A continuation from last weeks episode about being the friend we want to have this episode shared ways in which you can go deeper with your own self love and friendship. Learn how you can acknowledge and validate yourself in order to become the version of you that you want to be forever.

Friendship is whatever we think it is. Think about it, it is literally just a thought in our own mind. In order to always have the friend that we wish we could have and want in our life we have to be that for ourselves first. Being our own best friend looks like listening to ourselves, standing up for ourselves, being here for ourselves, being safe to be with, and having fun with ourselves. It means showing up in a true authentic way where we always have our own back, where we let go of what other people think and the expectation we have for how they should show up for us and showing up instead for ourselves.

When we can sit with ourselves and really ponder and figure out what our deeper core values are we learn to have our own back. We begin showing as more authentic and true to ourselves. We understand easier how to stand up for ourselves and be the version of us that we want to be.

The words we speak matter especially when we want to consider the kind of relationships we want to have and the person that we want to be. Not only do the words that we speak matter, but the intention behind them matters, the energy behind them matters, and the actions that we take matter. If we want to be the kind of person who people know they can come to and open up to and trust, then we would consider the way that we speak, the way that we show up and the energy that we put out into the world.

As you approach bedtime and the first part of your morning it’s imperative to have an uplifting positive routine that will benefit and bless you. In order to become the version of yourself that you want to become it takes more conscious efforts.

Real confidence is a feeling of self assurance that arises from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities. It is a state of feeling certain about the truth of something. Confidence is a feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or a firm trust. All of these definitions of confidence are rooted in what we believe about ourselves first, the truth of who we are, a firm trust in ourselves and a feeling of assurance and appreciation of our own abilities or qualities. Confidence will not come from outside validation or compliments. Confidence comes first within ourselves from ourselves about ourselves, focus on the qualities you already have and are good at and then build the confidence on the outside.

We may say that we want something to change in our life, maybe we want to change our health, maybe we want to overcome struggles, overcome fear, overcome thoughts that hold us back from achieving big goals. Have you ever noticed that we never change and our life doesn’t change or become what we want it to become just by doing nothing? It requires us to get out of what is called homeostasis so that we can create change in our life that is lasting. If you have a big goal or dream and find yourself self sabotaging, homeostasis is the reason why. Our brain doesn’t like the unknown and makes us think it’s dangerous to do things differently, but if we want to reach bigger goals we need to become a better new version of ourself first.

By believing in a higher source of power and paying attention to the synchronicities and miracles taking place daily, this journey can start to seem a lot simpler and will be more enjoyable. Our road map for this life is laid out before us if we will just seek for support from God and trust that he knows better than we do.

In this short to the point episode emily shares how everything is 50/50 and sometimes that’s hard to accept and understand when we’re in the thick of the “struggle”. Showing up with love, compassion, curiosity and understanding can help us be more present with those we care for and have the ability to influence.

All too often we want to stop feeling bad and feeling certain emotions because they’re uncomfortable, but if uou apply these 3 tips you may begin to feel a little relief. 1) just stay present 2) don’t judge yourself or others for these emotions and 3) if you don’t act in the emotion you may feel much more relief and connection.