The holiday season can feel like a pressure cooker after divorce: new custody schedules, money stress, old traditions that no longer fit, and the unspoken rule that you must make it magical for everyone else. In this episode I’m offering you a different way forward. It’s one where you center yourself, protect your energy, and create a simpler, calmer season that actually feels like you.
 
I’ll break down the difference between performance mode and centered mode and why so many of us mistake exhaustion for devotion. You’ll come away from this episode with a better idea about what honest presence looks like for yourself during this holiday season rather than forced cheer. When you choose centered mode, you trade brittle perfection for steady, grounded care. 

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Your brain keeps saying “you should have known better,” but your body is tired of carrying the pain from that story. Let’s get you out of the loop of replaying the past. In this episode I walk through why our minds cling to the past after divorce, how “shoulds” fuel shame and self-blame, and what it actually takes to let go in real life.
 
I start by exposing the sneaky logic of replaying old arguments and decisions, then shift into a practical, compassionate method for release. Most importantly, I’ll teach you how to practice a new stance toward your past self. 

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When your nervous system won’t switch off, doing more rarely helps. I'm going to slow everything down with a gentle, guided windshield wiper practice that brings safety back online, one breath and one side-to-side motion at a time. This practice blends simple movement with mindful attention so your brain and body can start talking again.

You've got enough bullsh!t to deal with during your divorce. Give yourself 5 minutes to center, calm and feel peace while using bilateral stimulation through slow gentle body movement to engage both sides of your brain and reconnect that with your body. It's ok to choose you. Start here with this somatic practice. 

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Control promises certainty, but then pulls that certainty right out from under you. In this episode I’m talking about the power of letting go of needing to control others and instead putting your focus on what you can control – you! You’ll learn how to stop outsourcing your emotions to an ex, stop trying to fix your kids’ feelings, and start responding with clear boundaries, reframes, and values you can rely on under pressure.
 
I break down why the urge to control spikes after a split and how it backfires, leaving you reactive and exhausted. Then I walk you through some practical implementation. The result of this shift is real power: fewer sleepless nights, more clarity about who people are, and energy freed up for healing, growth, and connection. Most importantly, you reclaim agency. You still choose your thoughts, your words, your boundaries, and your next step. That’s how you model resilience for your kids and build a life that feels like yours again.

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Divorce can make it feel like your whole life is on display and everyone is talking about it. I walk you through why this judgment feels so hurtful and how it mirrors beliefs you already have about yourself. 

From the “good girl” script, you know be agreeable, keep the marriage at all costs, never ask for too much, to the social myths around single motherhood, we carry with us the hidden rules that fuel shame and people pleasing. 

I’ll teach you a simple five-minute exercise to surface the stories you fear others think about you, compare them to your own self-talk, and find the overlap that reveals where the healing begins. 

Expect clear, actionable tools, warm encouragement, and a reminder that when you stop outsourcing your worth, decisions get clearer, relationships get more honest, and your energy returns to what matters most.
 
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The comparison spiral gets louder after divorce, and it can feel like your body is sounding an alarm you can’t switch off. I talk about why your brain compares in the first place, how that survival tool gets misapplied to emotional pain, and what to do when your nervous system treats a hard feeling as a life-or-death threat. Using clear examples from everyday life and social media, I’ll unpack the cultural scripts that tell you a “real family” looks one way and success only counts if it fits a narrow mold.
 
You’ll learn a simple, repeatable practice to reclaim your peace. You’ll hear how facts are neutral, stories add emotional overwhelm, and the body calms when you return to what is actually true. I also talk about the myth of perfection, how memory glamorizes the past, and why redefining family, happiness, and stability on your own terms helps you let go of shame.
 
If your feed is full of highlight reels and your mind keeps whispering you’re behind, you’ll leave with grounded tools to stop the spiral and a gentler way to relate to your thoughts. Think of it as a nervous system reboot for post-divorce healing: less panic, more clarity, and a kinder voice inside your head. Ready to step out of comparison and into your own definition of enough? Press play, subscribe for weekly support, and share this with a friend who needs some calm today. And if you want personal guidance, grab a free next step session from the link in the description.

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What if the story running in your head after divorce isn’t the truth but a habit? In this episode I’m exploring how a single thought can change a feeling, reshape an action, and ultimately rewrite an outcome, then walk you through a simple, repeatable method to make that shift real – the thought ladder. 
 
 You’ll learn how to build believable rungs between where you are and where you want to be, especially around pretty common topics like co-parenting and how the divorce will affect your kids. I’ll give you some tangible examples of what a thought ladder can look like and then offer you a challenge to do on your own to start working on your own thought ladder so you can begin changing how you think about your divorce. 

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Feeling the overwhelm of divorce? Here are nine essential practices that reduce all that unnecessary suffering and help you heal as you go through your divorce.
 
There are nine ways to lighten the emotional load of divorce without adding more pressure, from reclaiming capability and worth to grieving well, caring for your body, and making calmer decisions. You’ll learn tools, mindset shifts, and gentle reminders help you move forward with less overwhelm.
 
 • remembering you are capable 
 • anchoring in your worth 
 • trusting that feelings pass and better days return
 • allowing it to be hard 
 • grieve
 • lean on support
 • caring for your body 
 • processing emotions with mindfulness and somatic tools
 • making intentional decisions 

Divorce is hard, but let this episode teach you how to make it a little bit better and easier to handle with these emotional support tools. 

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Have you ever noticed how the quiet moments hit hardest after divorce? When the kids go to their dad's house or when night falls and you're left alone with your thoughts, your mind can start spinning with memories, logistics, and the weight of your new reality.
 
The Slow Body Swivel practice introduced in this episode offers a gentle alternative to the distractions we typically reach for like social media doom scrolling, checking out, or having that extra glass of wine. This powerful grounding technique helps create capacity in your nervous system to handle challenges without feeling overwhelmed. 

Creating nervous system capacity isn't about eliminating negative emotions or always being in perfect alignment. It's about developing the ability to handle life's challenges during divorce and beyond without feeling incapable. Through regular practice, you can build this capacity, allowing yourself to stay present with your emotions rather than getting lost in rumination or looking for that easy escape. 

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Feeling lonely after divorce can seem overwhelming and endless, but what if your loneliness isn't actually about being alone? In this deeply personal episode, I unpack the true nature of loneliness and why it feels so heavy when we're navigating life after divorce.
 
The truth might surprise you: loneliness isn't caused by the absence of people. You can be physically alone without feeling lonely, and conversely, feel profoundly lonely while surrounded by family or even while married. What creates that hollow feeling in your chest isn't your circumstances; it's your thoughts about those circumstances. The stories we tell ourselves about what it means to be divorced, single, or alone can transform a quiet evening into a painful experience of isolation.
 
When loneliness strikes, our instinct is often to resist it or find ways to escape it. We might rush into dating, rearrange custody schedules, or isolate ourselves further because we believe something must be wrong with us. But what if there's another way? I'll walk you through a step-by-step process for sitting with loneliness, understanding its physical sensations, and learning to move through it rather than around it.
 
The most powerful realization? The antidote to loneliness isn't being with others; it's connection, beginning with yourself. When you build a compassionate relationship with yourself first, you transform how you relate to everyone else in your life. Your emotional wellbeing no longer depends on others' availability or choices.
 
This episode offers practical strategies for creating self-connection, recognizing thought patterns that intensify loneliness, and finding kinder alternatives that feel true and supportive. You'll walk away with tools to make loneliness feel less overwhelming and more manageable as you continue becoming you again.

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