In this episode, I invite you to take an honest look at the relationship you have with your body.

Not how it looks.
Not how it compares.
But how you treat it… and how you talk to it.

I talk about how so many of us learned to judge our bodies, how body “ideals” are really just trends, and how these messages quietly get passed down from generation to generation. Often without meaning to, we teach our daughters, sisters, and the women around us how to feel about their bodies—simply by the way we speak about our own.

This episode isn’t about blaming the past or fixing your body.

It’s about becoming aware of the relationship you have with your body and how that relationship quietly shapes your life and the lives around you. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What a “relationship” really is—and why you have one with your body
• How your relationship with your body shapes your experience of life
• How to think about beauty standards in a way that empowers you
• What's true about beauty
• How changing the way you relate to your body can change future generations

Next week, in Body Love, Part 2: we’ll go deeper—focusing on the incredible machine you are living in and how to love it exactly as it is.

In this episode, I’m sharing a powerful tool that helped me face a lifelong fear of scuba diving… and ended up expanding my life in ways I didn’t expect. I walk you through how I unknowingly used an alter ego to move through fear and anxiety — without forcing confidence or over-coaching myself. I talk about borrowing the traits of someone I admire and why that worked when nothing else did. 

Alter egos have been used for centuries by performers, athletes, and everyday people to show up differently in high-pressure moments. They work because they create psychological distance—bypassing the part of the brain that overthinks and hesitates. 

It isn’t about character acting or pretending to be someone else.

It’s about accessing parts of you that already exist—and letting them lead when fear or self-doubt would normally take over.

If you’ve been holding back or waiting to feel ready, this episode will give you a tool to take your next brave step.

You’ll Learn:

• What an alter ego actually is
• How borrowing traits from someone or something empowers you 
• Why identity matters more than motivation or willpower
• How to create and use an alter ego in one specific area of your life
• Simple ways to practice this tool in low-stakes, everyday moments

Resources mentioned

• The Alter Ego Effect — Todd Herman 
•  How to Get Unstuck 

Website:
https://beckygarnercoaching.com

Instagram:
@breakfreewithbecky

Perfectionism isn’t the problem. Using it against yourself is.

In this episode, we’re reframing perfectionism—not as something to fix or get rid of, but as a powerful trait that’s been misunderstood and misused. You’ll hear why high standards, attention to detail, reliability, and a drive for mastery are not flaws—and how they can actually become a superpower when you stop weaponizing them against yourself.

We also look at the dark side of perfectionism—how we tie it to our self-worth, use it to self-criticize and self-sabotage, and rely on it as a way to avoid failure.

I share the one powerful shift that changed everything for me—and how that shift can instantly remove pressure, quiet self-criticism, and help you finally take action.

In this episode, we’ll talk about:

• The hidden superpowers of perfectionism
• Why perfectionism isn’t the real problem
• How we use perfectionism against ourselves
• Why pressure kills performance
• What being “bad at it” actually unlocks
• And what becomes possible when you’re willing to try before you’re ready

If you’ve been stuck, holding back, or waiting until you can make it perfect before you start—this episode is for you.

Free resource:
If you’re ready to get unstuck, grab my free course How to Get Unstuck and find out the #1 reason why people stay stuck. 

Website:
https://beckygarnercoaching.com

Instagram:
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@breakfreewithbecky

Have you heard of National Quitter’s Day? It’s the unofficial day — January 19th — when most people give up on their New Year’s goals. If you’ve slowed down on your goals or found yourself in the quitters’ bucket, this episode is for you.

I’m diving into the main skills high achievers use to overcome their own brains, so you can stay on track and make the impossible possible. I share practical ways to outsmart your lower brain, embrace discomfort, and use your thoughts to generate energy and motivation. You’ll hear how top performers fail forward, visualize their success, and build the identity of the person they want to become — and how you can do the same, no matter what your goal is.

What You’ll Learn

• How to outsmart your brain’s resistance and avoid quitting
• The power of failing forward to move closer to your goals
• How to generate motivation, desire, and energy on purpose
• Why identity and visualization are game-changing tools
• How touching your dreams every day keeps you on track

By the end of this episode, you’ll know exactly how to take control of your brain and your actions, even when it’s screaming “quit.” Stop following the crowd and start making what seems impossible, possible.

Free resource:
If you’re ready to get unstuck, grab my free course How to Get Unstuck and find out the #1 reason why people stay stuck. 

Website:
https://beckygarnercoaching.com

Instagram:
@breakfreewithbecky

What if a 5-minute morning practice could actually save you time instead of adding another thing to your to-do list?

In this epsidoe, I’m sharing a simple 5-minute morning journaling practice that actually saves time by helping you get focused fast and stop spinning in mental noise all day long.

This isn’t about adding more to your to-do list. It’s about starting your day clear, grounded, and intentional so you don’t waste time feeling scattered, overwhelmed, or pulled in a million directions.

You’ll learn four powerful questions (inspired by coaching expert Michael Bungay Stanier) that help you:

• Slow down and get grounded in just a minute or two
• Reconnect with what you actually want (and why wanting matters)
• Choose your one thing so you stop spinning and start moving forward
• Build gratitude in a way that supports your mental and emotional health

This isn’t about creating the perfect morning routine. It’s about starting your day connected and clear so you waste less time feeling overwhelmed, distracted, or stuck.

The whole practice takes under five minutes, but the focus and momentum it creates can shape your entire day.

Grab a pen, press play, and let’s make your mornings simpler—and your days more intentional.

In this episode, I talk about one of the biggest sources of anxiety, depression, and suffering that I see again and again—not being the person you know you’re meant to be.

From my own experience and years working in mental health and coaching, I’ve noticed that when we act against our values, our goals, and our potential, we start to lose trust with ourselves. That loss of self-integrity creates anxiety, depression, and a feeling of being stuck.

What I Cover:

• Why anxiety and depression often come from misalignment with who you want to be
• How breaking promises to yourself erodes self-trust
• The connection between self-integrity and emotional well-being
• How learning to care about yourself is foundational to lasting change 
• Why starting small matters more than overhauling your life
• How self-compassion and celebration make change sustainable
• The path out is 100% available to you and in the care of your hands

Connect with me

• Free course: How To Get Unstuck
• Website: Beckygarnercoaching.com
• Instagram: @BreakFreeCoachBecky

If this episode helped you, please follow the show, leave a review, or share it with someone who needs it.

What if the reason you feel stuck isn’t because you’re doing it wrong—but because you’re doing it backward?

If you’ve ever thought:

• “I’ll be happy when I lose the weight”
• “I’ll relax when everything is done”
• “I’ll feel worthy when I have the relationship / money / confidence”

This episode is for you.

We’ll break down why most of us are living from what Stephen R. Covey calls a Have–Do–Be model that keeps happiness just out of reach—and how flipping it to Be–Do–Have creates real, lasting change. You’ll hear relatable examples around money, weight, relationships, anxiety, depression, and self-worth, plus practical steps to start embodying the person you want to be now—not someday.

This isn’t about positive thinking or forcing yourself to feel better. It’s about identity.

Who you’re being.
How that shapes what you do.
And why that’s what actually changes what you have.

Come hang out for this one. You'll walk away seeing your life differently—and feeling way more excited about what’s possible. 

Today, I'm honoring my cat Gidget, who passed away recently after 16 years together. She was with me through early motherhood, postpartum depression and anxiety, addiction and recovery, and so many life challenges. She woke me up at 5 AM every morning for 16 years. She was persistent, demanding, loud—and the best teacher I could have asked for.

In this episode, I share three unexpected lessons that Gidget taught me about persistence, managing frustration, and connecting with something greater than ourselves.

What You'll Learn 

• The power of relentless persistence: Fighting for what you want without quitting
• Make a game out of annoyance: How to turn frustration into laughter with one simple mental shift 
• Grief, love, and connection with heaven: A tender experience with my daughter after Gidget’s passing

This episode is about love, lessons, and loss. If you are missing someone this season, you're not alone. 

Episode Quote
"Grief is the price we pay for love, and worth it, a million times over." 

Connect

✨ Free Course: How To Get Unstuck
✨ Website: Beckygarnercoaching.com

January used to feel like a slap in the face.

The holidays were over, and I was left with what I used to call the January Hangover.

It’s that feeling when you realize you ate too much, spent too much, splurged too much—and overall lived the last month in a whole lot of too muching… with not nearly enough vegetables or movement.

But here’s the thing: it doesn’t have to feel that way. You can step into the new year feeling energized, excited, and ready to grow—without shame or guilt. 

In this episode, I’m sharing why I used to hate the beginning of the year — and why I don’t anymore.
 

This is not an episode about white-knuckled discipline, forcing yourself to be better, or shaming your way into change. Instead, I walk you through a completely different approach to New Year’s reflections and goals—one that actually works because it starts with celebration and ends with identity level change.

We’ll talk about:

• Why New Year’s resolutions usually fail 
• The real reason we avoid setting goals
• What Dan Sullivan calls strategic byproducts—and why they matter more than hitting the goal
• How to “get in the gain” before you set a single goal
• Why you should never set goals from a low-vibe state
• Powerful questions that open desire instead of pressure
• Vision boards, words of the year, and how your brain actually uses them
• How to create lasting change without shame, self-judgment, or perfection

If January has ever made you feel behind, broken, or disappointed in yourself… this episode is for you.

Free Resource
How to Get Unstuck

Website
Beckygarnercoaching.com 

Are you living your life on purpose… or just responding to whatever lands in your lap?

In this episode of Break Free with Becky, we’re talking about two simple questions that will wake you up from autopilot and help you start creating the life you actually want to live:

Who are you becoming?
and
Who do you want to become?

Most of us move through life on autopilot—reacting, rushing, checking boxes, and just trying to keep up. We get buried in tasks and interruptions without ever pausing to notice the bigger picture. Without ever noticing what direction we're headed in. But the truth is, your daily choices are quietly shaping your future and quietly shaping the next version of you. 

Today, we’re talking about how to wake up, get intentional, and start creating your life on purpose instead of drifting through it by default.

In this episode, I’ll show you how to:
✨ See who you’re actually becoming based on your daily habits
✨ Uncover the hidden “rules” from your childhood that still shape your life
✨ Shift from reacting to living intentionally
✨ Identify your core values and start living them
✨ Ask simple daily questions that align you with your future self. 

This episode will help you get intentional about who you want to become and give you the steps to start working towards that version of yourself. 

Links Mentioned

👉 Grab my free course How to Get Unstuck at beckygarnercoaching.com/stuck