You second-guess every decision. You overthink every conversation. You're constantly worried about doing the wrong thing, upsetting someone, or messing up. Sound familiar? That's what we're diving into in this episode: why nice guys don't trust themselves — and how that lack of self-trust is sabotaging every relationship in their lives.

Chuck, Ari, and Faisal get real about their own struggles with self-doubt, people-pleasing, and that paralyzing fear of being wrong. Because here's the brutal truth: if you don't trust yourself, nobody else will either. Not your partner, not your kids, not your team.

We break down:

Why nice guys outsource their decisions and avoid conflict at all costs

How childhood programming taught us that being "good" is more important than being honest

The shame spiral that keeps men stuck in analysis paralysis

Why women can sense when you don't trust yourself (and why it's such a turn-off)

Practical steps to rebuild self-trust through consistency and accountability
How to stop looking for validation and start validating your own decisions
The power of leaning into tension instead of always taking the easy way out
This isn't just about making better decisions — it's about reclaiming your masculine core and becoming the kind of man who knows what he thinks, what he wants, and where he's going.

If you've been living someone else's blueprint instead of your own, this conversation will wake you up. Time to stop asking for permission and start trusting yourself.

You think you're being careful and thoughtful. She thinks you're weak and can't lead.

In this episode of The Nice Guy Show, Ari, Chuck, and Faisal expose how indecisiveness is secretly destroying your relationships and keeping you trapped in mediocrity. From Ari's embarrassing wedding speech where he called himself "the Obama of the relationship" (the deliberator), to Chuck's printer research marathons, to Faisal walking his hangry date around for an hour looking for the "perfect" restaurant.
Here's what you'll discover:

Why nice guys mistake overthinking for wisdom (and how it backfires)
The brutal truth about being "Captain Indecisive" in your marriage
How fear of making the wrong choice guarantees you'll make no choice at all

Why asking "what do you think?" kills attraction faster than anything else
The restaurant power move that separates leaders from followers
How successful people make decisions with incomplete information (and why you need 100%)

Why your "committee of mediocrity" is keeping you stuck
The bedroom decisiveness test most nice guys fail miserably
The wake-up call you need: While you're researching and deliberating, other men are taking action and getting results. Your indecisiveness isn't protecting you from failure - it IS the failure.
Ari shares how he burned the boats on his therapy practice to go all-in on coaching. Chuck reveals how his wife became the family decision-maker (and why that's a problem). Faisal breaks down why differentiated men decide quickly while enmeshed nice guys stay paralyzed.
Stop asking everyone else what you should do. Start trusting yourself enough to choose.

Connect with Faisal Khokhar:
https://masculine.co/
https://5fractures.com/
https://www.instagram.com/masculinecharisma/

Connect with Chuck Chapman: 
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https://www.instagram.com/chuckchapman.ma/

Connect with Dr. Ari Graff:
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www.youtube.com/@AriGraff

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Ari, Chuck, and Faisal dive deep into one of the biggest complaints they hear from men: "My wife never initiates sex anymore." Whether you're in a dead bedroom situation, feeling like you're always chasing, or wondering if you stopped initiating whether sex would happen at all… this conversation is going to open your eyes.

We get into:

Why "it's always the masculine's job to initiate" might actually be true
The difference between initiation and seduction (and why women do it differently)

How you've probably been approaching sex all wrong — like a "sexual camel" waiting for water

Why your wife isn't initiating (hint: it's not about her libido)
The real reason men crave initiation from women (it's not what you think)
How to rebuild attraction and polarity when the spark has died
Why being a "nice guy" who does the honey-do list isn't foreplay
The connection between sex appeal, effort, and actually being desirable
This one's for every man who's ever thought "Why am I always the one?" or "She used to want me all the time." Listen. Learn. Start showing up differently. Because the problem isn't that she doesn't want sex — it's that she doesn't want sex with the man you've become.
Time to change that.

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https://instagram.com/chuckchapman.ma/

Connect with Dr. Ari Graff:
https://drarigraff.com/
https://draribgraff.com/register [divorce recovery program]
https://youtube.com/@AriGraff

Ari went on three dates with an attractive, successful woman. He paid for the first two dates (including a $200 dinner), then asked her to pay for the third. She immediately went cold and ghosted him completely. Sound familiar? In this episode, we break down exactly what happened — what Ari did right, what went wrong, and the deeper dynamics at play when it comes to who pays for dates in 2025.

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari get real about:
The primal vs. conscious expectations around dating and money
Why "I like to be spoiled" in her profile was a red flag he missed
How paying for expensive early dates creates the wrong frame
The difference between leading with money vs. leading authentically
Why asking her to pay felt like a "test" — and what her reaction revealed
How to call out the "elephant in the room" when things get awkward
The covert contracts we create when we try to impress women with resources

Why high-value men assess women instead of trying to impress them
Setting the right expectations from date one (without being cheap)
Whether you're wondering if you should split the bill, tired of always paying, or confused about modern dating dynamics, this episode will help you get clear on your approach. We've all been there — now we help men navigate dating from a place of authenticity instead of desperation.
Stop trying to buy her interest. Start assessing if she's actually worth yours.

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Connect with Faisal Khokhar:
https://masculine.co/
https://instagram.com/coachfaisalk
https://youtube.com/@coachfaisalk

Connect with Chuck Chapman: 
https://chuckchapman.com/
https://instagram.com/chuckchapman.ma/

Connect with Dr. Ari Graff:
https://drarigraff.com/
https://draribgraff.com/register [divorce recovery program]
https://youtube.com/@AriGraff

Most guys never learned how to lead in the bedroom — or last long enough to even enjoy it.

In this episode of The Nice Guy Show, we’re talking about what really satisfies her… and it’s probably not what you think.

Former top adult film star Erik Everhard joins Ari, Chuck, and Faisal to break down the hidden causes of sexual performance anxiety — and why confidence in the bedroom starts in your mind, not in your pants.
Whether you’re single, dating, or married… this conversation will blow up some myths and give you real, actionable tools to become a more powerful, grounded, and present lover.

We get into:
Why most men are overly focused on her pleasure (and totally disconnected from their own)

The difference between psychological and physical erections (yes, there’s a difference — and you need both)

How “staying in your lane” is the key to overcoming comparison, self-doubt, and shame

The 4 sexual archetypes and how to lead with intention, not perform for approval

Why porn kills your confidence — and how to rebuild real sexual intelligence

The truth about dominance vs. leadership in bed

This episode is NOT about cheap tricks, pickup lines, or ego flexes.
It’s about training your nervous system. Building belief. Getting grounded. And becoming the kind of man who owns the moment — with calm, focused presence.
If you’ve ever struggled with performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, porn use, or just not feeling like the man in the bedroom… this is a must-listen.
You don’t need to be a porn star to have legendary sex.
 You just need the right mindset, tools, and training.
Let’s go.

In this episode of The Nice Guy Show, Faisal, Chuck, and Ari flip the script on one of the most dreaded life events a man can face: divorce.
Is it the end — or could it be the beginning of something far better?

All three of us have been through it. And in this honest, hilarious, and deeply reflective conversation, we explore:
Why divorce might be the best gift your ex ever gave you

How breakup pain can wake you up — and grow you up

The upside of being alone (and why it's not something to fear)

Why many men become better fathers because of divorce

How setting boundaries, reclaiming leadership, and redefining love starts after the marriage ends

What most men get wrong about “compatibility” — and how to choose the right woman next time

Whether you're in the middle of a divorce, still stuck years after one, or afraid to pull the plug on a dying marriage — this one’s for you. Divorce doesn’t have to be the end of your story. It can be the catalyst for your comeback.

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https://masculine.co/
https://instagram.com/coachfaisalk
https://youtube.com/@coachfaisalk

Connect with Chuck Chapman: 
https://chuckchapman.com/
https://instagram.com/chuckchapman.ma/

Connect with Dr. Ari Graff:
https://drarigraff.com/
https://draribgraff.com/register [divorce recovery program]
https://youtube.com/@AriGraff

In this raw and honest episode, Faisal, Chuck, and Ari dive deep into the messy reality of divorce for Nice Guys. If you're going through a divorce or recently divorced, this conversation will hit you right in the gut — and then lift you back up. 

We explore:

What it means to "Nice Guy your divorce" (and why we all do it)
The brutal truth about caretaking your ex while your world falls apart
Why you oscillate between "let me help you" and "screw you" during divorce
How fear of conflict keeps you trapped in financial and emotional quicksand

The shame and stigma that makes divorce feel like failure (when it's actually a gift)

Why jumping into rebound relationships is emotional suicide
The three pillars of becoming a Resilient Man: Reframe, Reclaim, Rebuild
How to use your divorce as a catalyst for the biggest growth of your life
Why learning to be alone is the secret to never being a Nice Guy again
Whether you're in the thick of divorce proceedings, recently single, or supporting a friend through this journey — this episode offers hope, practical wisdom, and a roadmap to your most powerful chapter yet.
Divorce isn't the end of your story. It's the beginning of who you were meant to become.

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https://youtube.com/@coachfaisalk

Connect with Chuck Chapman: 
https://chuckchapman.com/
https://instagram.com/chuckchapman.ma/

Connect with Dr. Ari Graff:
https://drarigraff.com/
https://draribgraff.com/register [divorce recovery program]
https://youtube.com/@AriGraff

In this episode, Faisal, Chuck, and Ari tackle one of the most triggering phrases for modern men: “Man up.”

You’ve heard it. Maybe you’ve been shamed by it. 
But what if — just maybe — it’s a wake-up call we actually need?

In this deep and vulnerable conversation, we explore:

- Why “man up” can feel like a slap — or a step forward
- The difference between boy energy and masculine leadership
- Why indecisiveness is killing connection in relationships
- How to be more than just a provider — and step into integrated manhood
- How trauma, ADHD, and personal stories shape (but don’t define) your masculinity
- Why owning your flaws might be the manliest move you ever make

Whether you’re a recovering Nice Guy, a man seeking more meaning, 
or a woman trying to understand the men in her life — this one’s for you.

It’s time to redefine masculinity. Not by shame, but by truth, courage, and growth.

Like. Comment. Subscribe. And share this with the man who needs to hear it.

Listen now — your future self will thank you.
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Connect with Chuck Chapman: 
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Connect with Dr. Ari Graff:
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https://draribgraff.com/register [divorce recovery program]
https://youtube.com/@AriGraff

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Most guys don’t even see it coming. One day everything seems fine, and the next… she’s done. Moved out. Checked out. Gone.
That’s what we’re talking about in this episode: Walkaway Wife Syndrome — the slow emotional exit a lot of women make while their husbands are completely asleep at the wheel.

Ari, Chuck, and Faisal all share what happened in their own marriages — how the signs were there, but got missed or ignored, and what they’ve learned since. Whether you're still in a relationship, going through a separation, or already divorced… this conversation is going to hit hard in a good way.

We get into:

- What Walkaway Wife Syndrome actually looks like (the 5 stages)

- Why her stopping complaints might be the worst sign of all

- How men try to fix things way too late — with desperate “I'll go to therapy!” energy

- The real impact of avoiding conflict, missing cues, and being a "fixer"

- How to actually take ownership and rebuild trust (if it’s not too late)

- And yeah… the kind of man you need to become next, whether it’s for her or the next relationship

This one’s for every man who's ever said “I had no idea she was that unhappy.”

Listen. Reflect. Do better.
We’ve been there — now we coach men so they don’t repeat our mistakes.

What happens when men unplug, step away from their routines, and connect deeply—with themselves and each other?

In this episode of The Nice Guy Show, Chuck Chapman, Faisal Khokhar, and Ari Gronich dive into the transformative power of men’s retreats. From adventures in the Mojave Desert to solo days in state parks, we explore why retreats are more than just time away—they're essential pit stops for growth, connection, and refueling the soul.

🔹 Why men struggle to invest in themselves
🔹 The surprising benefits of solitude and brotherhood
🔹 Real stories of life-changing moments from retreats
🔹 How retreats can help you build confidence, courage, and connection
🔹 And yes—what to do when someone keeps giving you socks 😅

If you're a man who's been stuck, isolated, or too busy caring for others to care for yourself, this one's for you.

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Connect with Faisal Khokhar:
https://masculine.co/
https://instagram.com/coachfaisalk
https://youtube.com/@coachfaisalk

Connect with Chuck Chapman: 
https://chuckchapman.com/
https://instagram.com/chuckchapman.ma/

Connect with Dr. Ari Graff:
https://drarigraff.com/
https://draribgraff.com/register [divorce recovery program]
https://youtube.com/@AriGraff