Why does it seem to happen that he things he's giving her everything she wants, but she just feels like he's being selfish? And why is it so important to understand the connection between the voice and accessing desire?  In today's bonus episode of the Sex Talk Cafe you will learn about the obstacles to pleasure that we all have to some degree, how they show up in relationships (frustration, confusion, resentment!) and what how to navigate through them so that you can experience more pleasure, depth and freedom in sex without having to shut down, reject, coerce or convince your partner.