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Blog: Stop torturing yourself with other people's potential


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It's a tale as old as time:

Girl meets boy. Boy is kind of lame, or a bit of a jerk, or not super committed to the idea of a relationship. But ah, boy could be so much more! There's a glimmer of ambition and wisdom and emotional availability under the surface, and girl is going to mine that for all it's worth.

Until, inevitably, she's gob-smacked by reality when boy fails to change, reciprocate her efforts, or become the partner she built up in her head. Not for the first, nor usually the last time, she has to learn that not all that glitters is gold.

And lest you think this is a stereotypical example (it is, and for good reason), keep in mind that people of all genders do this with everyone — bosses, coworkers, friends, family.

It's a near-universal human compulsion to see potential in people. And that reflects nicely on humans, in general. But that tendency is also easy to take too far.

So, how do you stop torturing yourself with other people's potential? And how do you know when someone actually does have the potential to change? When is it right to give up on someone, versus stick it out with them?

I'm diving into the answers to all of that in this month's new blog!

HOLIDAY SPECIAL ON THE PPSC STARTS NEXT WEEK!

Starting Tuesday, December 10th (and ending on the 17th), we're offering a holiday special on The Passion Profile Short Course!

  • For that week, the course will be $50 off its usual price.
  • Anyone who signs up in that window will get access to a LIVE online workshop with us in January (date TBD) where we'll be answering questions and talking about how to set "anti-resolutions" in the new year (AKA, goals you'll actually stick to).
  • AND (this is a big one) anyone who signs up during that window will also get grandfathered into our 2019 coaching rates, and will get a chance to do coaching before we open enrollment again in March!

The PPSC is the easiest place to get started if you're new to Clarity on Fire and need help getting unstuck. It's only 5-ish hours, which means you can sit down and find some career direction in as little as one day.

Tune in to our episode from Tuesday, November 26, to hear us dive more into why getting clear on your Passion Profile matters so much more than focusing on "finding your passion."

And if you want more Passion Profile content, check out these episodes, too:

Side Chat: The 4 Passion Profiles (December 2018)

Sorting Harry Potter characters by Passion Profile (May 2019)

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