Hello friend,

In this episode we talk about how hard it is to not fall in the trap of pleasing when around family.
It can be hard to deal with the guilt that hides in our deepest corners of our sens of attachement.
We all face those moments when we want to do something for ourselves but unfortunately someone we love is asking us to do something for her/him instead of doing what we have initially planned!
Why do I feel guilty being selfish  in my own house ?

There are many benefits from expressing clearly our needs that you can discover in the episode.

If you ever feel compelled to ask any questions in regards to stop pleasing  leave a voice message in my DM at be_liv_coaching.
I need to hear your personal question it helps me to serve you and our other friends that will relate to your situation.

Meanwhile, download The Instant Peace meditation link in bio to help you ground and open the space within to welcome what is and be responsive in a loving and efficient way.

or
Book a "Do What You Love" session if you want to work with me to make the changes you want so you can have the life You choose.

Enjoy yourself!
#boundaries #familyboundaries 

Dear friend,

In this episode a friend brought up a topic around how to feel comfortable with the idea of being successful in her business while being a mother. She is for the moment stuck in the stay at home pattern that she  has replicated from the women in her lineage.

It looks  like honoring the lineage of women because as human beings we need to connect and belong. But it comes to suffer when the  idea of how a woman should be living her life under the condition of a society is not aligned with her calling. It can be very challenging.

I think as women it is important to question our beliefs around our upbringing, the way we were taught to please others and have the perfect appearance to seduce and be validated to not be taken for someone that she is not...

Our throne has not left us, we did from ignorance and it was nobody's fault and not ours.

The ability to change that is within us by bringing first awareness into the stories that have been told over and over without any proof of unshakable validity.

Create an environment that allows this awareness,  ask around you, other women if they have always lived their life faithfully to themselves or to others (exclusively). I am sure you will be surprised of most of answers...

If you want to bring in this awareness more expansively, it will be from a place of peace. For that download The Instant Peace guided mediation :

💛  https://bit.ly/3muXL69

Or

If you want to stop being a woman of pleasing people and start seeing that your life matters to yourself in a faithful way, you can book a "Love What You Do" session and see if i can help you!

💛 https://bit.ly/3d1sKU3

Meanwhile enjoy yourself!

Hello friend,

Avoiding conflicts is one of people pleasing specialties. 

I am not saying that we are not strong, or weak though it could be interpreted this way, but we just don’t like it! 

It ruins our reputation, the idea we want people to have of us, our identity. They are going to judge our flaws on which we have put so much effort to hide by pretending they don’t exist.

The thing is that it is tiring to avoid conflicts because deep inside we know that it is going to appear on our face one day or another and the result of it is that it weakens our ability to discern what is actually right for us.

The predominant emotion here is fear of being judged and rejected. And it’s more painful to avoid fear than to face it.

When you face fear you :

• Discover that courage is not a concept in your mind but a quality you haven’t used generously so far
• Feel empowered 
• Get to know yourself better
• Matter!

How would you rate yourself by being good at avoiding conflicts, or fear of facing conflicts?

10 being a very good avoider and 0 not at all avoiding conflicts.

In this episode I will take you through the steps to face fear of conflicts and how full of sense it is to do it that way.

Download the Instant Peace Mediation, it’s a powerful tool that will help you find peace when you will feel overwhelmed or agitated during your days.

 ✨https://bit.ly/3muXL69

You can also book a free break through session if you are determined to walk your own path and find your own definition of happiness. I will be delighted to help you.

✨https://bit.ly/3d1sKU3

Much love

#fearofjudgement #facingfear #fearofconflict #facingconflict

Hello friend,

Have you ever given up on a task because you felt overwhelmed and not because the task was not appropriate to what you are aiming for ?

The other day I caught myself being one with overwhelming thinking. I created a schedule that I thought was going to be very helpful this time and that I could follow up with for this year.

What we don’t take into account while creating a schedule is life’s factors. The unexpected facts that become priorities : heater stops functioning during winter time, family emergency etc…

Life happens. All. The .Time

There are two facts that already can help you feel part of your own game :

• you are not in control of circumstances
• you can choose the thoughts you want

Let’s not panic about the overwhelming feeling, or give up on the task that leads to the goal.  Let me tell you more about how to get over this feeling and include ourselves into the flow of life in detail. Enjoy the podcast

Meanwhile, download The Instant Peace Mediation for overwhelming and agitated moments that will help you in those situations.

✨ https://bit.ly/3muXL69

Book a Love What You Do call with me to see if we are a fit to help you reach your goals and receive the support that you need.

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Enjoy yourself

Hello friend,

It starts with a vivid dream I had about wanting approval from Emily, a friend in my dream. 

I admired Emily, because she was very much “present” in our conversations, generous in her listening and had that thing in her that made me feel good, appreciated, it felt so precious to me.

But Emily was very independent, she was very much showing me love and appreciation but was not showing any will to become attached to me. And that was intriguing because my definition of friendship was different from what Emily was showing me. 

I admired that in her and I was led by the belief that if I had approval from her it would mean that I could be like her. Do you relate to that?

And actually that is a TOTAL illusion!

The need for approval from someone covers the shame of being ourselves, the shame covers what we truly are, and what we truly are is where all The Possible lies.

The #1 thing is to be aware of what the mind thinks and reflects on our consciousness. 

You will find during this episode what is crucial to win ourselves back and start to embrace fully who you are as an identity so then you can peel off what you don’t want anymore in your life. And finally live the life you want and do the things you want to do.

If you decide now that it’s enough to be a people pleaser and it’s time to please yourself and do what you truly want, then click on the “Love What You Do” session and I will help you achieve safely what you want.

• https://bit.ly/3d1sKU3

Meanwhile, if you haven’t done it yet, download the The Instant Peace guided meditation for overwhelming and agitated moments.

• https://bit.ly/3muXL69

Enjoy yourself!

x

Nada

#selfconnection #selfawareness #dowhatyoulove #shame #lovewhatyoudo

Hello friend,

In this episode I am sharing with you 5 reasons why you should have a goal in life especially of you are a people pleaser.
Our lack of worth and love leads us to buy love from our friends, family, colleagues and lovers.

Having a goal that has been chosen by us and only for us is a first step to say Yes to ourselves even if we are scared of what could happen. Being scared is a normal reaction  due to the fact that we are not used to make decision for ourselves without taking into account who will we please and what will we get : security (money, reputation,...), worth (position, invitations, calls and messages) and love.

If you are clear with "your" goal, then all you have to wear is a smile, show courage and embrace all the flavors of events that are coming to you.

Easy to say you may say, but hard to execute. 

Let me take you through them and be open to hear what is really important to reach out for your goal. The attitude is wiser and more powerful than the action itself.

Enjoy the episode and enjoy yourself!

After listening to this episode download  you can 

• Download The Instant Peace meditation for overwhelmed  and agitated moments, it will help you come back to where you always operate from and start with a fresh and new look.

https://bit.ly/3muXL69

• Book a "Do what you love" session 

https://bit.ly/3d1sKU3

Talk yo you next week
Much love

P.S : If you liked this episode it would mean the world to me if you could rate it so other sisters can also have the opportunity to enjoy it.

Hello friend,

I am sharing with you the way that pleasing people broke me down and made me realise that I had to stop doing this because I would survive miserably in life and it was certainly not what I wanted deep in my heart.

But I could see how important it was to be needed, to be loved, to feel indispensable to others by feeling the responsibility to make them happy.

I was worn out by pleasing everybody, and not serving myself with lleasure and lovingly.  All I was doing is pursuing others desires and dreams.

The consequences are more than we think, because they are in every corner of our walk in life.
Yet change is possible and the shift is inevitable if we apply the most simple actions that are available to us without any fancy machine or strategy.

Let's see in this episode what is the question that saved me from the trap of feeling miserable.

Enjoy the episode and let me know how it worked for you.

Much love
Ps : if you want to go deeper and feel free from your people pleaser identity, book
a love what you do session with me : https://bit.ly/3d1sKU3.

and you can also DM me on Instagram @be_liv_coaching  we will connect one way or another! 😉

Hello friend,

What we are is so intimate that it is hard to compare ourselves to others' even with the person we love the most in this world. 

It is that part that connects with our feelings and when we shut down this connection with our intimacy, we start fucking up a lot of things in our lives.

Because we don't  know how to think, what to think and rely most of the time on others to let us know what and how.

The only way is to connect with the intimacy of what we are to be able to open up to our vulnerability, to open up to change, to growth.

Pleasing people is saying yes to others and No to ourselves.

It's time to reverse the pressure and shift the fuel to Yes to me first as a celebration to my life.

Enjoy this podcast.

• Download The Instant Peace meditation to help you clear you mind and remind yourself of your true nature.

https://bit.ly/3mavJ0j

• Schedule a break through session here if you want to move on from being a people pleaser. 

https://bit.ly/3d1sKU3

Much love

Nada

Instagram : be_liv_coaching
Schedule a break through session with me : https://bit.ly/3d1sKU3

I Woke up this morning with a voice saying " I should do xyz" when the thought of engaging with the day arose.

Right after that, I had the taste of not "enoughness". An urgency to complete that feeling of not “enoughness” by “doing” something.

What do I do when I feel that not “enoughness” ? I make choices accordingly :
- I talk, write and behave to convince through the work I am delivering
- I talk, write and behave to justify
- I talk write and behave focusing on approval

Shit!

So I thought, what about not needing a purpose from wanting to justify my existence in this society?
Why not eliminate the "justification" and the needing to "convince" that what I am deserves attention ?

What if?

What if attention was already there? What if it was really given ?  Would I still have that need to justify and convince of all the choices I make ?
Would I be collecting all the evidence to prove that I am the candidate to receive approval ?

Receive it from who ? Someone who was born with the same rights as mine ? And I am giving her or him the authority to give me love, approval and worth ?

No. What if I had it in me ? What would I do today with the same tasks I had for the day, what would be my attitude ?

Do you relate ? or does it resonate somewhere even if you have a veil of doubt and the mind is currently throwing “good” reasons to not take this seriously.
Well I am inviting you to slow down and experience what I have shared in this episode. Do that whenever you think about it. And see what happens.

I would also suggest that you download my meditation for overwhelming and agitated states to help ease the feeling and bring yourself back to you.

I am very curious and eager to hear from you and to serve in any ways if you need any clarity.

Much love
x

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I woke up this morning with the feeling of "I should" when the thought of engaging with the day arose.

Right after that, I had the taste of not enoughness.

What I do when I feel that not enoughness, I make choices accordingly :
- I speak to convince through the work I am delivering
- I do things to justify why i do them
- I focus on things to receive  approval

So I thought, what about not needing a purpose from wanting to justify my existence in this society.

Why not eliminate the "justification" and the needing to "convince" that what I am, deserves attention ?

What if?

What if attention was already there?
What if it was really given ? 
Would I still have that need to justify and convince of all the choices I make ?
Would I be collecting all the evidence to prove that I am the candidate to receive approval ?

Receive it from who ? Someone who was born with the same rights as mine ? And I am giving her or him the authority to give me love, approval and worth ?

No.

If I was already worth it, what attitude would I have with the same tasks I have in my working list ?

I am curious and eager to see that.

Please share with me what it would be for you.

Much love

PS : download my free training where i give you the 5 steps to quit the job you hate and start doing what you truly love.

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