If I want to test the unconditional love of any friend, family member, or future spouse, I have one epic assignment for them—Go on vacation with me, and if we both make it back alive and still sort-of liking each other, then we're made to last.

Last summer Kristen and I flew to Europe for my 30th birthday. We spent half the time in Austria, with my brother and his wife, and the other half in Scotland with my mom. My brother and his wife only have one spare room, so Kristen and I had to share a bed. By the second night, Kristen was on the couch (and would stay there every night until we left).

I am, uh, not pleasant to travel with, to say the least.

What can I say? It brings out the worst of my tendencies. I'm highly sensitive; not just emotionally, but in a lot of physical ways, too—I can't sleep unless the conditions are just right (so forget sleeping on a plane, ever), my digestive system doesn't enjoy being tested with new foods, and all the over-stimulation of people and noises and sights is often too much.

To compensate for how overwhelming traveling is, I get super perfectionist and controlling. If I can predict and manage everything that's going to happen, then maybe I can actually relax. So, you know, forget about anything super spontaneous. And I laugh in the face of any plans that happen after 9pm.

I know. I'm so fun!

But most of the time I'm actually not that controlling and not that much of a perfectionist anymore (well, this might be because my life is very simple and I have total control over my schedule … so maybe I'm playing myself).

The point is, I used to be a lot worse! And the more I reflect on my own experiences, the more I realize there is a HUGE correlation between perfectionism and being a highly sensitive person. I'm diving into that, and what to do about it, in this month's new blog!

LET'S TALK ABOUT 1-ON-1 COACHING!

One-on-one coaching will now be enrollment based! Which means:

• Instead of taking on clients whenever, we're going to be taking them on a few times per year, in waves.
• This Friday, June 21, is the LAST DAY we're accepting sign-up forms for potential new clients.
• We're taking on about 20 people! If you're seriously considering being coached, fill out the "sign me up" form on this page and one of us will be in touch to talk about it.
• This is for people interested in getting started ASAP (within the next 4-6 weeks). If you'd like to do coaching later than that, we now have a wait list.
• We WILL have coaching spots open up over time, before we take on the next "official" wave of clients. So if you're not ready now, or you've found us in-between "official" enrollment periods, then you can add your name to the wait list and we'll contact you if and when we have an availability.
• We don't yet know when we'll be taking another official wave of clients. Likely not until the fall, so perhaps 5 months or more.
• We're planning on raising coaching rates later this year or early in 2020, so now is a good time to get off the fence if you've been sitting on it for a while!

If you're seriously considering coaching, read this page and then click "sign me up" to talk to one of us about the possibility.

Remember, this Friday, June 21, is the LAST DAY to fill out that form! After that, you can add your name to the wait list.

GET ON THE VIP LIST FOR OUR NEW PEOPLE PLEASING COURSE!

We're going to have a brand-new course later this summer about getting over people pleasing!

It's going to be fairly short and affordable, and will be more of a group-based program. We aren't ready to share more info yet, but if you'd like to be kept in the loop so you don't miss any updates, join this VIP list and we'll be in touch with more info soon!

EPISODES I MENTIONED IN THIS BLOG

We are not the crazy ones (how to tell if you're a highly sensitive person) (April 2018)

Emotional constipation with Joanna Platt (April 2018)

How to create your own rules for sane living (August 2018)

Bonus Book Club! Outrageous Openness by Tosha Silver (November 2018)

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