or non-decision!) mean something
• Knowing our values, how they look externally and how we deal with them internally

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"Feeling stuck" is something that comes up a lot for my one-to-one clients. We feel like things are beyond us, there's nothing we can do and that it's not our fault that these things keeps happening to us. We feel like we have no more choices or decisions left and we are just waiting for life to make its decisions for us. However, what I've found is actually the case is that if you're feeling stuck, you're actually just making the same decision over and over again, thinking that this is just the way things have to be and are acting on autopilot. We need to move from making decisions out of frustration to making them out of desire! Is "stuck" a word you would use to describe your day-to-day? Jump in to today's episode!


Today I'll be diving into:

• Feeling like you have no choices
• What happens when we approach our lives from an unresourced place
• Conflict avoidance
• Making decisions from a place of frustration vs a place of desire

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Firstly, I can't believe we're in double figures in the podcast now! In episode 10, I'm diving deeper into those ingrained thoughts that we have about ourselves - "I'm not someone who...", "I can't do...", "I don't wear..." and discussing how we've come to those conclusions and what happens if we consider the alternatives. This episode was inspired by a couple of quotes I've heard recently around being the byproduct of the five people you're surrounded with most and why we say we don't like things when we've never tried them. I always love looking at alternative angles so if you're ready to question whether you really don't like marmite or have just been influenced by someone else, this episode is for you!

Today I'm talking about:

• Outsourcing ourselves for validation
• Holding ourselves back when in certain environments
• Why it's important to be surrounded by people who have different viewpoints
• The influences that we come under in our daily lives
• Challenging yourself when you say "I don't like that"

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The main link between everyone I work with one-to-one is being an overachiever because it soothes their emotional avoidance. This is what has created their success and they are usually masking some level of high-functioning anxiety without even knowing they're doing it. They are dependable, good in a crisis and know their stuff. But eventually, they'll hit emotional burnout  and this is when they come to work with me. If this is landing for you, just know that you're not alone!


In today's episode, we're covering:

• The effect of emotional avoidance on success
• Emotional burnout vs physical burnout
• How the human experience, though individual, actually connects us
• The truth about what empaths really are
• Not knowing what to do with your emotions

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In today's world of over-consumption and instant gratification, it's so easy to dive into self-development and think you're going to get standardised outcomes in week 4, month 5 or year 2 or any other milestone you can think of. I'm here to tell you that that's not the case. It's a constant, ongoing process that you need to keep working at and being patient with. I find that we like to do an awful lot of education and appear as if we're making progress, but in actual fact we're just avoiding doing the actual application of what we've learned - which is the important bit!

Today, I'll be discussing:

• Consumption vs application
• The search for something new
• The questions that might come up on your self-development journey and why they're the wrong ones
• Letting go of distractions and getting into your ugly truth
• Observing vs judging
• How much honesty are you prepared to put in?

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There's a common thread that links all the clients who work with me and that's that they are often overachievers who feel like underachievers - and they also don't realise they're hyper-independent. If you're drawn to listening to my podcast and have enjoyed the first six episodes, this is likely you, too! People who have these struggles (without realising) are very disconnected from their emotions and are subconsciously doing this as a way to cope, leading them to be quite good at handling pressure and stress. People also may often come to them for assistance with stressful situations as they are very logical thinkers. Is any of this catching your attention? Listen in!


Today we'll be covering:

• How your caregivers affected the way you handle your emotions now
• Why overachieving gives you a feeling of self-worth
• How your coping mechanisms are actually leading you to burn out
• What fuels high standards, perfectionism and avoidance
• Accidental leaders who feel they don't have leadership skills
• The false benefit that comes from overachieving

If you've enjoyed this episode, please leave me a review and subscribe! And if you want to learn more from me, come and say hello on Instagram @thecompletioncoach or via email at [email protected] or find out more about working with me on my website, thecompletioncoach.co.uk.