Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Infidelity

After discovering your spouse had betrayed you sexually, what was your initial reaction? We bet it wasn’t joy. We know that there are many volatile emotions that come on the heels of that shocking and devastating news - among them pain, anger, and confusion.

As you try to make sense of the senseless in your new unwanted reality, you may find yourself desperately longing for relief from the ever-present despair that threatens to overwhelm you.

On today’s show, we are going to explore joy. What is joy? Is it different than happiness? Why would you even consider joy after betrayal? Does this sound impossible?

While it may seem counterintuitive, we believe that even in the midst of the most painful and destructive event of your life, joy is still possible. Intrigued?

Well, pour yourself a cool, summertime beverage and settle in as we unpack this thought-provoking topic of how and why to choose joy after betrayal.

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me

Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal

Episode 12. His Adultery Shattered My Reality. How Do I Know What’s Real?

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Many of us have heard the phrase “Freedom Isn’t Free” and if you have not heard it, you likely understand the idea behind it knowing that in order to gain freedom of any kind some form of sacrifice needs to be made. And sacrifices are not called sacrifices because they are easy.

Are you feeling like you’re trapped in a never-ending cycle of anger, confusion, shame, and pain? Do you long for freedom from your current circumstance? 

In today’s show, we will discuss how freedom to live in a new and intimate marriage can come at a high cost. Are you willing to pay it?

So, grab yourself a summertime drink, like a cool Mint Julep, and listen in for a compelling look at the importance of gaining freedom in your marriage and how to maintain it.

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Johnny and Emily

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Episode 59. Is It Over? Take These 5 Steps to Save Your Marriage After Adultery

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The day you never imagined you’d ever live to see has come and gone; D-Day. You have discovered sexual betrayal in your marriage. Whether you found out or your spouse confessed, you can’t believe that this has happened. You may be asking yourself, Is my marriage over? Is it worth saving? Is it possible to move forward?

Today we are going to answer those questions from our own perspective. Spoiler alert, we did make the choice to stay married and we are so glad we did! Even though it has been the hardest and most painful journey we have ever embarked on, it has been worth it to experience the safety, trust and true intimacy created out of the ashes of a marriage destroyed by porn-fueled infidelity.

We are going to outline 5 steps that will help you receive healing from your trauma and save your marriage. Please stay with us to the end of this episode for a special limited opportunity.

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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Episode 25. Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work?

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Do you ever stop and wonder why? Why did this happen? Have you lamented, “Can anything good ever come of it?”

When the discovery of sexual betrayal threatens to destroy your marriage, you may think you won’t survive it. Then, if you have made the choice to stay and do the hard work of recovery, you start to see God working in your life and marriage to bring hope and healing. A little further down the road on this journey, you might see how much God has blessed you and wonder why others in this situation can’t seem to recover.

Today we will answer those questions and possibly give you a bigger vision of God’s greater purpose in our suffering. Grab a beverage and join us for a hopeful conversation.

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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Episode 24. Would You Marry Your Betraying Spouse Again? Renewing Vows After Porn-Fueled Infidelity. This Time...Mean It

Episode 42. Recovery Step 12: A Great Awakening - 7 Ways to Serve Others While Healing From Sex Addiction

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What is isolation, and where does it truly begin?

Imagine a lone animal in the wild, separated from its herd. We've all seen those heart-wrenching documentary scenes where isolation turns them into easy prey. Nature's example is a powerful reminder of a harsh reality: when we isolate ourselves from our community, we become vulnerable to the schemes and traps of our Enemy who is actively looking to devour us. (1 peter 5:8)

In isolation, destructive and addictive behaviors often take root, dragging us deeper into darkness. But there's hope! How can we break free from the chains of isolation and reclaim our lives?

Grab your favorite drink and join us for this compelling discussion about the perils of isolation and the practical steps to emerge from its oppressive grip. Together, we'll explore how to reconnect, rebuild, and thrive once again.

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire

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Episode 18. Feeling Like I’m Not Enough. What If Pornography Is Not My True Addiction?

Episode 26. Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull

Episode 42. Recovery Step 12: A Great Awakening - 7 Ways to Serve Others While Healing From Sex Addiction     

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As a recovering sex-addict, I now find comfort in knowing that my addiction was real and that there is hope through recovery that I will not have to live the rest of my life as a “dis-integrated” man, always trying to hide myself from others based on a lie that if they really knew what I was doing, they would reject me.

But I didn’t always understand that I truly was a sex-addict. It wasn’t until the idea was expressed to me by someone else that I made the choice to face the reality that sex-addiction could be a present and active part of my life. Having accepted this as a possibility, I sought out help for myself and ultimately found recovery from sex-addiction through a 12-step program.

In today’s show, we’re going to share some resources to help you discover for yourself if sex-addiction is the destructive force lurking in the darkness of your mind. If so, there is a way out!

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire

Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d

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Episode 16. "It’s Just Porn, What’s The Big Deal?” And 4 Other Lies We Tell Ourselves To Justify Viewing Pornography

Episode 17. Is My Spouse A Porn Addict? 13 Clues To Help Expose Compulsive Sexual Behavior

Episode 25. Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work?

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Have you ever felt like God was nudging you towards something challenging in life?  Maybe a call to step out of your comfort zone and venture into the unknown. It can be intimidating, right? Would you be willing to take that leap of faith and trust that God has your best interests at heart, even when the path ahead seems uncertain? If you have taken that leap, have you experienced God's faithfulness along the way?

Well, we certainly have, and today we want to share our journey with you. It's a story of moving from betrayal and brokenness to healing and hope that has God’s fingerprints all over it. The twists and turns have been surprising, and we are continually in awe at the Lord’s provision every step of the way.

Our podcast is one year old today, and you are a huge reason for it. So, grab a refreshing drink and join us as we recount how we got here, where we are now, and the future ahead with God leading the way. Let’s celebrate together!

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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The Healing Apology – Episode #10 (request your copy at [email protected])

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Episode 01. ”Why Are We Talking About Betrayal?” A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer

Episode 04. Sharing Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery

Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology    

Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal

Episode 50. Are You Thriving or Just Surviving in Marriage After Sexual Betrayal

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Does a cheating husband who has chosen the path of repentance and recovery experience any losses? The short answer is yes. But it may not be evident to a betrayed wife, especially when stacked up against her seemingly infinite losses. She may not see many tangible losses or consequences for his infidelity.

Today, we are going to outline some perceived perks received by the husband stemming from extra-marital relationships and contrast them with losses his wife experiences due to his betrayal. We’ll also address a question from one of our Beyond Broken Vows Insiders as she wonders, “Are there truly any significant losses for the betrayer and if so, what are they?” You may find that you identify with some of these “perks” and/or losses from your own experience with sexual betrayal.

So, get comfy and settle in for a deeply personal conversation about loss, but also the hope we have in Christ in the midst of pain and injustice.

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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Episode 09. I’m So Angry! How I Overcame Anger from Sexual Betrayal in 3 Simple But Not Easy Steps

Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal

Episode 22. How Long Will This Hurt? Experiencing The 5 Stages of Grief Through the Lens of Sexual Betrayal    

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One of our listeners wrote in to ask a question about how to help her friend who is going through the pain of sexual betrayal. First, we just want to say how grateful we are for those of you who take time to write us and share what’s on your heart. We love to get questions that we can answer from our experience. Please keep them coming!

Today we will discuss two different types of friends in this scenario and the best way for each of them to help a friend going through this difficult journey.

So, grab a refreshing beverage and join us as we unpack what it looks like to be a good friend.

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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The Healing Apology (request your copy at [email protected])

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Episode 09. I’m So Angry! How I Overcame Anger from Sexual Betrayal in 3 Simple But Not Easy Steps

Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal

Episode 22. How Long Will This Hurt? Experiencing The 5 Stages of Grief Through the Lens of Sexual Betrayal    

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After betrayal, big emotions are a reality. When expressed well and received well, they can be a catalyst for healing and growth. 

Today we will be talking about big emotions, what they are and how to handle them properly. We will also give you insight to the benefits of working through big emotions together to promote connection and intimacy.

We’re excited to share our perspective on this topic as we have lived it and learned from it. So pop in your earbud and join us for a riveting conversation about BIG emotions.

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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The Healing Apology (request your copy at [email protected])

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Episode 09. I’m So Angry! How I Overcame Anger from Sexual Betrayal in 3 Simple But Not Easy Steps

Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology

Episode 13. His Triggers, Her Triggers – 4 Steps For Dealing With Triggers While Healing From Infidelity

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