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What if the most meaningful thing you ever did wasn't whatmade you famous, but who you showed up for when nobody was watching?

What if the key to getting unstuck isn't adding more to yourlife, but having the courage to quit something on a Thursday?

Bob Goff — NYT bestselling author, founder of Love Does, andhonorary consul to Uganda — joins Miles Adcox for one of the most honest conversations in Human School history. These two have traveled conflict zones together, worked with San Quentin, and called each other in the gutted middle-of-the-night moments real friendships are made of.

Bob opens up about walking away from law, stepping back fromspeaking, and handing over the nonprofit, he literally wrote the book on. He shares the four lies he tells himself daily and why naming them changed everything. He tells the story of Kabi — a Ugandan witch doctor convicted of child sacrifice — whom Bob prosecuted, befriended on death row, and watched transform an entire prison. They go deep on finding your "eight," the epidemic of loneliness, and why so many of us are surrounded by acquaintances but starving for real friendship.

In this conversation, you'll learn:

• How to Use Context to Replace Judgment Before It Costs You a Relationship
• How to Know the Difference Between Self-Aware andSelf-Absorbed
• How to Find Your Eight and Stop Mistaking Acquaintances for Friends
• How to Quit Something Every Thursday and Why It's the Most Freeing Practice
• How to Stop Freeze-Framing People in Their Worst Moment
• How to Replace "How Are You" with a Question ThatOpens a Door
• How to Recognize Your Tells and What They're ReallyProtecting
• How to Catch Someone on the Bounce After the Crater
• How to Connect Your Why Before You Make the Move
• How to Show Up for the Hard-to-Love Without an Agenda

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What We Discuss:

00:00:00 Meet Bob Goff

00:05:04 What San Quentin Taught Him About Context andJudgment

00:07:24 17 Counts of Armed Robbery, an Xbox, and $1,100Total Haul

00:11:44 Knowing Your Tells

00:12:11 Guide vs. Sherpa: How Onsite Does It Differently

00:13:17 Self-Aware vs. Self-Absorbed

00:15:57 Choosing to Be Misunderstood

00:22:03 A Hot Pink Castle and Grandparents Who Were NutsAbout Him

00:23:41 Stop Asking “How Are You?”

00:28:52 The Loneliness Epidemic

00:30:59 The Polaroid Problem —Hesitating to Make the Call

00:36:50 Your “Eight” Relationships

00:37:56 Four Lies Bob Tells Himself and the Audit ThatExposes Them

00:44:58 Setbacks Aren't Campsites

00:45:36 Quitting His Own Law Firm Without Explanation

00:46:10 Quit Something Every Thursday

00:58:45 12 Daily Disneyland Tickets and What They Reveal

01:05:19 If Your Brain Can See Itself, It Can Heal Itself

01:10:33 How Bob Got Six Giraffes from a President

01:19:30 Catching People on the Bounce

01:25:32 The Story of Kabi

01:35:30 The Most Surprising Thing About Great Friendship