In this episode, we explore the foundations of BDSM—including bondage, impact play, electroplay, wax play, and sensation play—with Ben, a kink educator and experienced representative of The Kink Shop. With years of hands-on experience at nationwide kink events, Ben offers practical guidance on choosing the right BDSM tools, playing safely, and understanding the sensory differences between thud, sting, electricity, and temperature play.

Listeners will discover the essentials of safe toy use, negotiation, consent, and hygiene—plus insights into The Kink Shop’s handcrafted designs, leather quality, beginner-friendly tools, and ergonomic impact toys. Whether you're new to BDSM or looking to deepen your skills, this episode delivers approachable, accurate, and sex-positive kink education.

What BDSM stands for: Bondage, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, Masochism

Psychological and emotional dynamics within power exchange

Negotiation, communication, and informed consent

Thud vs sting: how sensations differ and who they suit

How leather type changes feel: suede, chap, bison, moose, mule deer

Beginner-friendly toys: bunny floggers, boa floggers

Finger-loop floggers & why they reduce joint strain for tops

Leather & conductive claw gloves

Scratch mitts

Mop-in-a-Pocket toy

Vegan impact tool options

How a violet wand works

Sensation range: light tingles to intense stimulation

Combining electroplay with other kink tools

Essential violet-wand safety practices

Skin-safe wax types vs dangerous household candles

Heat management techniques

Distance & layering for sensation control

Cleaning leather, rubber, and electroplay tools

Avoiding cross-contamination in shared scenes

Long-term storage tips for handcrafted toys

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