Beautifully Changed

In this bonus episode, I’m taking you back to one of my first romantic relationships.

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Author and Teacher, Adam Chiocca, recently finished his book tour sharing about his book, 50 Days To A Better Life.

Today he is going to share some of the relationship tips he has been using on his journey to recovery.

Adam’s bio:

Adam Chiocca is speaking to us from his home in Massachusetts, where he lives with his wife and two sons.  He’s an author, teacher, speaker, and YouTuber, who recently completed a nationwide book tour, and appeared on TV morning talk shows.  In his first book, 50 Days to a Better Life, he shares some secrets to life and happiness that he discovered in just the last few years, as he overcame alcoholism.  Yes, he shares his story of getting sober, and how he was able to do it, in his book, and is very public about it, as he talked about his journey openly on TV morning talk shows.

He’s been teaching in the public school classroom for 15 years and is on a mission to educate parents, teachers and school officials about the common and rampant vaping problem, among so many teens.

In his book, he shares much life advice and wisdom, and we invited him on the show, to talk about some of the ideas he wrote about in one particular chapter, On Relationships.  We’re happy to have Adam Chiocca on our podcast, to get his take on what people can do if and when they aren’t happy, and might want to throw in the towel.  He encourages us to try a variety of possible solutions, before giving up, for he believes that we are meant to be in every relationship for a reason, and are meant to learn, grow and change from our relationships.

Show Notes:

Lessons learned during Adam’s book tour [3:12]

What inspired you to write your book [8:48]

Feeling all your feelings [17:17]

Tending your relationship garden and nourishing your relationship [25:00]

The importance of kindness in your relationship [36:52]

You are love [44:24]

Your relationship is a place to give [50:06]

Putting in the effort [52:52]

Law of attraction and prayers [58:42]

Ending questions [1:08:00]

Follow Adam:

Instagram: @adam_chiocca

YouTube Channel: Adam Chiocca

Buy Adam’s book here.

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Today, Stress Relief Coach, Laura Decher joins me.

Laura shares her experience of recovering from mold toxicity and tips on how to reduce stress.

Show Notes:

Cherish your life right now [3:02]

Laura’s story and 4 things she learned going through chronic inflammatory response syndrome [4:32]

How we handle stress matters [8:12]

4 ways you can reduce stress now [9:17]

Stress coaching, NLP, and aroma freedom technique [13:41]

A stress-relieving tool you can use right now [19:30]

Ending questions [23:53]

Book: Boundaries by Henry Cloud

Follow Laura

Website: coachdecher.com

Mind Fog Live Facebook Group

Instagram: @coachdecher

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Carmen Rosas is a Legacy Coach and she is my guest today!

Carmen loves to show women that they can do life on their terms- it doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s or be a certain way. If they want out of the 9-5, do it. If they love their 9-5 job, amazing. Essentially figuring out who they are and living that life unapologetically.

Show Notes:

Why legacy is so important [3:50]

Inspired by her retreat in Greece [4:36]

What are you doing while you’re alive [6:07]

What are legacy and empowerment? [7:23]

Transitioning careers [9:37]

Looking at yourself on a deeper level [16:23]

Living life on your own terms [20:12]

Self-love [29:51]

What legacy can look like [34:12]

How do you live this yourself? [40:53]

Perfectionism [48:17]

Carmen’s book (it came out December 2019) [50:50]

Carmen’s 7-week program [52:31]

What do we do with regret? [55:06]

Random get to know you questions [59:49]

Follow Carmen:

FB group: The B Hive

Instagram: @iamcarmenrosas and @empowheryourself

Buy her book here.

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Who doesn’t love a good love story? You’re going to start hearing real-life love stories on my podcast. If you have a love story that you’d like to share, please contact me here.

Young Love with May Shank

May shares her love story with Chris. And it’s so lovely.

She also shares the day to day relationship stuff that makes their relationship of 19 years thrive (May will be 20 years!!).

I also love how much kindness, playfulness, and thoughtfulness is a part of their relationship. (this is so key to a happy and long-lasting relationship)

May shares how the use of a whiteboard really helps her team up with Chris when they are making decisions. They also really celebrate each other and what they are really into.

The importance of quality time is something May and Chris share. They don’t have a typical date night, but they feel deeply connected and loved.

Follow May

YouTube: Mrs May Shank

May’s blog: mrsshank.com

Instagram: @mrsmayshank

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This week’s guest on Beautifully Changed is Vanessa Van Edwards.

Vanessa is the Lead Investigator at Science of People. She is the bestselling author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People. Her book has been translated into 15 different languages and more than 20 million people watch her on YouTube.Vanessa shares tangible skills to improve interpersonal communication and leadership, including her insights on how people work. She’s developed a science-based framework for understanding different personalities to improve our EQ and help us communicate with colleagues, clients, and customers.She works with entrepreneurs, growing businesses, and trillion-dollar companies; and has been featured on CNN, BBC, CBS, Fast Company, Inc., Entrepreneur Magazine, USA Today, the Today Show and many more.

Click here to buy Captivate by Vanessa Van Edwards.

Show Notes:

Reset the idea of staying home right [6:12]

Your 3 arguments or gremlins [8:26]

Fear in relationships [12:57]

How are you arguing? [13:46]

Make the argument less heavy [16:08]

Bring glue back into your relationship [18:23]

(Check out her 10 favorite conversation starters here)

The power of knowing your partner’s matrix [25:54]

There is no wrong when it comes to personality traits [36:15]

Where to find Vanessa’s work & upcoming events [37:08]

FOLLOW VANESSA

WEBSITE 

INSTAGRAM

FACEBOOK

TWITTER

YOUTUBE

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Steph, Any resources you have or know of about single people with intimacy issues?

First of all, thank you for reaching out. Intimacy issues are tough and very common. A lot of people will benefit from your question. Your bravery is impactful.

Though the answer to this really depends on the root of those intimacy issues, I’d say there are a few places you can start.

Second of all, let’s look at some signs of intimacy issues

* When emotions come up in a relationship (or in general), you shut down* You aren’t showing up for your partner (or yourself) when they need you* Your relationships don’t last long and look the same* Committing to a relationship scares you* You stop wanting to have physical intimacy after you start to know your partner more

1. The obvious resources would be to work with a therapist, professional hypnotist, or life coach to work with you through this issue.

When it comes to a therapist, you should know I really recommend Marriage and Family Therapists because they work with the lens of the entire system and that’s powerful.

2. Sometimes we want to start at home and see if we can work through some of this stuff on our own. Books can be an awesome resource.

Book List

I’d recommend starting with: Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel and the Self Love Workbook by Shainna Ali, PhD.

3. Plus, I’d encourage you to sit down with a journal and answer some of these questions while you’re waiting for your first session or book to arrive.

* What does trust mean to you?* What does trust look like?* Teach me how to not to trust someone. Write down everything you do to keep your wall up and others out. * Are you ready to let go of intimacy issues?* Who do you trust the most in your life? Write the story of how that came to be. * How much do you trust yourself?* When do you doubt yourself and others the most?* When do you know that you trust someone?* What has to happen for you to start to doubt someone?* What has to happen to replace trust with doubt?* What statements do you say to yourself when something happens and you begin to have fear or suspicion of someone?* How much trust do you need in a relationship to feel safe? Think of a scale 0 to 10. 10 being 100% and 0 is 0%. What brings your number up on that scale and what brings your number down on that scale? * Is it possible to be in a relationship and still have some independence for both people?* What are the benefits of an intimate relationship? Why is this something you want in your life?* What are the risks of an intimate relationship? * What can you do to prevent the risks?* When do you question if you’re good enough for someone?* When do you know you’re good enough and lovable?* When you’re in a relationship, when do you feel significant and have certainty?

4. Pay attention to your own inner dialogue and if it is helping you to create a picture of mistrust of someone because you’re scared of feeling the pain and loss of being broken up with or because you’re actually seeing red flags that the relationship isn’t for you.

5. I’d also highly encourage you to make a list of all the...

Oh, man. The finale has all the emotions going.

We got to have a two-night finale.

First, Madison and Hannah Ann meet Peter’s family and we finally see who Barbara is talking about.

She is really wanting Peter to get engaged to Hannah Ann. That’s who she was crying about in that preview this whole time.

Hannah Ann is so smitten with Peter.

Madison ends up leaving. Peter asks Hannah Ann to marry him only to tell her a month later that he couldn’t give her all of his heart. So their engagement was broken off.

Chris flies out to talk to Madison and finds out Madison wants another chance. Barbara doesn’t look happy about this.

Peter’s family doesn’t support Peter and Madison, however, Peter says he loves Madison and that should be enough. Madison makes no attempt to connect with his family.

It was pretty great that Madison was willing to walk away so that Peter could have the relationship that he did the Bachelor for.

PS. The wanting kids vs. not wanting kids was just an example in general, not an example specific to Madison and Peter. Their differences, as we all know, are around lifestyle and faith.

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Sex and Embodiment Coach, Agnes Zausz, joins me today.

We talk about exploring all the sides of yourself, including your sexy and fierce side along with your tender and kind side.

Agnes loves to work with women who are spending too much time in their heads and who are wanting to reconnect with the wisdom of their bodies.

You’re never going to go backwardsAnges Zausz

We also discuss:

* Self transition – Traveling Europe* Staying open to possibilities and meeting people where they’re at* Her story of the weather and being in the moment – including your sadness – shedding what needs to be released and returning to a playful and powerful state* How you show up matters* Everything is part of the transition* Feeling the contrast helps you know what you really want* How to get out of your head and into your body* The beauty of virtual coaching* The capacity of what you can feel begins to grow as you feel safe* Agnes has a background in interior design * Client calls while walking in nature* Taking action on what feels safe, pleasurable, and free* What is a sex and embodiment coach?* Breathwork, meditations, conversations around desires and creating* Sexy and fierce vs. tender and kind* When less resistance comes into play* Don’t dismiss what is already there* Have a place to unravel* You don’t have to do it alone* Agnes moves to Europe after the passing of her grandfather* Moving through fear* Letting people be there for you* Staying in your own energy* Allow water to cleanse energy that you don’t want to carry with you* Gratitude* A limiting belief of thinking I’m not good enough and how she started working through that (yoga)* Leaving a corporate job* Apply the work vs. knowing what you need to do* You can’t go backward – you’re cells have changed with you* Book – The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks* The coaching field being underrated* Trusting the process* Agnes will be providing personal experiences

Connect with Agnes

through Facebook: Agnes Zausz or Instagram: @theagneszausz

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We start the episode off by saying goodbye to Victoria F.

And Hannah Ann and Madison accept roses and move forward to getting to meet Peter’s family.

Oh man, that was a heated Women Tell All. LOTs of division and difference of opinions on emotions and being real or fake or mature vs. childlike.

I was super impressed with both Kelsey and Vitoria F and their communication skills they brought to the show tonight.

And what a powerful ending with Rachel coming on to talk about the actual hate and harassment that the individuals receive in their comments and DMs. I only wish they would have given us a solution because I don’t know anyone who would write comments like that.

Next week is the 2 night live finale.

And then Listen to Your Heart starts April 13th. I bet Jed is so mad he was on the bachelorette and didn’t wait to get on this new way to find love. If only we could see the future!

Clare Crawley is the new Bachelorette.

I actually don’t know her story since I started watching with Colton’s season, but I guess I’m about to get to know her more!

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