Be You Not Them

Welcome to your mini pick me up! Today's topic was inspired by our last Baklava Session, where we talked about divine experiences and coincidences in our lives that just seemed TOO WEIRD to be random.

So with this theme in mind, we decided to talk about the concept of synchronicity, which was a term first coined by psychologist Carl Jung. It refers to meaningful coincidences that mysteriously occur in our lives.

We want you to reflect on this and ask yourself the following:

What are some synchronicities I've noticed in my own life?

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Articles Mentioned:

• "Synchronicity: 7 Ways to Interpret and Manifest It" by Mateo Sol - https://lonerwolf.com/synchronicity/
• "Synchronicities: A Sure Sign You're On the Right Path" by Gregg Levoy for Psychology Today - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/passion/201712/synchronicities-sure-sign-youre-the-right-path

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THE UNIVERSE WORKS IN MYSTERIOUS WAYS. Welcome all to another Baklava Session, where we go on rants and unscripted discussions about life, being a woman, self love, and whole bunch of other topics. Today, we're discussing strange coincidences in life. Whether it's meeting someone at the right time who plays a pivotal role in your life or a sequence of events that seem to be pointing you in the right direction. It's a little woo-woo, yes. But we LOVE it.

So sit back and maybe reflect on moments in your life that just seemed too good to be true at times. Or... start PAYING ATTENTION and noticing things around you that can open up amazing opportunities.

We hope you guys enjoyed today's episode. As always, thank you for your support and love. You guys are the best.

Books/Resources Mentioned:

• Conversations with God: An Uncommon Dialogue by Neale Donald Walsch

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Baklava,

Nat & Nina

Welcome to your mini pick me up! Today's little question comes from our episode Monday which was all about trusting yourself. We talked about our own struggles with this and how we sometimes get in our way in trusting ourselves because of fear, not being clear on our vision and also simply, not wanting to step out of our comfort zone.

With this in mind, we are asking YOU:

What do you think you can gain when you choose to trust yourself?

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You have probably heard this time and time again, to trust ourselves; however, how many of us can truly say we trust in ourselves to make the best choices, decisions, and actions for us? I know that we have been still working on this for ourselves. In this episode, we talk about the challenge being trusting ourselves as well as how to build that trust by sometimes take a little time to disconnect, step back a little.

[1:58] Knowing Your Value. We believe that the foundation of building trust in yourself is knowing your value INTERNALLY versus any external validation. We both share our experiences of how difficult it was to know this value in our earlier years of our career.

[5:00] Figuring Things Out. Oh, what a deceptively simple concept this is. As planners, we describe how figuring things out on the way has been such a challenge for us but how it has also been a key to unlocking that trust-building within ourselves. We also talk about how depression and anxiety have impacted this journey.

[9:38] Your Vision Story. Sometimes to help see what decisions align best with you, it is beneficial to take a step back and figure out what vision you see yourself fulfilling. We break down what a vision story is and how sometimes disconnecting yourself to do this can help you build that trust in yourself to make decisions that best align with that story.

[13:00] Getting Out Of Your Comfort Zone. What leads us to experiences, choices, and risk is also stepping out of your own little bubble. This, in itself, exposes you to so much more opportunity to determine what is right for you. Nina discusses how this has helped her finally leave her job.

[17:05] Impactful Moments. Natassia shares a moment in her life when she chose to trust herself and how that changed her path moving forward and also how it impacted others. We also discuss the lovely "what-if" cycle that sometimes paralyzes us from moving forward boldly and defining what positive expectancy is.

[23:00] Human Resilience. In tying in with the idea of positive expectancy, in the book, A Man's Search for Meaning, we discuss how the author did not allow the trauma he went through to paralyze his decisions and how he put into practice the idea of positive expectancy.

[24:29] Takeaways. Some little nuggets of wisdom in building that trust in yourself include:

• Just Do the DAMN Thing - we like to stay in our comfort zones but most growth happens outside of this. Let's step out of our comfort zones and figure it out as we go.
• Find Your Vision Story - if you are stuck on developing this story for yourself, sometimes getting some outside perspective through a coach, workshop series or group can provide a perspective that highlights spots that we may be blind to
• Sit with yourself - think about what you REALLY want to do and why you may be scared of doing so and why have you been getting in your own way

Take a little leap of faith and we will be right there with you!

Books/Resources Mentioned:

• A Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankel

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Nat & Nina

Welcome to your mini pick me up! Today's topic was inspired by our lovely little catch-up session on Monday. We talked about so many interesting topics, but the one theme that ran current with everything we were going through is UNCERTAINTY.

So with this theme in mind, we are asking:

What can we do to stop the spiral into the uncertainty abyss?

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Welcome to another Baklava Session, our episodes where things are little more lighthearted and serve as a therapeutic vent session. Today we're BACK after a little break and we are simply catching up on life today.

Both of us talk about all the things we have experienced in the last few weeks including which struggle bus we are on currently, tropical travels, sabbaticals, and lovely wedding plans (or lack thereof haha).

Let us know your thoughts, guys. You know where to reach us :)

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IT IS OK TO BE A HOT MESS. Welcome to another solosode! It is Nina's turn to share a little bit about how much being a "hot mess" is not accepted not only in society but in Nina's own little world. Much like Natassia, this little dialogue was also inspired by a conversation she had with her coach, Angie Sanchez. Nina wants to flip this idea on its head and thus, shares how she has turned to be a hot mess into something successful, beautiful, and transformative.

Some of the things Nina discusses

• The negative root of being a hot mess
• How this root led her to build a facade preventing the hot mess situation from happening
• Redefining what being a hot mess means and how being vulnerable is BEAUTIFUL

Have you struggled with being a hot mess? We have all been there but it is in this season we grow SO MUCH. You're not alone on this journey and it is perfectly ok to be your most vulnerable self here with us at BYNT. You know where to reach us... we'll be there for you boo!

Resources:

Book Mentions: Conversations with God - An Uncommon Dialogue - Book1 by Neale Donald Walsch

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It is time to ride the hot mess express and be ok with it!

Baklava,

Nat & Nina

ENDINGS LEAD TO NEW BEGINNINGS. Welcome to another solosode! It's been a while since we've had one of these episodes! In this solosode, Natassia shares some thoughts around making peace with saying goodbye, which was inspired by a conversation she had with her coach, Angie. Sometimes we have to accept the fact that things need to end... whether it's a friendship, job, place or situation we've become familiar with.

Natassia shares some of her struggles and the emotions she felt when she needed to say goodbye to a relationship or a situation that no longer served her. It's a shorter episode, but we hope it can inspire you to reflect on times in your life that you had to walk away from something.

Some of the things Nat discusses

• Why saying goodbye is like going through the grieving process
• The need to let go of bitterness when something comes to an end
• Learning to reflect on the positives, even when a situation ends sadly
• Why we need to acknowledge the role we play when we need to say goodbye
• The beauty that can come from endings

Is there something you're struggling to say goodbye to right now? Maybe you have said goodbye to something or someone, but you still haven't made peace with it. We want to let you know, that you're not alone. You know where to reach us... we'll be there for you boo!

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Don't be away to walk away from something that no longer brings you happiness!!!

Baklava,

Nat & Nina

Welcome to your mini pick me up! Today's topic was inspired by the incredible interview we recently had with Ciara Ladroma, who is a Mindset Expert. We talked about so many interesting topics, but one key thing that Ciara is adamant about is being SELFISH with your energy. Actually, she calls herself the CEO of Being Selfish With Your Energy... We love it.

So with our latest interview in mind, we are asking YOU:

How can you be selfish with your energy? What does that look like for you?

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HAPPY, HEALTHY AND WEALTHY. Guys, we have such a fun and exciting interview that we're happy to share with you all. We sit down for a chat with Ciara Ladroma, who calls herself the Wealthy Minimalist. She helps people change their mindset in regards to happiness, health and wealth. We discuss a lot, from learning to date yourself to protecting your energy and so much more. So sit back and get ready to hear some truth bombs!

[1:15] Who is Ciara at her Core? Ciara talks about who she is - not her job - but who she is right now and where she is going. She discusses working on finding who she really is over the past few years and why she decided to be selfish with her energy.

• Sometimes we feel stuck, but who is telling us to stick in situations that don't serve us?

[7:49] Redefining Happy, Healthy and Wealthy. Where did this idea stem from and what does Happy, Healthy and Wealthy really mean?

• Health is an ENTIRE person, not just how we look.
• Wealthy is learning how to be financially independent and redefining what "wealth" really means.

[14:05] Being Honest About Your Truth. Ciara opens up about how she doesn't want clients to assume she grew up poor and struggled with money due to her circumstances, when her experience was actually the opposite.

[18:20] Escaping Tying Our Identity to Work. The choices that lead to Ciara becoming a "minimalist." She shares how in 2018 was when she started to separate her job title from her worth. Realizing that she didn't know who she really was anymore outside of her job. Ciara's decision to Choose Sober, when she decided to stop drinking and change her mindset.

[22:40] "Better Is Coming." Losing friends because of her decisions, which in the end gave Ciara room to welcome more positive people into her life. She shares some words of wisdom to anyone who may be struggling with these changes in their lives and feeling push back.

[25:45] Growing Up as a Filipina in America & Fitting In. Ciara explains struggling as being a black sheep in her family, but feeling like she always fit in when it came to school.

• Realizing she was truly a PoC when she traveled outside of her small town and how she can be treated differently.
• Never feeling enough as a child of immigrants. We all discuss how we all felt like we were never enough of any culture growing up.
• Ciara discusses navigating family expectations when you don't fit into what's expected of you.

[35:30] Learning to Date Yourself. Ciara shares how she lost herself in a relationship a few years ago and how she had to work on building her confidence again.

• Finding out what self-care looks like to you.
• You have to learn to put yourself first.
• We don't have to choose hard - we can have EASY things in our lives.

[41:10] Finding Yourself After a Toxic Relationship. Learning to do things for yourself and making time for things you enjoy.

• Going to therapy to get outside of your own head.
• Journaling your thoughts.
• Speaking with your friends and getting their thoughts.
• The more time you spend away from someone, the more you realize if you really need them in your life or if life is pretty great without them.

[45:10] Being Selfish With Your Energy. Showing others how you want to be treated by asking for permission to open up about something. By putting up boundaries, you can retrain people to see how you want to be treated and also give them permission to do the same.

• Ciara discusses how finally enforcing boundaries was what led to her being bullied at work.
• Be ok with being SELFISH with your energy. It's ok to say no.
• When you get comfortable with saying no, it can change your entire life.
• Ciara shares how learning to be selfish with her energy was what helped her be comfortable with choosing to stay sober.
• You are saying no to say room for big yeses.

[57:29] We Attract The Same Energies. You will attract people who are aligned with your values and you can inspire others to change their energy as well.

[1:01:00] What Was Your Be You Not Them Moment? We close out the interview with a point in Ciara's life where she chose to be HERSELF and choose her authenticity.

We talked about a lot in this interview, but we hope that Ciara's infectious energy can inspire you to embrace your true self. If anything, we hope Ciara's story can remind you that you're not alone on your journey and, as she said it herself, "Better is coming."

Where You Can Find Ciara:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ciaraladroma/?hl=en

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Baklava,

Nat & Nina