Having expectations for our kids feels important, useful and a type of guide to the often mysterious and dismaying act of parenting. But what happens when your kids don't meet or live up to your expectations? What happens to your parent child relationship? Do you define yourself as a parent on their outcomes? Do you blame them for your emotional disregulation? 

Find out more in this episode where we will explore how clinging to specific expectations may actually be causing more harm than good for your own emotional life and your ability to parent effectively. You will learn to get curious and question the expectations that you have now, how to decide which ones to keep, and what to do when those expectations aren't met.

You will learn how your own ideas of self-worth are tied into these expectations and how to detangle yourself from relying on your children's behavior for external validation. This episode offers invaluable advice on how to manage and understand your expectations, ultimately fostering a positive emotional atmosphere for both you and your children. Tune in for an eye-opening discussion on effective parenting through the lens of acceptance and emotional resilience.

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Is your partner manipulating you? In this episode you will learn how to spot five common manipulation tactics, how they may be showing up in your relationship and how to decide what to do for yourself if you find yourself being manipulated by your partner.

You will learn practical steps to recognize and combat these manipulations, ensuring you can navigate your relationships with confidence and clarity. If you are in a relationship right now, going through a divorce and the end of a relationship or hoping to find someone in the future, knowing the signs of manipulation and how to use your power and self authority to decide what is right and best for you will help you live a life of fulfillment and authenticity.

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Ever wondered why negative thoughts grip you so tightly during and after a divorce? In this episode you will learn to recognize and transform these thoughts to shift your perspective, bringing more calm and authenticity into your life. By understanding the trickery of these negative thoughts, you can start to build emotional resilience and navigate the challenges of divorce more effectively.

Explore how negative thinking manipulates your nervous system and survival instincts, convincing you that your very existence is under threat. Learn how your brain builds a case for these thoughts by recalling past experiences, even rejecting any evidence that contradicts them. Recognizing this pattern is the first step to questioning and diminishing the power of negative beliefs, allowing you to regain control over your mental and emotional well-being.

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Ever found yourself in the throes of an argument, feeling defensive and misunderstood? What if you could transform those moments into opportunities for deeper connection? This week on "Becoming You Again," I tackle the intricate and often misunderstood topic of defensiveness in relationships. I share personal stories from my own marriage, revealing how quickly defensiveness can arise when we feel unheard or dismissed. You will discover how evolutionary biology plays a role in our defensive reactions, and learn how to navigate these moments with greater self-awareness and patience.

I'll take you through the journey from reacting to responding, uncovering strategies to foster healthier communication. By paying attention to our bodily cues and recognizing our defensive patterns, we can make intentional choices that lead to more open and loving interactions. This episode is not just about identifying defensive behavior, but about celebrating the small victories as we practice patience, kindness, and self-compassion. Join me as we explore how to let go of what's no longer serving us and take steps toward building stronger, more reflective relationships.

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What if moving beyond the pain of divorce could lead you to an entirely new level of empowerment? In this transformative episode of "Becoming You Again," we unpack the intricate process of breaking free from a victim mindset. You will learn crucial steps to take to move beyond the victim mentality while still acknowledging and validating your experiences without blame.  Each step plays a vital role in reclaiming your power, setting you up for a more resilient life post-divorce.

Your divorce journey is about recognizing and stepping into your personal power, fostering growth, and rebuilding self-trust. Those things can be difficult to do when you stay in victim mentality. Tune in to discover how small mindset shifts can lead to monumental transformations post-divorce.

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Part of healing from your divorce is learning to actively listen to your body's wisdom. In this episode you'll learn exactly how to listen to your body and learn it's unique language. You will discover how embracing your body's language will be a catalyst for personal growth, wisdom and reconnection after years of neglect.

I'll guide you through grounding exercise where you will fine tune how to listen to your body and begin to see patterns of speaking to you through vibrations, sensations, tension, temperature and more.  These practices will help you decode your body's language and build a stronger connection with your physical self. By keeping a log of these observations, you'll deepen your emotional resilience and start a new chapter of independence and well-being. This episode is your invitation to embrace your body's wisdom and embark on a journey of self-reconnection and healing after divorce.

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Ever wonder how your body’s automatic functions can impact your emotional health, especially during tough times like a divorce? This episode of "Becoming You Again" promises to shed light on the surprisingly profound connection between your autonomic nervous system and your mental well-being. Having a better understanding of the nervous system and how it affects our emotional states can help maintain more emotional stability during your divorce.

You'll also be introduced to the vagus nerve, how it connects to our nervous system and polyvagal theory. By the end of this episode you'll know a little more about  practical strategies for self-regulation—think grounding techniques, breathwork, music, and the healing power of nature and pets. This episode emphasizes the importance of understanding our bodies natural way of reacting, how to learn to respond instead or react and supporting our body through it all with somatic practices to foster resilience.

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This episode is all about mindset and thought work - specifically the impact intentionally choosing your thoughts will have on you and your emotional life right now and moving forward after divorce.

Did you know that the thoughts in your brain are not just truths being handed to you? Your brain gathers thoughts, ideas and beliefs in two main ways; through your life experiences, teachings, socialization, senses, etc and through your cognitive bias. Knowing this can open you up to the idea that thoughts aren't necessarily truth. This is great news. Once we know our thoughts are up for questioning and consideration, we give ourselves permission to decide on purpose what we want to think and believe that is in line with moving us toward what feels good and right for us.

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When you're feeling so overwhelmed by your divorce - you can't see any hope in sight - just remember that spring is on its way. When things are really hard we can beat ourselves up thinking that we need to know the end game; that we need to see the next steps play out; we need to know how it's all going to work out. When things are hard it feels like winter - cold, hard, and dark and like it will last forever.

But what you can practice remembering is that you don't need to know how it's all going to work out or when or what the solution is. When things are hard all you need to remember is spring is on its way. Spring always comes. Just hold on a bit longer and things will get better.

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Can all the people pleasers raise their hands? Yes, mine is right up there with you. I am what you might call a recovering people pleaser and if you struggle with people pleasing, you can be too.  By the end of this episode you'll know exactly what a people pleaser is, why we do it and a few tips on how to break free from the people pleasing trap, especially after your divorce.

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For more information and full show notes go to:
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