Before refusing your husbands advances remember A Submissive Wife should want to submit freely to her husband.

If you feel unwell explain this to your husband, don't expect him to be a mind reader

When you got married, you became one body and belonged to each other.

There is nothing more lonely than a cold marriage bed.

The more time you spend being intimate with your husband, the more you will want to be intimate with him the stronger your bond will become.