Becoming You Again

Your mind may be ready to “move on” after divorce, but your body might still be living in survival mode. When divorce shakes your sense of stability, even ordinary moments can trigger a surge of stress that feels bigger than the situation. In this episode I’ll want to give you a reset you can use immediately, wherever you find yourself.

I walk through a fast grounding technique designed to help your nervous system feel safe again. With this grounding technique you’re giving your brain and body a clear cue that you’re here, you’re present, and you’re not in danger. I also give a quick explanation to the “why” behind grounding, including how your system can react to perceived threats and why practices that reconnect you to your body can support healing after divorce.
 
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Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!

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You can’t heal when you’re carrying emotions that were never yours to hold. If you’ve been trying to keep your ex calm, your kids happy, your mom reassured, your coworkers comfortable, and everyone else okay, this conversation is the the wake up call you need.
 
I walk through a simple but life changing truth: your thoughts create your feelings, and their thoughts create theirs. That means your ex doesn’t “make” you feel anything, and you don’t “make” him feel anything either. I’ll unpack why so many women have been trained into emotional labor and people pleasing, and how that training shows up after divorce as overexplaining, unnecessary apologizing, softening boundaries, and living on edge while you monitor someone else’s mood.
 
We also talk about what real kindness looks like when you stop taking ownership of other people’s emotions. You’ll learn how to hold space without spiraling into guilt, how to apologize when it’s truly warranted without being defensive, and how emotional detachment after divorce can actually make you more present, more loving, and more grounded. I end the episode with a practical awareness exercise you can use right now to reclaim your energy and set boundaries without managing the reaction.
 
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Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!

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Your divorce isn’t proof that you’re broken, but society loves to whisper that it is. I’m Karin Nelson, a certified divorce coach, and I’m pulling apart the old story that ties women’s worth to marriage so you can finally see it for what it is: conditioning, not truth.
 
We start with something subtle but powerful, the way even a stranger’s divorce headline can trigger grief and judgment before we know any details. That reaction is learned. From books and movies to religion and family scripts, women are often taught that the highest achievement is being chosen by a man, staying chosen, and making the marriage last forever. When a relationship ends, that message stacks shame on top of normal grief and makes an already hard situation feel even heavier.
 
Then I zoom out and share a bit of history that reveals how intentional this messaging can be, including the evolution of the word “spinster” from a respected job title to an insult. We also talk about how legal structures around divorce have changed over time, and why modern freedom to leave doesn’t automatically erase old stigma. The core takeaway is simple and steady: your worth is inherent. It did not rise on your wedding day, and it does not drop because you divorced, asked for divorce, or were left.
 
To make it practical, I guide you through a short exercise you can do this week to identify the specific thought creating shame, trace where it came from, and decide whether you want to keep believing it. If you want more support, subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more women can find the show.

To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. 

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!

If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

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DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR EDUCATIONAL, INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND ARE NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING PSYCHOLOGICAL, COUNSELING OR PROFESSIONAL HEALTHCARE ADVICE. 

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Your divorce can be messy on the outside but the most exhausting battles often happen inside your own head. When a thought like “I’m not good enough” lands, it doesn’t just feel bad, it can hijack your body, your confidence, and your ability to make clear decisions. I’m Karin Nelson, a divorce coach, and I’m walking you through what’s really happening in those moments so you can stop treating your brain’s stories as unquestionable truth.
 
I start by redefining negative thoughts in a way that actually helps. Instead of labeling thoughts as “good” or “bad” based on how they sound, we use a nervous-system and intuition lens: does the thought feel open and aligned, or tight and contractive? I also separate facts from personal truth so you can make choices that fit your real life, not your fear, guilt, or other people’s opinions. You’ll hear a personal example of how a thought that looks heavy on paper can feel calm and right in your body.
 
Then I break down the brain’s five-step playbook for turning a lie into a “fact,” including the nervous system hook, the tunnel vision, the evidence-stacking, the way your mind rejects support, and the weird little reward that keeps the loop alive. Finally, you’ll get three practical tools for divorce recovery and mindset support you can use immediately: awareness questions, body-based regulation, and self-compassion that builds real self-trust.
 
If you want more calm, clarity, and emotional resilience during divorce, follow the show, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a rating and review so more women can find this support.

To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. 

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!

If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

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DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR EDUCATIONAL, INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND ARE NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING PSYCHOLOGICAL, COUNSELING OR PROFESSIONAL HEALTHCARE ADVICE. 

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Divorce can make even simple choices feel impossible because you’re not just changing your schedule, you’re rebuilding your identity. When you’re flooded with decisions about where to live, how to co-parent, what work looks like now, and who you want to be on the other side, you need something steadier than opinions and “shoulds.” That’s where your values come in.
 
I share why personal values are one of the most overlooked tools for divorce recovery and life after divorce, and how getting clear on what truly matters to you creates a practical decision-making compass. I talk about the difference between values you inherited from family, religion, or culture and the values you actively choose because they fit your intuition, your lived experience, and the woman you’re becoming.
 
I also dig into extrinsic goals versus intrinsic goals and why chasing outside approval can feel so gross. You’ll understand how patriarchy uses measuring sticks for women to live a constrained life and how to decide whether you want to continue using those measuring sticks in your own life. 

You’ll leave with with prompts to identify a handful of core values and start using them as a filter for relationships, boundaries, rest, authenticity, and your next big steps.
 
If you’re ready to reconnect with self-trust and build a future that feels like yours, listen now, then subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a quick review so more women can find the support.

To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. 

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!

If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

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DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR EDUCATIONAL, INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND ARE NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING PSYCHOLOGICAL, COUNSELING OR PROFESSIONAL HEALTHCARE ADVICE. 

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Your kids don’t need a perfect script. They need you regulated, clear, and willing to hold space for whatever they might feel without making them responsible for yours. I’ll walk you through telling your children you’re getting a divorce, and doing it in a way that helps protect their sense of safety, love, and stability.
 

I share how to prepare before the conversation. I talk about the timing of having this conversation and a few ways to give your kids extra support after they hear the news of the divorce. 
 
Then I lay out the five most important things your kids need to hear most when you tell them about the divorce. If you know this conversation is coming up for you and your kids, this episode is a MUST listen. 
 
If you found this helpful, subscribe, share it with a friend who’s navigating divorce, and leave a rating or review so more women can find this support. What part of the “telling the kids” talk feels hardest for you right now?

To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. 

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!

If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

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DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR EDUCATIONAL, INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND ARE NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING PSYCHOLOGICAL, COUNSELING OR PROFESSIONAL HEALTHCARE ADVICE. 

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If the voice in your head gets cruel after divorce, it can feel like you’ll never be “okay” again, even when you’re doing everything you can to hold life together. I’m digging into the one skill that changes the entire healing process: self-compassion. Not the fake kind that says “it’s all fine,” but the kind that helps you stay accountable without drowning in shame.

I look at why self-criticism feels like motivation but actually keeps you stuck. When you beat yourself up, your nervous system reads it as danger, your danger response goes up, and the part of you that can problem-solve and make wise choices gets dimmer. It's why you can’t hate yourself into healing. From there, I teach you how to easily start using self-compassion by becoming your own inner ally.

I also share Kristin Neff’s three elements of self-compassion and end with a simple, repeatable practice you can use the moment the “mean girl” voice shows up. If you’re ready for deeper support, I also offer a free 30-minute call and one-on-one coaching for women navigating divorce and rebuilding self-trust.

To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. 

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!

If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

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DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR EDUCATIONAL, INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND ARE NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING PSYCHOLOGICAL, COUNSELING OR PROFESSIONAL HEALTHCARE ADVICE. 

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Your body can go from pretty calm to dysregulated in seconds during divorce, and it is not a sign you are failing. When a text from your ex lands, when mediation gets tense, or when you feel that familiar wave of panic, shutdown, anger, or grief, you need something practical that works fast. I share grounding techniques you can do in 30 to 60 seconds to help your nervous system settle just enough to think clearly and stay connected to yourself.

We focus on sensory grounding because your senses are a direct bridge back to the present moment where healing happens. I guide you through seven quick sensory grounding techniques you can use any time you find yourself shutting down or completely activated. 

You do not need to do every technique or do it “perfectly” to get the benefit. Pick one or two that resonate, keep them in your back pocket, and revisit this anytime you need a quick nervous system regulation tool for divorce recovery and emotional resilience.

If you want deeper, lasting change, you can learn more about working with me one-on-one at KarenNelsonCoaching.com. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs steadier ground, and leave a rating or review so more women can find these tools.

To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. 

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!

If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

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DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR EDUCATIONAL, INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND ARE NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING PSYCHOLOGICAL, COUNSELING OR PROFESSIONAL HEALTHCARE ADVICE. 

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Have you ever thought something like, “If my ex would just take accountability for his actions and apologize, then I could finally move on” or something similar, then this episode is for you. It’s possible that you’re waiting for two words that feel like they would change everything: “I’m sorry.” This conversation will help you see the real cost of that wait and the real freedom on the other side of it. I’m talking about the kind of closure after divorce that doesn’t depend on someone else’s insight, remorse, or character growth.
 
I share a coaching moment that starts with a simple question that will help you identify what’s really behind the need for an apology. For so many of us, the answer is not about the past at all. It’s about wanting to feel seen, significant, and like we matter. From there, we look at how resentment can quietly drain your energy and keep your ex living in your head rent-free, and why self-trust after divorce grows when you stop outsourcing your healing.
 
We also talk about an important truth in emotional healing: you don’t have to forgive to move on, especially if you were harmed. You can set boundaries, co-parent if you need to, and still reclaim your life without forcing yourself into fake forgiveness. I’ll walk you through how to create the feeling you’re chasing from the inside out by practicing self-regard and choosing thoughts that support your next chapter.
 
Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a rating or review to help more women find their way back to themselves.

To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. 

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!

If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

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DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR EDUCATIONAL, INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND ARE NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING PSYCHOLOGICAL, COUNSELING OR PROFESSIONAL HEALTHCARE ADVICE. 

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This episode is honoring the women who came before us highlighting the history behind ‘choice’ and why being able to choose to stay in a marriage or leave is not something to take for granted.
 
I share the milestones that changed what was possible for women in the United States: from voting rights, to having a bank account in their name, from being able to rent or buy a house without a male co-signer and more. 

Then I get specific about no-fault divorce and how this law changed the rules and opened up actual options and choice for women of today – including you. 

And lastly, I offer a reframe for anyone carrying divorce shame. If you’re rebuilding after divorce, learning to trust yourself again, or considering your next step, I hope this lights something up in you. Subscribe for more support, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a rating and review so more women can find the show.

To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. 

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!

If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

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DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR EDUCATIONAL, INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND ARE NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING PSYCHOLOGICAL, COUNSELING OR PROFESSIONAL HEALTHCARE ADVICE. 

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