Friendship is complicated, as detailed in the book MODERN FRIENDSHIP; How to Nurture our most valued connections by Anna Goldfarb. Anna is a journalist, author and speaker, known as “The New York Times' friendship correspondent.” On today’s podcast we look at why it’s so hard to communicate disappointment to our friends, how mourning the loss of a friendship differs from mourning a romantic relationship, and why being considered somebody’s best friend is so much more valuable…than having one. Anna says we must renegotiate our friendships as life changes their shape, rather than thinking it will all work out magically. 

The connective tissue of long-term friendships used to be shared community, but most modern friendships no longer work that way…so in each friendship Anna explains that there has to be a WHY. And lest you think that new friends come easily enough…keep in mind that it takes about 200 hours to build a new best friendship. Do you really think you have that kind of time?