In this episode of the Becoming You podcast, I share eight hard, yet necessary truths that we all need to embrace in order to live a life by design and not by default.
Truth #1: You’re never going to feel ready.
I always have to remind myself of this. This is especially true when you’re running your own business. You never feel qualified. You never feel worthy.
As painful as it may be to hear, there will be many moments in life where we need to take action before we feel “ready” (and again, we never actually will be).
Truth #2: You will make mistakes.
This is true even if you’re doing things right. In fact, that means you’re on the right track. Any goal worth achieving requires a truckload of mistakes to pop up all along the journey.
Stop worrying about making mistakes, and start focusing on what your mistakes can teach you.
Truth #3: There will always be someone better than you.
This is true in every area of life, whether we’re talking about your job, parenting, or a particular hobby.
And guess what? This is a great thing! See, instead of comparing yourself to others, you can compare your present self to your past self instead, and evaluate whether or not you’ve made progress.
Truth #4: People don’t care about you as much as you think they do.
We spend so much time and energy thinking about how others regard us.
We spend so much time trying to manipulate other people’s impressions of us, whether it’s our boss at work, our co-workers, or those in our peer group.
Here’s the thing: They don’t actually care all that much.
Nobody spends as much time thinking about you than yourself.
We live in our own head, so it makes sense that “everything is about us”.
Let’s always strive to be better while remembering that most people want the best for us, and not the other way around.
Truth #5: Don’t rely on motivation to get you through everything.
Motivation comes and goes.
Instead of relying on something fleeting, rely instead on your ability to stay consistent.
Truth #6: Drop your standards.
This may seem counterintuitive.
You might be an overachiever. You might be harsh on yourself when you underdeliver.
But here’s something to keep in mind:
Your 80% is someone else’s 100%.
Mediocrity for you is mastery to someone else.
Don’t stop showing up because you don’t think you can give it your all. Instead, celebrate yourself for doing the best you can.
Truth #7: The only way to not upset someone is to not speak, not have an opinion, and to not express yourself in any way.
In other words, if you don’t want to offend anyone, go mute.
Once you activate your voice, chances are you will ruffle someone’s feathers. The alternative is to go about life invisible.
Not really a better alternative, if you ask me!
Truth #8: Hard feelings need to be felt before they can be fixed.
It’s natural to want to fix our situation whenever we’re experiencing negative emotions, as if we have no business feeling those bad feelings.
But just as every conflict carries with it a seed of opportunity, we need to learn to sit in those hard feelings. When we insist on carrying that fighting energy, we resist how we feel in the moment, thinking they’ll go away sooner or later.
In truth, we’re only suppressing them for the time being, and when those feelings return, they return with a vengeance.
Surrender to every feeling, good and bad. We’re only human.
Always remember to ask: “What is this feeling teaching me?”
The second we embrace the fact that those tough moments are our most valuable teachers, we learn to lean in, listen closely, and emerge as better people in the end.
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