• This makes it too easy for kids. We coddle them.
• How did you learn resilience?
• Did you have an adult to help shape you into something better?
• Resilience - #1 strategy attachment to a caring adult.
• Bruce Perry - National Leader on trauma.
• Witnessed in their humanity
• How do we create that caring, supportive environment that supports that student when we are in the school environment.
• We can’t get hung up on the behavior.
• The problem is when we alienate because of the behavior.
• Understanding that any perception of loss of safety is potential for students to become disregulated.
• Trauma is the perception of loss of safety and connection, not just the ACES.
• Safety - not just physical safety. Moral safety and emotional safety - see more from Sandra Bloom
• How to deal with the response, “This takes too much time.”
• Calm room is not punishment.
• Schools can’t do this alone.
• “My Piece Matters”
• Won’t kids take advantage of that? Teachers notice that.

• Every child wants to do well.
• Do we teach them through a punishment mode or regulatory mode.
• Building adult skills to support trauma-impacted youth.
• Emotional Hygiene
• How to be a transformative principal? Dig into understanding of hardwired response system in the brain. Kids aren’t out to get you, they just don’t know how to manage themselves.
• Self-Reg Stewart Shanker
• By Daniel Goleman Emotional Intelligence
• Starts with understanding that each of us can help create a safe environment.
• Nurturance is reparative and restorative. 

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