We are given so many conflicting ideas about how to do sex or have sex. You’ve got to be dominant and lead. You’ve got to make sure you talk about and get consent for everything you do. You gotta make sure you please your partner.  You gotta focus on pleasing yourself. You’ve gotta schedule sex.  You’ve gotta be spontaneous. You should tap into your fantasies. You shouldn’t be so lost in fantasy. You should be focused solely on your partner and not think about other people. You should have sex a lot if you’re healthy. You shouldn’t be so focused on having sex all the time. You should only have sex in the context of a loving monogamous relationship. You should be free to have more than one partner. It goes on and on. How can we ever feel like we’re doing sex right?

In this episode of the Nice Guys Show, host Ari Graff opens up about his personal struggles as a life coach.  He emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and seeking support, highlighting that even coaches face difficulties and uncertainties. The conversation delves into the emotional toll of change, the burden of expectations, and the need for connection and understanding among men.

In this episode of the Nice Guys Show, host Faisal Khokhar opens up about his personal struggles as a life coach, particularly focusing on the challenges of parenting and navigating a business transition. He emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and seeking support, highlighting that even coaches face difficulties and uncertainties. The conversation delves into the emotional toll of change, the burden of expectations, and the need for connection and understanding among men.

In this episode of the Nice Guys Show, host Chuck Chapman opens up about his personal struggles as a life coach, particularly focusing on the challenges of parenting and navigating a business transition. He emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and seeking support, highlighting that even coaches face difficulties and uncertainties. The conversation delves into the emotional toll of change, the burden of expectations, and the need for connection and understanding among men.

Nice Guys aren’t being nice—they're being manipulative, using approval-seeking and people-pleasing as a way to control how women see them, all because they’re too afraid to be rejected for who they really are.

When it comes to women and men, I’ve come to the realization that it’s insecurity that drives us to seek approval from women. It’s subtle, often invisible, but it’s there—this craving for validation, for someone to tell us we’re enough. But here’s the thing: no matter how much approval we chase, it’s never going to fill the gap. It’s a hollow pursuit. 

Real maturity, real grounding, happens when we let go of that need, when we realize that our worth isn’t something that can be handed to us by someone else. It’s already inside, waiting to be claimed. 

The moment a man stops seeking validation from women, he becomes a mature integrated man.

Got a guy with a situation involving his mother and wife.

He’s newly married, and they all live together—him, his wife, and his mother.

It all started well. Everyone got along, and they were one happy family.

But after a few months, fractures start to appear.

The mother starts interfering, picking faults with his wife, and that’s when the tension starts building.

Now, this guy’s caught in the middle.

He’s trying to please his mum and his wife, but no matter what he does, things just keep getting worse.

Now they can’t stand each other anymore and they’ve both turned on him to man up.

Both of them are using guilt and shame to manipulate him.

His mum says, ‘Your wife’s taking you for a ride,’ while his wife says, ‘You never stand up to your mum.’ So no matter what, he can’t win.

What is the first thing you do when you wake up? Do you hit the snooze bar? Do you hate the world, hate your life, hate your job? Do you feel like the day is another day to get through? Do you scroll through instagram? Do you rush to get ready? Do you struggle with what to prioritize that day? Well good news, today we are going to explain what you must have in your morning routine to change your life.  

If you’ve been into relationship development, you would have heard about Masculine & Feminine Energies and how important they are to relationships. 

Men are grounded, stable, like a lighthouse. The feminine is ever-changing emotions and she is the storm.

Men need to weather the storm.

Really? 

Now, I don’t know about you, but this statement or something like this keeps men in harmful relationships

In this episode, let’s look

The Dark Side Of Masculine & Feminine Energy That Enables Toxic Relationship Patterns

Have you ever wanted to get your partner to be nicer? To help out more around the house? To get in shape and lose weight? To like sex or even like sex with you? To like your parents? To earn some money?  How much can you get your partner to change?

If you want to create polarity, attraction, and connection in a relationship, it’s up to you to lead. I know, it’s not fair!

A lot of the men I work with ask, "What about her? When is it her turn to lead?" And women often say, "I want to lead too."

Why is this?

Nice Guys tend to avoid leading in their relationships because they fear rejection or upsetting their partners. So they hand over the reins.

But here’s the thing. When a man won’t lead, the woman feels she can’t trust him. She starts to resent him. At first, she might appreciate his attentiveness, but soon enough, she sees him as having no backbone, making no decisions, always leaving the pressure to her.

It’s not about control. It’s about presence. Strength. The courage to lead with love. And when you do, you’ll find that the connection, the attraction, the polarity you crave, it all falls into place.