Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Infidelity

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We started the Beyond Broken Vows podcast with nothing but a desire to obey God’s call in the middle of our own shattered marriage.

Now, looking back after three years of walking through that fire with Him, we know one thing for certain: He is the ultimate Redeemer.

Our journey has been defined by the hard, holy work of surrender, and we are here to invite you into that same hope.

If you’re listening to us today and questioning if your marriage can survive this season, don’t lose heart—God is already at work in the middle of your mess.

We want you to know that the hard work of recovery is definitely worth it and that God has a purpose for your pain.

Your story isn’t finished!

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We often talk about the weight of sexual betrayal, but rarely do we discuss the invisible, spiritual webs that keep us tethered to our past. A soul tie is more than just a memory; it is an emotional and spiritual connection formed when we yield our body and heart to another.

While God established this spiritual framework to be the cornerstone of a healthy, covenant marriage, the Enemy of our souls loves to pervert it, using it to create destructive bonds that linger long after a sinful act has ended.

If you find yourself haunted by the ghost of a past relationship, unable to fully give your heart to your spouse, or trapped in cycles of obsession and emotional instability, you may be walking in the shadow of an ungodly soul tie. These connections do more than just distract; they provide a legal foothold for spiritual oppression and hinder the very intimacy you are called to experience in your marriage.

Join us as we look at the reality of these spiritual bonds, review some indicators of the presence of soul ties, and learn how to use the authority of Christ to sever those ties, break the Enemy’s influence, and fully restore your heart to the covenant you promised to honor.

We pray this blesses you!

Johnny and Emily

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Soul Tie Prayer

Father, I confess to you the ungodly soul tie that I created by entering into an emotional/sexual relationship with ______.

Today, I break this soul tie and all ties with ______.

I release ______ to you to act according to your will and purpose. I choose today to re-establish my exclusive covenant with my spouse. I commit to love and honor him/her with my thoughts and actions. I pledge my unwavering fidelity to my spouse until we are parted by death. It is by the shed blood of Jesus and the word of my testimony that that I decree this today. I rest in Jesus' words "It is finished". Amen

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Episode 16. ”It’s Just Porn, What’s The Big Deal?” And 4 Other Lies We Tell Ourselves To Justify Viewing Pornography

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In our series, Beyond the Wall of Isolation, we’ve spent the last several weeks dismantling the myths that keep Christian couples trapped in cycles of secrecy and shame. We’ve talked about the masks we wear, the burdens we carry, and the importance of a united front when it comes to our children.

But we know that for many of you, this series feels like it might be a little late. You’re listening and thinking, “I wish I had heard this sooner. I’ve already shared too much with my kids. I’ve already crossed those lines, and the damage is done.”

If that’s you, we want you to know something important: It is not too late to make it right.

In this final episode of our Beyond the Wall series, we are tackling the reality of “over-disclosure.” If your children already know the graphic details or have been used as confidants during your crisis, you aren’t a failure, you’re a parent who was caught in the middle of a storm.

But what if you didn’t have to stay stuck in that regret?

In this episode, we’re busting the myth that “it’s too late.” We’re going to walk through the practical, grace-filled steps for making amends.

We’ll show you how to:

You haven’t ruined the future, and you don’t have to carry the regret of those conversations alone. Join us today as we learn how to clean up the mess with grace and start the long, beautiful road to genuine repair.

We pray this blesses you!

Johnny and Emily

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RELATED EPISODES:

Episode 14. To Tell Or Not To Tell: 3 Things We Did Right (And 1 Thing We Didn’t) When Deciding to Who Needs To Know Our Infidelity Story

Episode 38. Recovery Step 9: Become an Action Hero! Righting the Wrongs of Our Destructive Sexual Behavior)

Episode 154. Beyond the Wall of Isolation (Series Intro)

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In our current series, Behind the Wall of Isolation, we are dismantling the myths that keep Christian couples trapped in cycles of secrecy and shame.

Today we’re tackling something that keeps a lot of parents awake at night…

Should we talk to the kids about the betrayal?

And if so, when?

And how?

When hiding the reality of our marriage from our kids, we aren’t just trying to protect them; we are navigating a minefield of our own fears.

We’re going over 8 common fears parents feel when they choose to isolate their children from the truth of their struggle and also give you some answers to the when and how questions.

We pray this blesses you!

Johnny and Emily

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RELATED EPISODES:

Episode 14. To Tell Or Not To Tell: 3 Things We Did Right (And 1 Thing We Didn’t) When Deciding to Who Needs To Know Our Infidelity Story

Episode 154. Beyond the Wall of Isolation (Series Intro)

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In our ongoing series, Behind the Wall of Isolation, we are stripping away the myths that keep Christian couples stuck in cycles of secrecy and shame.

Building on our conversations about why “keeping it in-house” never protects a marriage, today’s episode walks through eight fears that stop many wives from sharing their story with others.

Join us as we address these obstacles head-on and discuss how to find the courage to step out of the shadows.

We pray this blesses you!

Johnny and Emily

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Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

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RELATED EPISODES:

Episode 14. To Tell Or Not To Tell: 3 Things We Did Right (And 1 Thing We Didn’t) When Deciding to Who Needs To Know Our Infidelity Story

Episode 154. Beyond the Wall of Isolation (Series Intro)

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Have you encountered one of the most dangerous traps in the entire recovery process?

Today we’re talking to husbands, who have been unfaithful to their wives, about the myth of “Managing the Reputation” which can trap men, and marriages, in isolation.

Husband’s, you may be terrified of what people will think if they see the reality behind the mask you wear. You’re holding onto the “honorable” version of yourself while also holding onto the secret of your sin that nullifies your honor.

The truth is that your reputation is a house of cards. If it’s built on a hollow foundation of secret sin, it’s already gone.

You aren’t protecting a reputation; you’re protecting your pride, and your pride becomes one of the biggest obstacles to your wife’s healing and your true reconciliation with God. You cannot be a man of integrity while living a life of duplicity.

Join us as we outline 8 common fears that keep husbands behind the wall of isolation and give hope for moving beyond isolation into freedom.  

We pray this blesses you!

Johnny and Emily

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Episode 14. To Tell Or Not To Tell: 3 Things We Did Right (And 1 Thing We Didn’t) When Deciding to Who Needs To Know Our Infidelity Story

Episode 154. Beyond the Wall of Isolation (Series Intro)

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Isolation is the secret weapon of betrayal. When a husband is hiding a life of porn or stepping outside the marriage for sex, he’s essentially building a wall. He’s living a double life, and that wall keeps his wife on the outside holding her breath, while he’s off in his own dark, private world.

It kills intimacy, it kills trust, and honestly, it turns marriage into a performance.

The goal is to dismantle the wall of secrecy so that the atmosphere of the home can move from the shadows of betrayal to the light of genuine, albeit painful, restoration.

Recovery isn’t just about stopping the sin; it is about regaining what was lost, stolen, or given away and building a new marriage that is actually intimate - because it is honest.

We pray this blesses you!

Johnny and Emily

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Episode 14. To Tell Or Not To Tell: 3 Things We Did Right (And 1 Thing We Didn’t) When Deciding to Who Needs To Know Our Infidelity Story

Episode 57. Alone No More: How Isolation Fuels Sex-Addiction and How to Defeat It

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In this episode, we explore the destructive cycle of objectification, which is the act of stripping away a person’s humanity to turn them into a mere object for our own selfish purposes.

Whether performed mentally through imagination, emotionally to soothe personal discomfort, verbally, or physically, this objectification mindset can be a gateway to sin.

When we begin to view others as parts rather than as individuals with souls, we desensitize ourselves, making the unthinkable possible.

If you are struggling to maintain purity in your marriage or seeking freedom from long-term porn addiction, this conversation is for you. We break down the mechanics of how we strip humanity from others and, more importantly, how to stop the cycle.

We pray this blesses you!

Johnny and Emily

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Episode 97. "The Bubble" - What Makes Sex Addiction So Cunning, Baffling, and Powerful?

Episode 126. Forgiving Yourself After Betraying Your Wife

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Hello Man of God,

Have you been stuck in a seemingly unending cycle of persistent sexual integrity issues - be it pornography, one-night stands, sex workers, or long-term sexual relationships, only to find yourself in prayer, at the "alter" or at the "foot of the cross" asking God to remove this sin from your life?

Did God answer you??

Did God remove your desire for pornography??

For many of us the answer was no. For some, the answer was not what we thought it would be.

What if God's plan to save you was to expose you and lay you out bare for all to see?

What if God loved you so much that he exposed you; doing for you what you could not or would not do for yourself?

Today we will spend some time talking about when God's plan to help us, is through exposing us. Johnny will share his personal story of when God was giving him the way out – the way to freedom.

You will not want to miss this impactful conversation, so find a quiet spot to listen for what God may be telling you.

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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Episode 16. ”It’s Just Porn, What’s The Big Deal?” And 4 Other Lies We Tell Ourselves To Justify Viewing Pornography

Episode 25. Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work?

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