Almost 20 years ago, my life changed in a single, unforgettable moment — I found myself face down on a dirty hospital floor, unable to move. What began as a simple game of noodle hockey at work turned into a lifetime of chronic back pain, lost dreams, and an unexpected journey toward healing and growth.

In this episode, I share the full story — how my back injury became a forced opportunity for growth and the powerful lessons that came from it. 
You’ll hear how I went from fear and frustration to peace, gratitude, and strength — and how you can find the same freedom in your own struggles.

 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• What it means to face a “forced opportunity for growth”
• The difference between necessary pain and unnecessary pain
• How we make a situation harder than it already is
• How to look for growth and joy in circumstances you can't change
• The unexpected gifts that can come from struggle — compassion, strength, and purpose
• 3 steps to take when you're experiencing a circumstance you can't change

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 Resources 

 Free Course: How To Get Unstuck
— Learn the tools to shift out of what’s keeping you stuck and start moving forward today.

 Connect with Becky:

• Website: beckygarnercoaching.com

For years, I believed things about myself that weren’t true.

I told myself I was dumb, I wasn't good at anything, and I’d never be happy.

But none of that was truth — it was me lying to myself about who I really am.

In this episode, I talk about what it means to stop believing those lies and start seeing the truth of who you are. 

In this episode, I share:

• The ways we lie to ourselves 
• The cost of those lies
• The truth of who we really are
• How the RAS makes your negative thoughts feel “true”
• Why self-judgment feels honest but isn’t
• A simple question that can stop a lie in its tracks

You’ll walk away with tools to challenge your thoughts, calm your inner critic, and reconnect with the truth that who you really are.

Episode Quote
 
“The most destructive lies you’ll ever hear don’t come from the world. They come from inside your own head.”

✨ Want to go deeper?
Grab my free video series, How to Get Unstuck, at beckygarnercoaching.com/stuck

Do you ever find yourself comparing yourself to others? In this powerful episode, we're diving deep into one of the most universal struggles we all face: the belief that "I'm not good enough."

This belief runs quietly in the background for so many of us. It shows up in comparison, in self-doubt, in the way we try to prove our worth — and it keeps us stuck. I’ll share how this belief gets planted in the first place, how your brain reinforces it, and how to finally let it go.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re somehow less than, or that no matter what you do, it's never enough — this episode is for you.

💡 What You’ll Learn

• Why we create mental hierarchies and how it's holding you back 
• What "I'm not good enough" really means
• Where that belief comes from and how it was planted it in your mind (You weren't born with it)
• The real cost of carrying this belief—for you, your loved ones, and the world
• A simple way to reprogram your brain when “I’m not good enough” shows up
• How your Reticular Activating System (RAS) filters proof of what you already believe
• The truth about your inherent worth

 "Your worth cannot be lost and it cannot be found. It can only be forgotten or remembered."

Resources Mentioned

Free Course: Get Unstuck
 If you're feeling stuck and ready for change, grab Becky's free course at beckygarnercoaching.com/stuck

1:1 Coaching with Becky
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Remember: You are stronger than you think, more powerful than you know

The greatest lesson I ever learned, I learned from a clown.

In this episode, I'm sharing one of those moments where fear took over—heart racing, body shaking, mind screaming “run!” It's one of most transformational stories from my life: the night I came face-to-face with one of my biggest fears at a Halloween haunted house nearly 20 years ago. At one point, I literally ran screaming into the bushes like a terrified child (I was 28 years old, by the way). Through this hilarious (and honestly pretty embarrassing) story, I'll show you how facing fear head-on can completely transform your life. You're not going to want to miss it. 

Here's what you'll learn

• How I faced my fear of clowns
• How my life opened up because I did
• How your brain is lying to you about danger
• What you're really afraid of (It's not what you think)
• How avoidance shrinks your life
• My technique for managing "the chemical whoosh" (fear)
• How to bring fear along without letting it drive your decisions

If You Find Yourself...

• Avoiding situations because you're afraid of how you'll feel
• Making your life smaller and smaller to stay comfortable
• Saying no to opportunities because fear is in the driver's seat
• Panicking about feeling panic (fear of fear itself)
• Convinced you "just can't handle" certain situations or feelings
• Missing out on experiences with friends and family because of fear

...this episode is for you.

The Fears I Talk About

• Fear of failure
• Fear of judgment or rejection
• Fear of being alone
• Fear of not being good enough
• Fear of social situations
• Fear of public speaking
• And yes, my fear of clowns (and cobwebs, and fish, and the pillow game, and...)

Resources I Mention

• "Mikey and the Dragon" by Jocko Willink - The book I read to my daughter about fears. 
• How to Get Unstuck - My free video series to help you start getting traction in your life today. 

In this powerful episode, I share the story of how a simple mistake in my notebook led to a profound realization that changed how I see struggle, pain, and purpose.

I open up about my own journey through depression and addiction, and how those darkest moments became the foundation for the strength, compassion, and wisdom I carry today. If you're in the middle of something hard right now, this episode will remind you that you were built to handle it—and that there is purpose in your pain.

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

• The accidental sentence that changed my entire perspective on struggle
• Why there is purpose in pain (even when it doesn't feel like it)
• How to shift from a victim mentality to empowerment
• Why no one can pull you out of your pain but you—and why that's actually good news
• The truth about your brain: You were built to handle great struggle
• How trying to prevent your loved ones' struggles actually hinders their growth
• A simple question shift that will transform how you experience challenges

Episode quote
"Every struggle, every trial, every pain, and every trauma, was made for me, and I was made for it." 

Resources:

Ready to do the deep work and create a life that you love? Learn more about private coaching at Beckygarnercoaching.com

Grab my free course How To Get Unstuck Here: https://www.beckygarnercoaching.com/stuck

This is one of those episodes that has the potential to change your life.  

What if the very thing you’ve been chasing—comfort—is actually the source of your biggest discomfort?

For years, I tried to control every detail of my life so I could feel comfortable: the exact temperature of the room, the brand of food I ate, the clothes I wore, even the social situations I allowed myself in. But instead of peace, I created more anxiety, more rigidity, and more unhappiness.

In today’s episode, I’m sharing the paradox that flipped everything for me: seeking comfort makes you uncomfortable.

Here’s what you’ll discover:

• The hidden cost of comfort-seeking (and why it shrinks your life).
• How avoiding hard emotions reinforces the belief that you can’t handle them. 
• Real-life examples of how comfort-seeking backfires—in food, social situations, even clothing. 
• Simple ways to build “discomfort tolerance” that will expand your capacity, resilience, and joy.

If you’re ready to stop feeling stuck, lonely, or controlled by your cravings and fears—this episode will change the way you see your entire life.

Free Resource: If you're ready to start moving forward, grab my free course here: beckygarnercoaching.com/stuck

Most of us spend our lives trying to avoid our emotions. We eat, scroll, stay busy or distract—just to get away from feelings we don’t want to feel. But all of this avoiding keeps us trapped in a life we never planned on living. 

Your emotions aren't something to fear. They are quite literally the key to freedom. 

In today’s episode, I’m sharing some of the most powerful work we can do with our emotions. 

You’ll learn:

• The four main ways we handle strong emotions (and why 3 of them increase our suffering)
• The difference between resisting, reacting, and avoiding feelings
• Why allowing and processing your emotions is the real path to freedom
• Simple steps you can practice today to process your emotions through your body

I also share some personal stories—like when I spoke publicly about my addiction and felt days of racing thoughts—and how I used emotional processing to move through it instead of spinning out.

If you’ve ever wondered how to stop letting emotions control you—or how to finally face feelings you’ve been avoiding—this episode is for you.

Resources

• 🎁 Free Course: Get Unstuck

In this episode, I’m unpacking what emotions really are, how they show up in the body, and how they fuel everything you do or don’t in life. If you want to change your life, you need to learn about your emotions. 

Here’s what I’ll cover:

✨ The difference between thoughts, sensations, and feelings. 
✨ How emotions are created in the body. 

✨Why we don’t have to be afraid of them. 
✨ The purpose of emotions. 
✨ How naming emotions helps calm your body. 

✨Why your emotions—not your circumstances—determine the quality of your life.

This is the work that changed my life, and it can change yours too.

 Free Resource: If you’re ready to start moving forward, grab my free course here: beckygarnercoaching.com/stuck

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Ever feel exhausted, even when you haven’t done much? Or find yourself dragging through the day while wishing you had more energy?

In this episode, I share how I went from chronically fatigued and burned out to discovering that energy doesn’t just come from our bodies—it comes from our minds.

Here’s what you’ll hear:

• The difference between physical energy and mental energy.
• How your thoughts can either drain your body or fuel it with energy.
• My personal story of grocery shopping with chronic fatigue—and how I learned to change my energetic state.
• How the subconscious responds to the thoughts we think.
• A practical tool you can use right away: “I choose to feel ___ instead of ___.”
• Why even if you live with fatigue, chronic illness, or low energy, you can still increase your capacity with your thinking.

If you’ve ever said, “I’m just so tired”—this episode is for you. You’ll walk away with real tools to recharge your mind, lift your energy, and create more capacity than you thought possible.

👉 Want to work with me? Registration for Break Free Group Coaching closes September 30th. Click here for details.

✨ Free Resource: Grab my course “How To Get Unstuck” at beckygarnercoaching.com/stuck

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Do you have an area in your life you’ve tried to change… but keep failing? Do you feel like change is impossible for you? If so, this episode is for you.

Join me as I how I know that we all have the ability to change no matter how many times we've failed. From camping trips that once terrified me to long-standing habits I finally overcame, I dive into how our beliefs shape what we think is possible—and how to shift them to create the life you truly want. Full of personal stories, practical insights, and actionable tools, this episode will help you start changing, even when it feels impossible.

In this episode we explore:

• How the thought “I can’t change” blocks transformation.
• How your past doesn’t determine your future.
• Real-life examples of breaking habits and creating change.
• Tools to shift your mindset.
• The power of support in lasting change.
• How to notice and reframe absolute language in your self-talk.

If you’re stuck in a cycle of self-doubt or frustration, this episode will inspire you to start seeing possibilities for real, lasting change.

Resources

• Join my small coaching group, Break Free, for hands-on guidance in transformation, confidence, and last change. Early bird ends Sept 22nd! ($500 off!) We start Oct. 8th!
• Free course: How To Get Unstuck at beckygarnercoaching.com/stuck