Becoming Whole

Do you ever feel overwhelmed by the countless voices discussing topics like sex, gender, and marriage, and unsure of who to trust?

You're not alone!

In this episode, we dive into the wisdom of fourth-century theologian Gregory of Nazianus, who faced similar challenges in his time. Listen in as we share some of Gregory's insights on how to navigate these complex and controversial subjects, and how his approach can help us today.

We discuss how Gregory believed that being a theologian meant not only knowing about God but truly knowing and seeking God.

In this episode, we explore how we can apply Gregory's wisdom to our own journey by examining our motivations and submitting our hearts to the truth of God.

Additionally, we delve into the importance of virtue in the life of a theologian and how it can help us discern who to trust when it comes to discussions about sex, gender, and marriage.

Join us as we learn from the wisdom of the past to better understand the present and draw closer to God in the process.

Ready? Let's dive in!

-- What We Discuss:

   01:10 - How can a loving god say no to same-sex marriage?
   02:37 - He didn’t want to be a priest.
   03:35 - Defending the truth of Christianity.
   05:20 - What does it mean to be a good theologian?
   07:17 - The theologian has to be truly invested in God.
   08:44 - Have you tamed your tongue and thought life?
   10:11 - Why virtuous people help draw people closer to god?

-- Transcription: Walking through the Minefield of Modern Conversations on Sexuality and Marriage

-- Episode Resources:

    On God and Christ: The Five Theological Orations and Two Letters to Cledonius
    Regen on YouTube
    What We Do

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Sacred By Design Women's Retreat  | October 17th

Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:

👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional
👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)
👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Do you ever feel like lust and pornography are taking over your life, and you can't break free from their grasp?

What if I told you that lust isn't the real issue at hand, but rather our inability to truly see the world and the people around us?

In this eye-opening episode, I share a powerful story from the memoir "The Glass Castle" that illustrates this concept and how it's not lust that we need to overcome, but our clouded vision.

Join me as I discuss how God doesn't want us to simply look away from temptation, but rather to open our eyes and truly see the person in front of us, beholding them with awe and reverence.

This transformation of our vision can lead us to a place where we no longer want to degrade others by treating them like sex objects. Our ultimate goal should be to honor one another and elevate our consciousness to recognize the reality of God's beauty in each other.

So, let's embark on this journey together to gain clarity and rediscover the real world through our newly opened eyes.

Ready? Let's dive in!

Transcription: From Lustful Gaze to Awe and Reverence

Episode Resources:
    The Glass Castle: A Memoir
    Regen on YouTube
    What We Do

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Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:

👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional
👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)
👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

What does Jesus teach us about sex and gender, and how can we apply that to the complex and controversial topic of transgenderism?

With humble hearts and minds, we turn to Scripture and the historic teachings of the  church to understand how to respond as Christians.

Join us as we examine the original plan for creation in Genesis 1 and 2, and explore Jesus's teachings in Matthew 19 to navigate this important conversation.

We also contemplate the hope found in the Incarnation, discussing the implications of God becoming flesh.

Jesus's care for the physical bodies of men and women illustrates his love and compassion, ultimately leading him to the cross for our sake. His death and resurrection offer hope for those who have a transgender experience or have irreversibly altered their body.

Learn how we can walk alongside those in that space with grace, understanding, and a compassionate heart.

Ready? Let's dive in!

-- What We Discuss:
   2:16 - The pharisees that tried to trap Jesus.
   4:33 - Transgenderism and God’s will.
   6:46 - God’s original design for our sexuality.
   8:01 - What is a sex change operation?
   9:21 - How we think about compassion in our culture.
  10:49 - Why is the body so important to Christians?
  12:49 - He literally became flesh for our sake.

-- Transcription: Christ's Compassion in the Transgender Conversation -

-- Episode Resources:
    Regen on YouTube
    What We Do

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Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:

👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional
👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)
👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

What if we told you that you have the power to redefine beauty and truly appreciate your spouse's appearance, imperfections and all?

Join us in this eye-opening episode as we uncover powerful insights on how to retrain our minds, heavily influenced by media and pornography, to recognize and delight in our partner's beauty, even as they age or change.

Together, we'll challenge society's expectations of beauty and aim to cultivate a healthier, more loving perspective of our relationships.

Discover how to view your spouse's body as a map in marriage, where we can learn to view our spouse's body as a map of their life, finding beauty in wrinkles, gray hair, and other "imperfections."

We'll discuss the importance of self-giving love in relationships and share practical tips for embracing a deep and meaningful connection with your partner by focusing on the good and beauty within them.

Learn to see your partner as the whole, beautiful human being God sees them as, and move towards a more fulfilling, loving relationship.

Ready? Let's dive in!

-- What We Discuss:

   00:04 - How to deal with imperfections in your spouse?
   01:55 - The idealized models of the 50s.
   03:16 - Training your brain to find beauty in your spouse.
   05:27 - What we find in imperfections in our spouses.
   07:04 - How to delight in your spouse’s imperfections.
   09:03 - View your spouse’s body as a map.
  10:27 - The deeper beauty of wrinkles and wrinkles.
  12:08 - Seeing a person as a map of who they are.

-- Transcription: Embracing Imperfections & Deepening Connections in Marriage -

-- Episode Resources:
    Regen on YouTube
    What We Do

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Sacred By Design Women's Retreat  | October 17th

Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:

👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional
👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)
👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Do you need to look at your past? If you want freedom from unwanted sexual behavior? Do you need to go back there?

Do you need to think about mom and dad and kids at school and wounds you experienced if you want to be free?

We're going to talk about that in today's podcast.

Now, when we talk about looking at our pasts, we are not talking about blaming wounds we've experienced on our sin, we are responsible for our behaviors.

Nonetheless, at Regeneration, we do spend time helping people unpack their stories, and by stories we mean their lives in the past, up to the present, and looking forward into the future.

And we do that because we believe it's incredibly beneficial, and illuminating and powerful, as we want to draw nearer to Jesus, and heal from those things that have hurt us.

So we can walk in greater sexual integrity.


Show Notes and More at https://www.regenerationministries.org/do-i-need-to-look-at-my-past/

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Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:

👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional
👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)
👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

When you find yourself lacking desire for your spouse, I would invite you to look somewhere else.

I want to invite you to look at how you feel about yourself.  How good I feel about yourself is usually more of the underlying reason why you lack desire for your spouse, then your spouse's. It really has to do with you.

So let me unpack that a little bit.

When you look in the mirror, are you free from shame? Or maybe when you stand in front of a group of people? Do you feel free from shame with your clothes on for example?

Do you feel free from shame, when you buy that great new outfit, and you get that great new haircut, and you've been working out and you feel like you look great?

The fact that we spend so much time in front of the mirror, or so much time at the gym are often indicators that we actually feel a great amount of shame.

We're trying to do things to cover up our shame, but if we live long enough, you find you're not really covering shame by working on how you look on the outside.

If you find yourself pursuing sexual integrity, and you're lacking sexual desire for your spouse, stop focusing on them, criticizing them thinking If only they would look better.  If only they would treat me better, if only they would…

Take your focus off of that.

Start focusing on having Jesus restore your own sense of dignity and your own sense of goodness.

That your shame was put on the body of Jesus, so that he could restore to you your sense of worth, as one who is made in the image of God, and who is in fact, designed by God to be and become more and more of a good gift for your spouse.

As you embody that and carry that in the interior of who you are more and more,  you will find that your desire for your spouse grows.

Highlights: 

• When you find yourself lacking desire for your spouse. 0:04
  • Lack of sexual desire for a spouse.
  • Two reasons why a spouse might lack desire.
• Shame and the interior of you. 1:49
  • Adam and Eve and feeling free from shame.
  • The importance of self-improvement.
• How they felt good. 3:49
  • They felt interiorly that they were a good gift to each other.
  • Adam sees her as a help.
• The interior sense of goodness in ourselves. 5:20
  • Freedom from shame comes from an interior sense of goodness.
  • Husband's attraction to porn.
• The illusion of attraction is the illusion of goodness. 6:37
  • Attraction is the illusion of goodness.
  • Being a good gift in the world.
• Stop focusing on your spouse's appearance. 8:27
  • Lack of sexual desire for your spouse.
  • Focus on yourself, not them.
• Start focusing on restoring your own sense of dignity. 8:52
  • Restore dignity and sense of goodness.
  • Bring yourself as a good gift to your spouse.

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👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional
👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)
👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

In this podcast, we are talking about your imagination.

We who are seeking sexual integrity know the problem of how our mind can get us into trouble with sexual thoughts, sexual fantasies, and sexual imaginings that lead us down a path. It can start with just a small thought that seems to kind of drift into our brain.

Then something inside grabs a hold of it. And we muse on it. And it grows and grows, until we're doing things that we promised ourselves and others that we wouldn't do.

So the imagination has been taken captive, and we're doing it again.

What we want to remember in this podcast is that the imagination initially was not Satan's idea. It's something that he seeks to use to draw us away from God, but it wasn't his invention.

The imagination is God's invention.

But what did he design it for, and how can we utilize the way that God intended our imagination to be: to help us grow into the kind of people who are people of sexual integrity, sexual wholeness, and sexual maturity?

Can you think about ways to engage your imagination to fill your life with the good of your imagination as opposed to allowing it to continue to move towards vices. I'm gonna give you four or five different ideas to help you answer these questions.

• Where are you using your imagination and creativity?
• Where can you use your imagination towards moving towards that brighter future?
• Where are you using your imagination for relationships?
• Where are you using your imagination to help you grow in faith?

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Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:

👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional
👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)
👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

So many people have ceilings on how far they can go in life.

Some ceilings come from what people say is or isn’t possible as it pertains to change and transformation.

In our culture many believe there is a ceiling with those who wrestle with same sex attraction or men in general, that they  will always struggle with lust and have no possibility of change.

On the other side there are those that resist all ceilings, you can be absolutely healed of everything with no struggle ever again count on it, depend on it, just believe. I believe there is error on both sides of that debate.

Let’s dig into what these ceilings are and how to move past them.

Highlights:

The reality of the ceilings on transformation.

• Many people have ceilings on how far they can go.
• Men struggle with lust. 

The error on both sides of this debate.

• People who resist and reject all ceilings.
• The error on both sides of the debate.

The kingdom of god has come.

• Living in the now and not yet eschatology.
• The promise of Christ to make things new.

Letting go of pornography.

• A season of change in his life.
• A taste of heaven in him.

How do you live with same sex sexual orientation?

• How to live with same sex sexual orientation.
• The most powerful ceilings in culture. 

The hope of the lord.

• God does not promise an end to temptation.
• Encouraging yourself to pray for it.

Set our eyes on Jesus.

• Set eyes on Jesus and follow him.
• Remove the ceiling in your name. 

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👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional
👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)
👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

I want to talk today about a little bit of a dichotomy that a lot of people experience in their journey towards sexual integrity.

If you've listened to this podcast for any length of time, or been involved in our coaching, groups, or events, I hope that you've picked up on the reality that we seek to bring the love and grace of God into all things.

We believe that real life change happens through the kindness of God.

It is the kindness of God that leads to repentance. Where sin increases, Paul writes in Romans, Grace increases all the more. We really are transformed by God's movement in our lives.

The more we can do to open ourselves to the kindness, the goodness, the love, the gift that God is, the gifts that God offers, the better off we'll be. And in general, Legalism, being hard on ourselves beating ourselves up, doesn't work, it actually can be counterproductive towards growing in virtue and growing in sexual integrity. And so you won't experience that here.

I think there's often a mistake that people make along the way, in believing that somehow temptation is just going to evaporate, that they're just going to one day just stop sinning.

Now, I do believe that can happen. And I do believe it can happen over time.

That's beautiful, wonderful, I think it's going to happen for you as you continue to go.

But the journey to get there does include times of having to fight sexual temptation. It does include times where you will have a desire to act out sexually, a desire to go back to that same old well, and you will have to resist, you will have to work hard not to do it.

You will have to say NO to that temptation,  I'm not going down this route, in Jesus name!

Tune in as we talk about ways to fight, without being hard on yourself or legalistic. Ways that aren’t a sexual integrity bootcamp.

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👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional
👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)
👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

If you are tuning into this podcast you are either wrestling with or striving for sexual integrity or love someone who is struggling with sexual integrity, or you just care about this topic. I believe as we take a look at a small part in Jesus' life we find a very big revelation.

God had a design for human beings. They were designed to reflect the image of the invisible God. That image of God is a self giving, self donating loving God who rules over His creation in a loving way. And their male and female complementary physical design, was meant to image that as they lovingly give themselves to each other. Not using each other, not lusting after each other, but giving of themselves lovingly. This is God’s beautiful Design.

But Adam and Eve both rebelled and every single person after them did as well. All humanity has, until Jesus. Jesus lovingly gives himself, His body, His life for us.

When Jesus is arrested and in the custody of Pilot at this point the crowds are calling for Jesus to be crucified. Pilot, without truly understanding why, tells the onlookers to “behold the man.” From his perspective he is like, here is the guy, look at this guy. But when you look a bit closer, a little deeper there is something very profound.

Look at Him, this is what humanity should be, this is the image of God. This is selfless love. This is what it means to give your body for another. Behold the Man!

Why does that matter for you and me?

1. In all the ways we have failed, Jesus has been victorious. So we don’t look to ourselves, but look unto Him.
2. He is showing us not just an exception to the rule, but the image we too are made in.

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Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:

👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional
👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)
👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)