You know how it goes … you see someone’s incredible vacation photos on social media, while you watch the rain pour down outside your tiny office window (or, worse, as you stare at the windowless grey walls of your cube).

Or you hear about an old friend who just got an amazing promotion at a company you’d kill to work at. Or your coworker gushes about how sweet her husband was for surprising her with concert tickets for their one-year anniversary, while you haven’t even been on a date in months. The envy starts to creep in, and you’re left feeling annoyed, resentful, deflated, or just plain sad.

The worst part of jealousy is the self-judgment and shame that often comes along with it. Many of my clients, after embarrassedly sharing a situation where they felt envious, will say things like, “I have to plaster on a smile and fake excitement, even though I feel like the jealousy is strangling me. What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I just be happy for that person??”

I’m guilty of this, too — both feeling jealous and judging myself for it. Thankfully, in the past few years I’ve completely reframed how I feel about jealousy and I stopped feeling guilty and ashamed of it.

In my first podcast edition of our blog, I’m (Kristen) talking about how I now actually LOVE when I get jealous because I believe it’s one of the very best tools for figuring out what you’re passionate about, making authentic decisions, and getting over analysis paralysis.

This blog was originally published in December of 2016, but I brought it back for our podcast launch because it’s something I remind myself and my clients of often, so I figured you might benefit from the same reminder.

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