What are soft skills? How can they help you be a better leader? What soft skills do you really need to know?

In this podcast episode, Billy and Brandy Eldridge talk to Kevin McNulty about the soft skills that everybody needs to know.

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Meet Kevin McNulty

Kevin McNulty is an internationally recognized speaker, coach, and influence strategist.

He has three decades under his belt as a trusted coach and consultant for major organizations such as Jack Daniel’s, Schwan Cosmetics, NASA, and Department of Defense.

Mentored by the renowned Leadership Coach, Dr. Marshall Goldsmith, Kevin is now a premier thinker and practitioner in the soft skills and personal development arena. ​

Kevin is the author of The Gap Between Two Worlds—a self-help book on change, transition, and personal growth. It was endorsed by giants in the industry including Dr. Marshall Goldsmith, Brian Tracy, Nido Qubein and more. Kevin has also authored several visual teaching models that help audiences grasp various aspects of human dynamics.​

Kevin is a 20-year veteran of the US Air Force. In 2000, he founded Humadyn-Life Skills Institute and then in 2020 launched McNulty Life Skills Academy to bring his success principles to teenagers. Kevin is married to his wife Jane of 33 years; has a son and two daughters

Connect with Kevin on Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn. Listen to his podcast here.

In This Podcast

Summary

* Soft skills born out of necessity

* The gap between two worlds

* Life skills that work

Soft skills born out of necessity

The Air Force, in particular, is a bit more corporate than the other militaries so it wasn’t a hard sell, although the Army is evolving in that way too. In the realm of human relations education where Kevin was, soft skills were born out of necessity there too. Half of what human relations education was equal opportunity treatment which had to do more with race relations which were born out of necessity in the early 60s and 70s due to race riots shutting down military bases.

After this, the military started really building in the human relations programs and dealing primarily with race and cultural relations, now known as diversity and inclusion, but it was broader than just the diversity then, a lot of it had to do with leadership, team-building, and morale.

The gap between two worlds

Growing up, Kevin was a dreamer.

Do you think you’re a good listener? Are you really hearing what your partner is saying? How can active listening help you to work through conflict?

In this podcast episode, Billy and Brandy Eldridge talk about active listening and how to work through conflict resolution in a relationship.

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In This Podcast

Summary

* Shut down or blow up?

* Frustration

* Active listening

Shut down or blow up?

Draw a line with an arrow on each end. One end is pointing towards shutting down and the other towards blowing up. In the middle of that is learning and listening. That’s the window of tolerance. Billy found himself withdrawing, shutting down, and not listening to Brandy’s pain and frustration. He felt powerless and couldn’t fix it, but he wasn’t hearing that Brandy didn’t want him to fix it, she just needed him to hear her, empathize, and resonate with her frustration.

Frustration

It feels to Brandy as though Billy’s work and priorities are number one and she constantly has to readjust her plans. She’s working 40 hours a week with three kids at home and it is getting frustrating. The kids are getting frustrated too. Billy acknowledges that Brandy isn’t just putting the kids in front of the TV, there are so many things that she is doing to keep the machine that is their family going. He thanks Brandy for that, appreciates her and apologizes for when he doesn’t show it. That’s all Brandy needed – validation and understanding.

Active listening

When it comes to fostering a connection between people, it is mandatory when it comes to resolving conflict. You will never fully, mutually, resolve a conflict unless you employ active listening because someone’s going to be left feeling resentful, unheard, they’re going to have to stuff it… unless you put this stuff in play and it’s a life skill anybody can use.

Being a good, active listener, is the crux of everything. It is the crux for solving conflict, validating another human being, especially the ones you care for most in life. Whatever your profession you have to be mindful of that. Everyone needs to be heard.

* Start with understanding that your whole mission in active listening is to listen with the intent to understand the other person.

* Listen more than you talk.

* Let the speaker finish before you respond.

We often listen to respond, we’re thinking about what we’re going to say in response instead of letting their words “marinate” and absorbing them.

Clarifying

Clarifying is very important. It’s inviting the person you’re talking to, to explain some aspect of what they’re saying to make sure that you are really getting it. E.g. Billy says that what he hears Brandy telling him is that she is frustrated being at home and is overwhelmed with the kids, instead of defending why he thinks he’s being attacked. Clarify, don’t defend.

Paraphrasing

How often do you really listen? Do you listen to respond? How can you become a better listener?

In this podcast, Billy and Brandy Eldridge talk about active listening and how to listen with the intent to understand.

In This Podcast

Summary

* How do you listen?

* Understanding active listening

How do you listen?

We often have a hard time listening, as people and as betas. As a result, many people don’t feel heard. The truth is, you can’t truly resolve conflict without active listening. 

The core of the conflict is always selfishness and lack of communication. Selfish acts keep us from not being heard. As a beta, Billy internalizes or bottles things up and he gets his feelings hurt a lot. As an alpha, Brandy is direct and gets right to it.

Let’s take a look at their most recent argument for example. It was about the podcast. Billy wanted to take some time and come back to it later as it was overwhelming, and Brandy with her alpha personality was assertive and wanted to get the stuff done. Billy wanted to be connected, regulated, and centered. 

Understanding active listening

Active listening means listening more than you talk. It means listening with the intent to understand.

How do you listen to understand? For Billy, it means getting out of his head thinking about what he’s going to say next. It means going into your head and heart. Most of the time we’re listening to respond and not understand.

Are you listening to understand?

After a fight, do some self-reflection and reflection on action, after it’s happened. Then when you’re together, do reflection in action.

The more you practice reflection and experience, the more you grow, inward, and outward. Reflect both before and after a situation. 

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* Boston University Active Listening

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Meet Billy Eldridge

Meet Billy, the resident beta male. For Billy, this is a place to hang out with other beta males and the people who love them. We’re redefining what beta males look like in the world. I have learned to embrace my best beta self, and I can help you to do the same. As a therapist, I understand the need to belong. You belong here. Join the REVOLUTION.

 

Meet Brandy Eldridge

Hello, Beta friends. I am an alpha personality who is embracing the beta way of life. I feel alive when connected with people, whether that is listening to their stories or learning about their passions. Forget small talk, let’s go deep together. Come to the table and let’s have some life-changing conversations.

 

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Do you consider yourself to be a mature person? What can you do to be a better leader? How can you upgrade your maturity?

In this podcast episode, Billy and Brandy Eldridge speak to Dr. Larry Liberty about going from being a Peace Corps volunteer to a NASA Project Manager, and going from immaturity to maturity to become a better leader.

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Meet Dr. Larry Liberty

Dr. Larry Liberty has over thirty years of education and experience working with top corporations and organizational leaders worldwide, providing expertise in accelerating individual performance and success, coaching leaders and managers, and creating high-performance work teams and cultures.

A former Peace Corps volunteer and NASA project manager, Dr. Liberty has been working with Fortune 500 companies, government, and nonprofit agencies since 1985 and has taught at international MBA programs in Switzerland, Austria, and Germany. He is the author of The Maturity Factor: Solving the Mystery of Great Leadership.

Visit Dr. Larry’s website.

In This Podcast

Summary

* Creating cohesiveness amongst people in a dog-eat-dog world

* Going from immaturity to maturity

* How to be a better leader

* Upgrading your maturity

Creating cohesiveness amongst people in a dog-eat-dog world

Dr. Larry believes that a lot of people have warrior’s hearts. They have the heart of wanting to protect things that need protecting and the heart of wanting to ensure that things work. There are a lot of people who want that in life. The nature of our society, up until recently, has meant that people promoted to the top were very often the ones with the least ethical mooring, the ones who would do anything to produce the “results”. There are a lot of fine people in organizations, but often, they aren’t at the top. Dr. Larry’s basic philosophy is to find people who have the maturity, passion, and values, to grow systematically together. These are the people Dr. Larry works with. There are people everywhere looking for someone to connect with, to make things better, to make things work, and do the right thing. It’s Dr. Larry’s job to seek them out and support and empower them.

Going from immaturity to maturity

A special quality that human beings have, that is our biggest resource and advantage, is self-awareness. Self-awareness is the key to the kingdom, as far as Dr. Larry can tell. Self-awareness, the ability to sense ourselves, feel our bodies, feel our emotions, and sense our minds and our spiritual connection – that is our entry pass into maturity. When people aren’t self-aware, they’re constantly defending their actions and not listening to other people. Their egos are inflated and they have a hard time regulating their emotions, their anger, and their frustrations. They are triggered very easily. Maturity is not a function of age.

Where do we start to do anti-racism work? What is the fault in picking sides? Are you comfortable and not opening yourself up to having the real, important conversations?

In this podcast episode, Billy and Brandy Eldridge speak to Monica and Ricky Washington about listening and learning about racism.

Meet Monica and Ricky Washington

Monica Washington is a solution designer and an instructional coach for BetterLesson, supporting teachers and other instructional coaches across the country as they make positive shifts in instruction and leadership. A decorated educator of twenty-two years, Monica has received honors and awards from a wide variety of organizations for her leadership, advocacy, and classroom instruction. She is a 2015 Milken Unsung Hero Fellow and a 2015 NEA Foundation Global Fellow. In addition to instructional coaching, Monica supports teachers through workshops, speaking engagements, and blogging for Education Week and Education Post. Her, “4 Things Great Principals Don’t Do,” was the most read and shared Education Week opinion post of 2017. She is passionate about creating equitable and inclusive school environments that celebrate teacher and student voice, and she serves as a Leading Educator Ambassador for Equity for the Education Civil Rights Alliance. Additionally, she serves on the Board of Directors for the National Education Association Foundation and The National Network of State Teachers of the Year. Monica is the 2014 Texas Teacher of the Year.

Ricky Washington is an educator of over 18 years. He has taught middle school language arts and social studies in Memphis City Schools, Texarkana Independent School District, and Queen City ISD. He is known for establishing positive relationships with students and families, and his goal is to create a classroom environment in which all students feel respected and heard.

In This Podcast

Summary

* Where do we start

* Picking sides

* Getting uncomfortable

Where do we start

Just listen. If you normally are in the blue room, go in the red room sometimes and look around and see what’s there. Pick up something you wouldn’t normally wouldn’t read, and read it.

People feel like they want to ask and want to do things but they don’t want to say the wrong thing. This, however, is a journey of learning, its a continuum, there is no workshop you can attend or one book you can read that will suddenly make you feel like you’ve got it.

* Have a conversation

* Step outside of your circle

* Challenge your own beliefs and surround yourself with people who have different beliefs

Picking sides

We think we have to pick a side, but sometimes there is beauty in the middle. When you look at the positives here and the positives there, and you stay in the middle, that’s where the work happens. It doesn’t happen by staying on one side with people who think what you think.

Getting uncomfortable

Good things come from getting uncomfortable. If we’re going to get uncomfortable about a topic, then why not this one?

Listen to understand, there are voices to be heard. As a human when people are hurting, just extend a hand.

Books mentioned in this episode

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How important is it to play with your children? Can children learn to manage their anger and self-regulation? What can you do to make sure that you meet your children’s core emotional needs?

In this podcast episode, Billy and Brandy Eldridge speak to Brent Sweitzer about play therapy, parenting and how you can connect with you children and meet their emotional needs.

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Meet Brent Sweitzer

Brent Sweitzer, LPC, RPT specializes in helping distant couples reconnect and in helping children kids manage losses and challenges using play therapy. He is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Registered Play Therapist, which means he has received special training and supervision in using the medium of play to work with children of all ages.

He is also extensively trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, a well-researched approach that helps couples overcome longstanding conflicts in order to feel closer and communicate better. He runs his own private practice, Sweitzer Counseling that serves the communities of Cumming, Johns Creek, Alpharetta, and the surrounding communities in Atlanta, GA. He is married and has two young children of his own. When he’s not connecting with clients or his family, he’s often exploring the great outdoors or strumming his guitar.

Visit his website and connect on Facebook. Sign up here to be notified when his podcast launches.

In This Podcast

Summary

* From marketing to therapy

* Receiving compliments

* A 30-second burst of attention

* Playing with your kids

From marketing to therapy

I just felt this tug that said maybe I need to do this for other people. Maybe this is what I am made for.

After working in the television industry for a number of years, Brent found himself to be very discontent. At this time he was doing a lot of his own counseling to help heal from wounding and things with his upbringing. And as a client he found himself resonating with the work. The field resonated with him and he got so much help from it that he found himself thinking that he would like to do this for other people.

Receiving compliments

In his own therapy experience, Brent experienced a way his own therapist would acknowledge a compliment. Since then he privately started practicing this by rubbing his hand over his heart when receiving a compliment as a way of validating a gift that was given to him through a compliment or word of encouragement.

A 30-second burst of attention

As parents, when we get interrupted by our children we often tend to say ‘not right now’. This can unintentionally send a message to your child that what you’re doing is more important than they are. A way to acknowledge your child’s presence or meet their needs in the m...

Are you a happy person? Do you feel like you’ve lost control to your inner critic? How can we be happy during times of crisis?

In this podcast episode, Billy and Brandy Eldridge speak to Dr. Elia Gourgouris about happiness, embracing or changing our brand, and shifting our perspective during the pandemic.

Meet Dr. Elia Gourgouris

Dr. Gourgouris is a UCLA graduate and holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology. He is the President of The Happiness Center and best-Selling author of 7 Paths to Lasting Happiness, Podcast Host of The Kindness and Happiness Connection, and has a new book: 7 Keys to Navigating a Crisis.

His message is featured on major social media outlets across the globe like the HuffPost’s Thrive Global.

Visit his website and connect on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, and Instagram.

In This Podcast

Summary

* How happiness became Dr. Elia’s brand

* Changing or embracing your brand

* Dr. Elia’s work with recovery groups

* Regaining self-worth and our self-esteem when dealing with an inner critic

* Shift your perspective on where you’re at in the world during this pandemic

* The seven keys to navigating crisis

How happiness became Dr. Elia’s brand

Our personal brand is one of the core ingredients to our personal happiness and fulfillment.

Dr. Elia says that he was born happy, the nurses at the hospital referred to him as “the happy one “ and it became his brand. Growing up, he was told over and over again that he was born happy, came out of the womb happy, and was just the happy go lucky kid.

Some brands are positive and should be embraced, like smart, cute, happy, loving, creative, athletic, etc, however, a lot of people’s brands are very negative.

Changing or embracing your brand

Dr. Elia has worked primarily with women and, from their feedback, he has his own informal statistics showing the top three common negative brands; the stupid one, the ugly one, and the fat one. At a women’s conference once, while discussing this negative branding, he was confronted by a woman in her 70s who had been branded all three of these over the course of her life. Right there and then she decided to empower herself and see herself differently from then on. So, if a woman in her 70s, after decades of this negative trifecta, can change her brand then why can’t you? If you have a positive brand, embrace it! If you have a negative brand, don’t waste one more day believing what you were told.

Dr. Elia’s work with recovery groups

Dr. Elia’s dissertation was on “Alcoholics Anonymous”. As the meetings were anonymous, it was very difficult to get in and do research. Dr. Elia started attending meetings, even though he wasn’t an addict and fell in love with the 12-step process. As a result of that, when he started his private practice, he did a lot of addiction and recovery treatment.

Gratitude (the second path to happiness) is key to recovery, you cannot be grateful and depressed at the same time, it’s not physically possible. It is easy to be grateful when things are going well but how do you have gratitude when things aren’t working out,

What could be a reason for an author to not continue with a series? How can a creative outlet be therapeutic after suffering trauma?

In this podcast, Billy and Brandy Eldridge speak with author Matt Coleman about his books, writing with authenticity, and dealing with the unexpected loss of his ex-wife.

Meet Matt Coleman

Matt Coleman’s first pieces of writing were about his great-grandmother’s homemade beer and his own childhood trips into the backwoods of southern Arkansas to search for Bigfoot. Since then, both his writing and his life haven’t strayed too far from his Arkansan roots. He lives in Texarkana, Arkansas

Matt graduated from Texas A&M University-Texarkana with an M.A. in English. While finishing his degree, he worked with the East Texas Writing Project. After college, he spent five years teaching seventh grade English in a rural East Texas town. He then returned to Texarkana to teach for another four years at the high school where he graduated. His career in education has also included writing and literature instruction on a college level and work in adult learning with teachers of all levels. He continues to work in the education field as a school improvement specialist.

As a writer, Matt has long been inspired by crime writers such as Dashiell Hammett and Walter Mosley and southern writers like Flannery O’Connor. His writing has appeared in various places, including apt Literary Magazine and Shotgun Honey. He also spent three years as a writer for the comedy podcast, The City Life Supplement. His debut novel, Juggling Kittens, came out in 2016 from Pandamoon Publishing. His second novel, Graffiti Creek, was released during the summer of 2018. And in the spring of 2019, Theater 3 of Dallas will produce Raptured: A Sex Farce at the End of the World​, a play he co-wrote with Matt Lyle.

Visit Matt’s website and connect on Facebook and Twitter.

In This Podcast

Summary

* That moment Brandy caught on camera

* Juggling Kittens

* The leap from Juggling Kittens to A Rocky Divorce

* Parenting through tragedy

That moment Brandy caught on camera

Matt and Brandy started working together in 2009, in education, focused on the creative process in professional development, basically teacher training which was actually really good. They presented their training in several places including, California, Arkansas, and Texas, traveling together and really became good friends.

On one occasion, traveling from a conference in Little Rock while Brandy was pregnant, Matt felt ill and had to pull the car over. He passed out for a few minutes and Brandy had to call an ambulance. Matt woke up when the ambulance arrived and promptly threw up, denying the services of the paramedics, insisting that he was fine and that Brandy could drive home. Brandy was convinced that no one would believe the scenario so snapped a photograph which is now Matt’s Amazon profile picture.

Juggling Kittens

The book is about a first-year teacher who has a baby on the way, and he has a student who goes missing, a student that he teaches in seventh grade. He ends up being the only person who cares about that kid, and he goes looking for him. It then gets connected to another horrible case of a missing young child. All of the mystery of the book is obviously very fictional but all of the stories about the teacher, soon-to-be parent, etc. are autobiographical.

The leap from Juggling Kittens to A Rocky Divorce

Juggling Kittens was always intended to be a series, following the main character through a series of mysteries. After writing the book,

What does it mean to step into your story? Are you comparing yourself to other people? How can you embrace your trauma?

In this podcast, Billy and Brandy Eldridge share insight into Brandy’s story about being a latchkey kid, facing various types of insecurities, embracing trauma, and hustling for worthiness.

In This Podcast

Summary

* Brandy’s story

You either walk inside your story and own it, or you stand outside your story and hustle for worthiness – Brené Brown

Brandy’s story

That’s my story, it’s all of the above, it’s a wrestle, it’s a push and pull, it’s an inner hippy wanting to get out, it’s this sense of responsibility to make the world a better place. It’s being insecure and living in all these insecurities that come up all the time, and it’s this constant struggle of pushing them back and being confident and being a world changer or trying to be. It’s a story like everybody else’s

At 10 years old Brandy moved to Texarkana, East Texas from San Franciso, California. She thinks to herself, “Where the hell am I in this God-forsaken land?” There were no sidewalks, no skyscrapers, people talked funny and she couldn’t understand what they were saying. There were traditions and there were old Southern roots that she knew nothing about. Brandy knew that this new place she found herself was worlds apart from the place she grew up in.

Growing up in California being raised by a single mom, she had an absent father as her parents divorced when she was very young, all Brandy knew was that her mother was a place of safety and she was resilient. They moved around a lot and Brandy was always in and out of schools. At the age of 5, Brandy was a latchkey kid and because of all her trauma, she deals with a lot of food, financial, and educational insecurity.

Brandy had never intended to go to college as she had always just thought she would go straight into work. But all of her friends started going to college so she applied for a scholarship and got one for voice, she wanted to sing on Broadway. She, however, decided against this as she was financially insecure and didn’t want to be poor so she went into education and became a teacher.

In her second year of teaching, at the age of 22, she took off to Europe for a year. Once she came back she got her Masters’s Degree and worked for a corporate company in Dallas. Brandy was paid really well for this job and she absolutely loved working there. At this point though, she was gaining weight and couldn’t lose it, despite working out and eating less, she thought it was because of stress so she went to the doctor and had some tests done. Her results came back showing that she had a brain tumor.

I don’t like being defined by my circumstances, that is not going to be who I am.

Brandy very quickly made peace with death, did chemo all by herself for 8 months, and then moved back to East Texas, had surgery to remove the tumor. Fast forward to later down the line, Billy married Brandy and was told she couldn’t have kids. They now have 3!

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* Ego Check | Episode 4

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How do you recognize the ego and do an ego check? How does your ego show up in arguments? How do you remove the ego when it shows up?

In this podcast, Billy and Brandy Eldridge talk about checking your ego and how it can play a big part in betas lives.

In This Podcast

Summary

* Billy’s ego

* The failure résumé

* How do you do an ego check?

Billy’s ego

After rehab, Billy found himself in an entry-level position with a chip on his shoulder as he had already worked in managerial positions prior. He felt like they were trying to show him how to do his job. From the beginning, his ego was hurt because he took a job that he thought was beneath him and he felt entitled to more.

When he was called into the office one day, his ego went supercharged. He felt like he had rights, and got defensive. He wasn’t surprised when he got a call that he shouldn’t come back.

The failure résumé

Brandy went through a failure resume which is anti-ego. This meant listing all the failures she had in life, without making an excuse for it. You had to own the stuff you didn’t want to, without defending it. Brandy is still noticing patterns of ego and finding things out about herself.

It’s important to have these conversations and remove ourselves from the center of the universe.

How do you do an ego check?

When Billy’s ego is engaged, his blood pressure goes up, his heart begins to race, gets short of breath, shoulders get tense, his jaw is clenched, and he needs to self soothe with deep breathing or stretching. During a fight, ask for a time out with 10 minutes to be able to do these techniques.

For Brandy, she has to ask herself a couple of questions. She has to talk to herself and ask where her anger is coming from, as well as ask for a break. When you’re defending yourself, that’s ego. There’s a difference between defending yourself and explaining yourself. Some of these questions are:

Why am I being defensive? Why aren’t you moving to the left of your ego? It’s okay to admit that you’re wrong.

Do you have a strong need to be right?  Does it feel like you’re going to lose something that you think belongs to you? It’s more than important to recognize the ego when it shows up. Cleaning your wreckage up, and putting aside your ego is important for growth.

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* Mild At Heart | Episode 3

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Meet Billy Eldridge

Meet Billy, the resident beta male. For Billy, this is a place to hang out with other beta males and the people who love them. We’re redefining what beta males look like in the world. I have learned to embrace my best beta self, and I can help you to do the same. As a therapist, I understand the need to belong. You belong here. Join the REVOLUTION.

 

Meet Brandy Eldridge

Hello, Beta friends. I am an alpha personality who is embracing the beta way of life. I feel alive when connected with people, whether that is listening to their stories or learning about their passions. Forget small talk, let’s go deep together. Come to the table and let’s have some life-changing conversations.

 

Thanks for listening!