Be You Not Them

Welcome to this week's mini pick me up episode! These little joys of fun are bite size tidbits that feature a question tying into each weekly episode. We will both answer the question and pitch it right back to our listeners!

This week's question is: How is your circle of friends different compared to 5 years ago?

We'd love to hear your thoughts and your answer! Has your social circle changed after you embarked on a different journey? As always, you can hit us up on the typical channels below! Make sure to subscribe and leave a review as well. <3

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Baklava,

Nat & Nina

HOW TO BUILD A POSITIVE SOCIAL CIRCLE. We're sure you've heard the saying, "Birds of a feather flock together." Who you surround yourself with can either make you or break you. We've all been in relationships that seem to always keep us down and made us feel less than our true selves. In this episode, we're going to go through the 5 steps of building your own THRIVE TRIBE.

[3:00] Step 1 - Identifying the Current Status of Your Tribe

• Who are you in relation to others in your group?
• Who are the people you spend most of your time with? Do they share the same values as you?
• Do your friends hold you accountable?

[9:52] Step 2 - Cleaning House

• Any type of energy affects you, whether it's positive or negative
• Is this person challenging you to be better or are they being a downer?
• Your tribe should challenge you and support you to be a better YOU
• How do you feel after you spend time with that person?
• Natassia shares about when she was at her lowest, she also surrounded herself with people who were insecure

[16:58] Step 3 - Going Against The Grain

• Do people in your tribe try to discourage you when you 'go against the grain' or try to think differently?
• Surround yourself with people who are on a higher wave length than you
• Make sure the people in your tribe align with your values

[22:05] Step 4 - Get Yourself A Mentor

• Nina shares her experience with a life coach
• Don't get multiple coaches for the same thing
• This applies to many areas of your life, whether it's a mentor at your workplace or for your health
• We share how you can start a one on one mentoring relationship with someone

[28:30] Step 5- Raising Your Standards

• Look within and see if you need to change as well if you want to develop positive and meaningful relationships
• Energy is contagious - positive people don't want negative energy around them
• Stay. Away. From. Gossip.
• Build friendships with people who prioritize what's important to you, whether it's entrepreneurship, self-development or health.

[33:39] What is a Thrive Tribe?

[34:50] Recap of the 5 steps of building your Success Tribe

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And don't forget - you'll always be a part of the BYNT Tribe <3

Baklava,

Nat & Nina

Welcome to this week's mini pick me up episode! These little joys of fun are bite size tidbits that feature a question tying into each weekly episode. We will both answer the question and pitch it right back to our listeners!

This week's question is a two-parter (yikes!)…Was there something in your life you were ever scared to do but did it anyway? How did you feel afterwards?

We have all had those times when we needed to face our fears. Ever feel those insane butterflies of fear? We have all been there and yes, we know, it SUCKS but we got over it somehow, right? Natassia shares her experiences of doing a three month internship abroad. Nina discusses how her first big fear was not only moving away from home but leaving her first job without a plan (riskyyyyyy).

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You're a freakin champion and we love you

Baklava,

Nat & Nina

#5 - The Intimidation Factor

This episode is all about leaning into challenge, fear, EVERYTHING that will make you successful. We get to the root about why challenges may scare us...even paralyze us and provide some key tips to look at challenges in a different way.

[2:12] What do we mean when we say to "lean" into our challenges?

• Redefine it to be a source of growth
• Overcoming those fearful butterflies in your stomach
• Pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone
• Stepping up to the plate
• Flight vs. Fight response

[7:06] Challenges At a Young Age. Nat shares her experience of leaning into some challenges at a young age..aka, talking to dang much in the classroom.

[10:46] Leaving the First Job. Nina discusses her big first intimidation was leaving her first job and how she felt like a failure

[14:33] Fears with a New Job Promotion. Nat gives another example of how she overcame her intimidation in her new job promotion and not expecting some extra duties that came with the title

[18:01] Asking for Help. Nina discusses the importance of asking for help (versus spending forever on spinning her own wheels, yes...we have all been there) and how this was key in her health challenges

[24:28] Who are you surrounding yourself to help you overcome your challenge? We get into how important this is in your success

[27:20] Letting your goals dictate the challenges you take.Nat offers another perspective in viewing how challenges are applicable to your goals in your life

[29:42] Comfort zone vs. the growth zone. Nat gets into what this means and how the growth zone is where the magic happens.

[33:42] Key takeaways of what do you do when faced with a challenge:

• Self-awareness. Check in with your feelings, thoughts and reactions when a challenge arises
• Think about the benefits of the challenge, especially in furthering your goals
• Reach out for help
• Consider what is the worse that can happen (we also find out that Nat never got a second chance to learn how to ride a bike)

[38:18] What challenges are you facing? You know where to find us and share your story!

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Now go on kick those challenges in the ass! You got this <3

Baklava,

Nat & Nina

It's another mini mini episode! These little joys of fun are bite size tidbits that feature a question tying into each weekly episode. We will both answer the question and pitch it right back to our listeners!

This week's question… Was there a time in your life where you realized your priorities were not straight?

We have all had those lightbulb moments before in our lives, right? Nina discusses how she realized that engineering is not what she was passionate about and Natassia retells a wake up call she had when her mom ended up in the hospital.

We'd love to hear your thoughts and your answer to this week's question! As always, you can hit us up on the typical channels below! Make sure to subscribe and leave a review as well. We would really appreciate it!

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You're amazing and we love you

Baklava,

Nat & Nina

IF THESE LADIES CAN DO IT, THEN SO CAN YOU. In this episode, we share the stories of some truly inspiring women who decided to change their paths in life, whether it was in their career or their own health. We hope their stories can serve as a testament that it's never too late to change your life.

[04:30] Vera Wang's Story - From Figure Skating To Iconic Wedding Dresses

[7:00] Joy Mangano - From Single Mom Jumping From Job to Job To A Millionaire Inventor

[10:50] Viola Davis - Making Her Break In Movie Industry In her 40s

[17:00] J.K. Rowling - After Many Rejections, She Launched The Book Series That Made Her An 'Overnight' Success

[25:00] Sara Blakely - From Failing The Bar To Powerhouse Businesswoman

[28:00] Ernestine Shepherd - The Oldest Competitive Bodybuilder In The World

[39:40] Takeaways from These Stories.

• The Big 'F Word' - How we have built this stigma around failure and failing
• Showing Up Everyday even when you don't feel like it
• Start Somewhere, it doesn't have to take thousands of dollars to accomplish something.
• Having the right mindset to propel you forward
• Surrounding yourself with the right people

Books/People mentioned: If you want to read more on the lovely ladies we discussed today… Vera Wang, Joy Mangano (Who the movie Joy was based on), Viola Davis, J.K. Rowling, Sara Blakely, and Ernestine Shepherd. A book we mentioned in our takeaways was Be Obsessed Or Be Average by Grant Cardone.

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Now go on and be your badass self! Make that change you've been waiting for <3

Baklava,

Nat & Nina

Mini Pick Me Up - The Compliment That Stuck

Welcome to this week's Mini Pick Me Up episode! These little joys of fun are bite size tidbits that feature a question tying into each weekly episode. We will both answer the question and pitch it right back to our listeners!

In episode three, we talked about why it's so hard for us to accept compliments and we gave a few tips on how to stop yourself from deflecting them. In light of letting those compliments rain, we ask: What is one compliment that stuck with you?

Nina thinks she has a compliment to share but doesn't sound too convincing; however, she ends up coming up with two: (1) being a bright light in this world and (2) being a renaissance woman. That's right girl, shine bright like diamond and be that change agent. Natassia shares two compliments as well, one serious and the other, in true complete Natassia fashion, really random. Her serious compliment relates to her skills at her current job and why this was so important to her. The lovely other random compliment is her abs of steel communicated to her by her physical therapist. Her core power apparently beats out some male professional athletes...dang girl!

We want to hear about your compliments and why it has stuck with you. You know where to find us!

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WHY IS IT SO HARD FOR US TO ACCEPT COMPLIMENTS? We discuss how often we deflect uplifting compliments and get to the root of why it may feel uncomfortable. We provide some tips to break this cycle and be showered with all that positivity and love. LET. IT. RAIN.

[1:12] We clarify what "accepting the damn compliment" actually means...no, we don't mean those harassing compliments AKA cat calling or constantly seeking approval from others.

[3:08] Compliments that Nina & Nat have struggled with

• Body Weight
• Fashion & Style

[4:17] Natassia mentions the famed Confidence Code

• Brings insight as to how our female brains works
• Highlights why we as females struggle with our thoughts
• Favoritism of self depreciation over boasting

[6:12] Being humble vs. overconfident

• How the two plays into compliment acceptance
• How it applies to valuing yourself

[7:15] We discuss how we catch deflection of compliments in not only ourselves but others

[9:09] Nina discusses how she constantly sought approval from compliments in the workplace

[13:17] What is at the root of compliment deflection?

• Degree of comfort
• Reflection of self-worth
• Level of trust in yourself also determining your trust in others

[17:31] How we teeter on the edge of compliments

• Too overly confident to no confidence at all
• Environment dependent: male vs. female dominated field
• The role of insecurity

[19:21] Compliments within a male denominated sphere

• Use of "sweetie" & "honey
• Discussion on female emotions in the workplace
• Maintaining balance between complimenting and condescension

[21:31] We highlight the male and female interaction and how that may complicate compliment acceptance

[23:41] Overview of the challenges in accepting compliments

• Alignment with self-worth
• Trusting yourself and others
• Discernment between being overly confident or not enough confidence

[24:11] Tips on accepting the damn compliment

• Building self-awareness of why you deflect
• What is the inner narrative you form when you a receive a compliment
• Get to the root of why a compliment may be uncomfortable for you
• Catch yourself before the deflection and say thank you
• Paying attention to others and remind others as well
• Practice those personal affirmations

[30:17] BYNT Challenge

• With your affirmations, begin to compliment yourself….IN FRONT OF THE MIRROR...GASP

Books mentioned: The Confidence Code by Clair Shipman and Katty Kay

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Let it rain with those amazing compliments!

Love ya,

Nat & Nina

It's another mini mini episode! These little joys of fun are bite size tidbits that feature a question tying into each weekly episode. We will both answer the question and pitch it right back to our listeners!

This week's question… are you ready for it? What is a negative habit you are trying to overcome right now and how are you going to overcome it?

We both discuss a couple of bad eating habits we're trying to break, from eating when I'm bored to eating a lot of sugar. Negative habits can also be the way we think, so Nina discusses how she's trying to break out of a negative spiral whenever she gets frustrated or distracted from work.

We'd love to hear your thoughts and your answer to this week's question! As always, you can hit us up on the typical channels below! Make sure to subscribe and leave a review as well. We would really appreciate it!

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Stay fabulous

HOW YOU TALK TO YOURSELF MATTERS. We're going to discuss the relationship between our self-talk and how that can affect our self-love. Are you being as kind to yourself as you should?

[1:00] Want to hear Nina try to explain a scene from How to Lose A Guy in 10 Days and Natassia not know what the hell she's talking about? Here you go!

[2:48] We Become What We Think

• The way we think about ourselves colors everything
• The negative cloud that affects how you see others too
• Your mind is a battlefield

[6:55] Nina's Feeling Of Not Being Good Enough

• Constant thoughts of 'not being good enough' that started in high school and got stronger once starting her career in Engineering
• In relationships, feeling the need to give a lot of yourself up to prove that you are a good person

[10:59] Natassia's Fear of Failure

• Grew up with the thinking that you always need to be the best, and if you're not the best you're failing
• How a cycle of negative self-talk can affect your self-esteem (You're not pretty enough, you're not smart enough, etc.)

[13:00] Natassia Shares An Old Diary Entry

• How negative self-talk ends up affecting how you see yourself.
• Speak kindly to yourself guys… we shed a few tears going through this one

[17:58] Negative Self-Talk and Your Relationships

• When we feed ourselves negative thoughts, we think others see us how we see ourselves
• How negativity can affect your relationships and trust
• Speak kindly to yourself… would you talk to your friends the way you talk to yourself?

[20:24] Negative Self-Talk and Your Career

• Successful people still have negative thoughts, the difference is they ignore them and let them go.
• Those 'what if' thoughts… what's the worst that can happen?

[28:50] Tips to Overcome Those Negative Nancys

• Pay attention to how you speak to yourself & how others speak about themselves
• Acknowledge the negative thoughts and THROW IT IN THE GARBAGE.
• Replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts and visualize them
• Positive affirmations for the win
• Beat negative thoughts with rationality

Books mentioned: Building Your Empire by Elena Cardone (if you can't tell, Nina's obsessed). Not a book, but Nina also really likes How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days, so go watch that too if you want.

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