Call Your Girlfriend

Wondering what it's like to see us live? We share one of our favorite nights of 2018, when we visited Seattle and discussed Ted Cruz's love of Disney movies, Megyn Kelly's obsession with blackface and why one of our favorite writers, Ijeoma Oluo, would be perfectly happy if white people wanted to take up the hard work of talking about race.

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What makes you feel rich? When does money create strife in friendships? We go deep on our own money feelings and answer listener questions about money in relationships with Reema Khrais, host of This is Uncomfortable.

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Bad people aren't only on the internet, but digital life sure gives predators and creeps more permission to make other people miserable. Fortunately, lawyers are fighting back. We talk about the taxonomy of predator behavior, how to anticipate their playbook, and turning victims to warriors with New York attorney Carrie Goldberg. Her new book is Nobody's Victim: Fighting Psychos, Stalkers, Pervs and Trolls. Content warning: sexual assault, revenge porn, and online harassment are discussed. If you or someone you love has experienced a violation of your privacy, it's not your fault.

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Tour / merch

How to copyright your nudes // This isn’t new! 

Resource: Without My Consent

Nobody's Victim: Fighting Psychos, Stalkers, Pervs, and Trolls

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Binaries aren't good for babies or friendships. We discuss angst around the "gender reveal" party from the blogger who popularized it. How to avoid judgement around a friend's parenting and their choice about whether to become a parent. Crucially, how to weather change when a friend has kids and you don't. Hint: communicate! Also, untested but good-smelling mosquito repellents. And, we have brand new merch + don't forget to buy tickets to CYG Live!

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Tour / Merch

Inventor of gender reveal parties weighs in!

How to hang out with your friend who has a kid

Childfree By Choice by Dr Amy Blackstone

No One Tells You This by Glynnis MacNicol

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In vintage CYG fashion, Amina and Ann discuss their Harry Potter houses (as sorted by Gina) and then move on to sadder and more serious topics. The intractable problems of hate and guns, men who abused their power and want it back. And, Rest in Power, Toni Morrison. Content warning: gun violence and the fact of sexual violence are acknowledged in this episode.

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• Mona Chalabi’s charts on domestic terrorism
• Metoo check in: Age of consent laws and Epstein
• Alan Dershowitz profile
• Epstein case explained
• Al Franken (New Yorker profile / Jezebel report) and Aziz Ansari (reporting on Babe.net / “reflective” new set) stage their comebacks
• Toni Morrison's 2011 commencement address at Rutgers: "I am myself a storyteller, and therefore, an optimist—a firm believer in the ethical bend of the human heart; a believer in the mind’s appetite for truth and its disgust with fraud and selfishness. From my point of view, your life is already a miracle of chance waiting for you to shape its destiny. From my point of view, your life is already artful—waiting, just waiting, for you to make it art."

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Marriage didn't always wreck friendships among women, as it did the 1950s, or strain both beloved relationships, as often happens today. Stephanie Coontz studies the long history of family structures from forager society to the present. History has some stark (and cheering) lessons about the ways that friendship functions as a deep human bond. Plus, we're renewed, refreshed, and restored after taking a break and doing a full home reorganization.

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We're going on tour!

Stephanie Coontz

The Way We Never Were: American Families and the Nostalgia Trap

For a Better Marriage, Act Like a Single Person

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We're staying cool reading plays, essays, sci-fi, and YA. Amina talks with Keah Brown about her essay collection, The Pretty One: On Life, Pop Culture, Disability, and Other Reasons to Fall in Love with Me. Gina chats with Aminah Mae Safi about her Gilmore Girls-inspired lesbian teen romance, Tell Me How You Really Feel. Tell us what you're reading by tagging #CYGbooks.

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We look back at Girlfriends, the 1978 film that took women's friendship seriously long before Hollywood was ready to do the same. Director Claudia Weill talks with Gina about how Girlfriends was made and financed, her creative endeavors in television and theatre, and why she made just a handful of movies.

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Everything you’ve ever wanted to know about sex and still haven’t learned, even though you’re an adult now. Our expert panel includes Myisha Battle and Jaclyn Friedman. You’ve got sex questions, and they have answers! Full NSFW show notes + resources at callyourgirlfriend.com. Kinda goes without saying, but you probably don't want to listen to this one with young kids around.

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Body hair! our feelings about it and our practices around it. Removing it, grooming it, loving it, hating it, keeping it. Our guest is data journalist Mona Chalabi, who’s written a lot about her relationship with the hair that grows on her bod. We also shout out Jacob Tobia’s Sissy: A Coming of Gender Story.

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