February 14, 2025

Bonus Episode: Rewriting The Rules of Sex & Love with Clinical Sexologist Dr. Adrienne Loth and CEO of Silver Bell Global, Natasha Silverbell

56 minutes

Happy Valentine’s Day! Wherever you find yourself - whether you’re in love, healing from love, or deepening your relationship with yourself - I wanted to share something special with you…

I recently hosted a panel discussion at The Twenty Two in London exploring the psychology behind love, sex, and pain - how they shape our relationships, impact our emotional well-being, and intertwine in ways we don’t always expect.

I was joined by two incredible women Dr. Adrienne Loth and Natasha Silverbell:

Dr. Adrienne Loth is a clinical sexologist, licensed marriage and family therapist, and executive coach, known for her action-oriented, cross-cultural approach to therapy, specializing in relationships, sexual health, trauma, and stress management.

Natasha Silver Bell is the founder and CEO of Silver Bell Global, a premier recovery consulting firm helping individuals and families navigate addiction recovery with a holistic, deeply personalized approach.

Key Takeaways

Sex, intimacy, and pleasure are fluid and ever-changing—embrace the journey.
Your desires and challenges shift throughout life—this isn’t failure, it’s growth. Dissatisfaction isn’t the end; it’s an invitation for self-discovery.
Vulnerability and communication are the foundation of connection.
Healing, intimacy, and growth all start with honest conversations—with yourself and others. Speaking your truth dissolves shame and fosters deeper relationships.
Safety is the foundation for healing and intimacy.
Rebuilding trust after trauma, betrayal, or shame begins with creating environments—both within yourself and in relationships—where you feel seen, supported, and empowered.
Sexual empowerment is about agency, not performance.
True empowerment comes from knowing your body, understanding your desires, and respecting your boundaries—not meeting external expectations.
Healing starts with a compassionate relationship with yourself.
Reclaiming pleasure and intimacy is about curiosity, joy, and self-acceptance—not just overcoming the past.

Episode Breakdown
00:00 – Why we need to talk about love, sex, and pain
04:30 – The shame and stigma that stop people from opening up
11:15 – Love vs. attachment: How to know if you’re in a healthy relationship
18:40 – Natasha shares how she reclaimed her voice in relationships
25:20 – Healing past trauma, chronic pain, and self-perception
32:10 – Is there such a thing as a “normal” sex life? Navigating desire differences
38:45 – Why people have sex to avoid conflict and how to break the cycle
45:20 – The role of self-exploration and personal responsibility in sexual satisfaction
51:00 – Cultivating sensuality beyond sex: The psychology of arousal
56:15 – Rekindling intimacy in long-term relationships
1:02:30 – Kinks, boundaries, and communicating desires
1:16:00 – Adapting to physical limitations in sex
1:22:30 – Final thoughts: The biggest lessons on love, sex, and self-worth

Sex & Love Intimate Conversation Resources

Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm
The State of Affairs by Esther Perel
The Course of Love by Alain de Botton
The High-Conflict Couple: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy & Validation
Feeding the Hungry Heart by Gineen Rothe
Facing the Intimacy Factor by Pia Melody

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Executive Producer: Jean Campbell

Producer: Hailey Rovner Malach

Composer: Eduoardo Vella

Specials thanks to Evangeline Donald.

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