Break Free with Becky

What would become possible in your life if you were willing to feel disappointment? 

So often we protect ourselves from disappointment by not trying, not asking, not getting our hopes up, or convincing ourselves we didn’t really want something anyway. But what is that protection actually costing us?

In this episode, I’m having an honest conversation about how avoiding disappointment has impacted my life—and how becoming willing to feel disappointed has changed not only my life, but the lives of women I’ve had the privilege to coach.

You’ll learn:

• Why disappointment can feel so scary—and why the hardest part may be what you make it mean about yourself
• The sneaky ways you may be avoiding disappointment without realizing it
• How trying to protect yourself from disappointment can actually create disappointment ahead of time
• How to feel disappointed without abandoning yourself
• How being willing to feel disappointment can open you back up to possibility

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This episode is PACKED with golden nuggets! I'm sharing four of the most powerful mindset tools I've learned over the years. These are thoughts that have genuinely changed my life, helped me navigate anxiety, and created so much more peace, confidence, and freedom. I come back to them again and again, and I can't wait to share them with you.

Whether you're feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or simply ready to experience more of what life has to offer, you're going to LOVE this episode.

You'll learn:

• How your thoughts can influence your mood, energy, and experience of life—even when you're unaware of them.
• How two little words, "What if?", can open up a world of possibility.
• The thought that has brought me enormous peace through some of life's hardest experiences.
• Why embracing discomfort can eliminate so much unnecessary suffering.
• How to bring a sense of safety to your brain when you're experiencing anxiety or pain.

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Have you ever held back in a conversation because you didn’t want to talk too much? Waited for someone else to invite you because you didn’t want to bother them? Said “I don’t care” when someone asked what you wanted but secretely you cared a lot? 

These little moments can be part of a much bigger habit of making yourself small.

In this episode, I’m talking about what it really means to take up space—and why it has very little to do with being the loudest person in the room.

It’s about allowing yourself to have wants, preferences, opinions, needs, ideas, and dreams. It’s about believing that you matter enough to be included in your own life.

You’ll learn:

• What it actually means to take up space
• Some of the subtle ways we make ourselves small
• How people-pleasing can disconnect you from what you want
• Why making yourself small can steal your joy and aliveness
• A simple practice to start noticing yourself again

What would it look like to stop disappearing from your own life?

If that unsettles you a little bit, I want you to lean into this episode. I made it for you.

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How good are you at receiving?

Not just help.

Love. Compliments. Rest. Attention. Support. Joy. Friendship. Grace. Being celebrated. Being cared for. Being seen.

In this episode, we get real.

I’m sharing what happened when my coach challenged me to notice everything I was receiving during a retreat in Maui—and how that assignment turned into a very uncomfortable crash course in receiving. From getting sick before a boat ride, to needing help from multiple women on the boat ride, to realizing how deeply I had learned not to take up too much space.  

In this episode, I’ll also take you inside a powerful “receiving circle” exercise where I learned to open myself up to the gift of receiving.

You'll learn: 

• What a “receiving set point” is and how to identify yours
• Why receiving can feel selfish, weak, vulnerable, or uncomfortable
• The subtle ways we deflect compliments, help, love, support, attention, and care
• Why taking up space can be part of becoming a better receiver
• Why allowing someone else to give to you can actually be a gift to them
• How to expand your capacity to receive by just 1–5%

You don’t need to become an exceptional receiver overnight. Start by noticing what is already being offered to you. Then see if you can let it land.

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Ready to quiet your inner critic and experience more peace, confidence, and emotional freedom?

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You know how to give.

You give to your kids, your spouse, your home, your calling, your work, your neighbors. You show up. You help. You serve. You take care of people.

But how good are you at receiving?

Receiving love? 
Receiving compliments?
Receiving appreciation? 
Receiving forgiveness? 

The Law of Giving and Receiving teaches that you can only give to the level at which you’re willing to receive.

For many women, receiving is the half of the spiritual exchange we’ve never really learned how to do. It feels foreign and for many women it feels selfish. 

In this powerful episode, we’re exploring what it means to become an exceptional receiver—and why receiving is an essential part of giving. 

You’ll learn:

• How continually giving without receiving leads to depletion and resentment
• Why your ability to receive directly affects your ability to give
• Why receiving is an essential part of the spiritual exchange
• How you can have blessings, love, and goodness all around you without fully experiencing them
• Why becoming a better receiver can help giving feel more natural, generous, and joyful 
• What receiving has to do with grace, forgiveness, God's love, and the Atonement 

This is Part 1 of a two-part series on giving and receiving.

You’ve spent a lifetime learning how to give.

What might change if you became just as good at receiving?

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What if your best moments are happening when you’re not paying attention?

In this episode, I’m sharing what I learned from my six-week joy experiment, including one of my biggest discoveries: joy happens all around us.

I thought pursuing joy would mean finding more hobbies, scheduling more fun, getting out of the house, and trying new things. And I did some of that. But some of the most joyful moments I experienced happened in places I never would have planned: folding laundry while laughing with my kids, standing outside Costco after a rainstorm, and watching a sea turtle observe a yoga class. 
 

You’ll learn:

• How experimenting with joy helped me discover what makes me feel most alive
• Why joy requires attention, presence, and space
• How giving your brain permission to go “off duty” can help you experience more of your life
• Where I unexpectedly found some of my most joyful moments
• How to start your own joy experiment and discover what brings you joy

There is so much beauty, connection, playfulness, pleasure, and joy available to us. Give yourself permission to experiment, slow down, pay attention, and discover where your joy lives.

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Ready to quiet your inner critic and experience more peace, confidence, and emotional freedom?

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Have you ever noticed that the moment life starts feeling really good... your brain starts looking for what's about to go wrong?

You finally feel peaceful, and suddenly you're thinking, "This won't last." Or maybe you've caught yourself waiting for the other shoe to drop, convinced that if you let yourself feel too happy, something bad is bound to happen.

If you've ever struggled to fully receive the good in your life, this episode is for you.

In this episode, we're exploring why joy can actually feel uncomfortable, how your nervous system learns to associate worry with safety, and why receiving joy may be harder than creating it.

You'll learn:

•  Why your brain pulls you away from joy the moment it shows up. 
•  The surprising connection between your nervous system and your ability to receive good things. 
•  Common beliefs that quietly steal your joy. 
•  A simple practice to help you increase your capacity to stay present and receive the goodness that's already in front of you. 

If you're ready to stop waiting for the other shoe to drop and start fully experiencing the beautiful moments God is already giving you, this episode will help you take the first step.

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Have you ever had free time... only to realize you have no idea what sounds fun anymore?

If you're anything like me, your brain probably offers a to-do list or an easy-to-reach snack instead.

In this episode, I'm sharing a personal realization that's been changing the way I think about growth, productivity, and what it means to truly enjoy the life God has given us. We'll talk about the difference between pleasure and real joy, why so many women accidentally trade delight for accomplishment, and how to reconnect with the things that make you feel fully alive.

If you've spent years taking care of everyone else, chasing goals, and checking boxes—but somewhere along the way forgot how to simply play—this conversation is for you.

You'll learn:

• Why pursuing joy is different from pursuing pleasure
• How productivity can quietly replace delight
• How the pursuit of relief can replace true joy
• Practical ways to rediscover what makes you come alive
• A simple challenge to help you create more joy this week

You weren't created to simply get through life—you were created to experience it and find joy in it.

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We all want to feel comfortable. We want less stress, less anxiety, fewer hard emotions, and an easier path forward.

But what if constantly trying to avoid discomfort is actually creating more discomfort in your life?

In this listener favorite episode, I’m sharing one of my favorite concepts: the comfort trap. We’ll explore why our brain naturally seeks comfort, how avoiding discomfort can quietly shrink our confidence and capacity, and why learning to be uncomfortable is one of the greatest skills we can develop.

You’ll learn:

• Why your brain is wired to seek comfort and avoid discomfort
• How avoiding uncomfortable emotions can keep you stuck
• Why increasing your ability to tolerate discomfort builds confidence and self-trust
• How to stop waiting until you “feel ready” and start taking action toward the life you want

If you’ve been feeling stuck, anxious, or frustrated that you’re not moving forward, this episode will help you understand what’s happening and give you a new way to approach growth.

The path forward is never about finding more comfort—it’s about learning that you can handle discomfort. And it's way more fun than you think. 

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Most people believe self-criticism motivates change.

But what if it's actually the thing keeping you stuck?

I recently returned from a retreat in Maui with a room full of ambitious women—many of whom have built million-dollar and multi-million-dollar businesses.

I joined the group because I wanted to be around women who would stretch me. But once I got there, I noticed insecurity, comparison, and self-judgment started showing up in my own mind.

As I observed my thoughts throughout the week, I realized just how sneaky self-judgment can be. It rarely sounds like "I hate myself." More often, it disguises itself as questions, high standards, perfectionism, comparison, and the belief that you should be further along than you are.

In this episode, I'm sharing 10 sneaky ways you may be judging yourself without even realizing it.

You'll learn:

•10 sneaky ways self-judgement shows up 
• Why successful women struggle with self-judgement too
• The hidden ways self-judgment keeps you stuck
• What "The Judgement Trap" is and how to stop it
• Why self-compassion is not the same as self-complacency
• How to pursue growth without making yourself wrong

If you've ever wondered why you can be kind to everyone else but struggle to offer that same compassion to yourself, this episode is for you.

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