Back in January, my son and I were testing for our next tae kwon do belt. I had just started tae kwon do 2 months earlier after quitting 30 years ago, so I was excited to do it with my son. Long story short, my ex, who had picked him up from school, texted me and said he didn’t want to go to my testing because he was tired and had a long day.  I was incensed by this.  I told her she wasn’t teaching him the right thing about how to support a family member, that we were making memories together.  I insisted that he come with me. She said she was surprised how selfish and narcissistic I was being. She later said to me, do you know how much he is in engaged in tae kwon do to make you happy?