October 28, 2025

Brian and Judson hookup with Brandon Kyle Goodman and talk destroying shame, redefining relationships, polyamory, and restoring kindness in the queer community

1 hour 29 minutes

Judson and his husband celebrate their 10th wedding anniversary in Eureka Springs, Arkansas, while Brian and his family discover a free gallery show featuring original works by Basquiat, Haring, Koons, Mapplethorpe, Sherman, Warhol, and more. The two hosts each go without physical release for longer than usual and expound on the joys of refraining. Brian then experiences a moment of undeniable divine intervention, and Judson starts his new job. They enjoy a pocket-sized Hookup of the Week about the joys of being Daddy to a pocket-sized partner. Brian spends three nights at the theater seeing Ragtime, Dylan Mulvaney's solo show, The Least Problematic Woman in the World, and, of course, Brandon Kyle Goodman's Heaux Church off-Broadway at Ars Nova—where he was joined by Judson and several Dads and Daddies listeners. Brian then makes a proposal to any theater producers listening to bring this year’s queer theater standouts to more audiences. Writer, actor, host, and sexual/mental wellness advocate Brandon Kyle Goodman then sits down with Brian to discuss how writing on Netflix’s hit animated series Big Mouth put them on their mission to deshame sex by talking about it. They also cover Brandon’s journey with their husband from monogamy to polyamory, how dating other people has benefited their primary relationship, being an educator of oral pleasure, how to make kindness cool within the queer community, and all about the past, present, and future of Heaux Church. The episode concludes with Brandon helping address a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener frustrated by how their partner prioritizes a dom hookup over their relationship, and finally, with some words of guidance from Brandon on coming together during these difficult times.

Brandon Kyle Goodman on the Web: https://www.brandonkylegoodman.com/

Heaux Church at Ars Nova: https://arsnovanyc.com/events/heaux/

Downtown/Uptown - New York in the Eighties at Levy Gorvy Dayan gallery: https://www.levygorvydayan.com/exhibitions/downtown-uptown

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