We all have a viewpoint of the world that is different from each other, but there are patterns. Some people look at the world with the belief that there is so much more goodness out there to be discovered, while some people worry that there simply isn't enough. The former is an attitude of Abundance, while the latter is an attitude of Scarcity.

In this episode I open up this subject from a Biblical view. Consistently in the Bible, God invites us to believe in His goodness, and the superabundance of His goodness. But how do we actually do this?

The first step to solving any problem is to be aware of the problem. Or, said differently, one cannot confess a sin without knowing that one has sinned. Awareness is a critical part of any growth process.

Awareness isn't simple, however. There are many different ways to be aware - and specifically, different steps in the mental process for awareness to act. As we become aware earlier in the process, we slowly get closer to sainthood. In this episode, I invite you to become more aware of how aware you are.

Control.

Self-reliance. (Ungodly, of course)

We all want to control. We all like to trick ourselves into thinking that we actually DO have control.

In this episode I really explore what it means to have control, why we want it, and how we use control to further our own perceived need to be self reliant. If you really want to live the life you TRULY want, then instead of gripping more tightly, the only solution is to surrender our will to God. In surrender lies true freedom.

Probably the most consistent question I get asked in a phone call is "How is Life Coaching different from Therapy?" It may seem like they are similar - but actually have some pretty significant differences in approach. It all has to do with Trauma.

In this episode I discuss what trauma is and how it works. The bigger question most people want to ask - what can you do about it?? We all have trauma (at least all of us whose parents were human.) The extent of the trauma determines what we do next.

Very few guys I've met like to talk about their feelings. So much so that a common joke about what guys least want to do is "sit and talk about our feelings." Yet, we do need to talk about them. Furthermore, we need to dig deeper to really find them - then take the even bigger risk and share them with those whom we love.

In this episode I really go deeper on the idea of how feelings play a role in our lives. This is often one of the biggest resistance points I have with new clients who really really want to claim they do not have feelings. In this episode, you'll learn not only why it's helpful to dig and share your feelings, but how to do it too!

This was a tough topic for me. When I first learned about my own disordered love style I was really resistant to what I was reading. I didn't see - for quite some time - that what I was doing was wrong. I certainly didn't see how it was hurtful to my wife.

We all fail at the commandment to love. God created us from love, and for love. Yet, instead of living out a true covenant-style love of complete and total mutual gift of selves, we close the doors to one piece or another. This created pain in our relationships - especially in our marriages.

I really invite you to come along with me on this episode.

Show notes:

Milan and Kay Website for How We Love:

Amazon link to their book

My coaching page if you want to go deeper.

Relationships are hard - especially as guys. It often seems that women have a bit of an advantage at understanding, empathizing, and ultimately connecting with others. Yet, despite our frequent claims otherwise, relationships are just as important to guys.

This episode focuses on how to live the Lord's second greatest commandment. Love thy neighbor as thyself. If you pause and think, it almost sounds impossible. How can I love someone who has done terrible terrible things? We'll get to that.

Also, in this episode, I introduce a lot of concepts and terms that will change how you think about your relationships, and change how you show up for others.

This episode is a tough one to hear. We all have limitations - things we want to be a certain way, but they are not. Many of these limitations cause us real problems and real pain. Rarely do we fully understand why God has allowed them to be.

Yet, in these limitations, we often find our deepest meaning and purpose. We find the little things that change our lives and help us to become better and more virtuous Christians. We find that God actually does know what He's doing!

Books often start with a prologue - but if you're at all like me, you don't always read them. Yet, they have the power to set the stage for the rest of the story. Similarly in life: rarely do we fully understand how important our thoughts are to what happens in our lives. The Bible does though! Not only does it understand how important the prologue is, it even gives us some really good ones to use.

In this episode we explore examples of how a prologue can radically change your understanding of a story. We connect that to our own thought processes, and how we can change what a story means and how we respond simply by changing what we think about it. We also discuss the devil's goal to tell his own prologue, and how to overcome that effort.

Lent is nearly over, and we're just starting Holy Week (at the time of recording at least.) In so many ways God asks us to stay with Him, and stay faithful to Him, and most of all to repent and return to Him every time we stumble.

In this episode we explore how we can be the hero, we can receive God's blessing, only when we are faithful and obedient. But, how do we actually do that? In the crazy world we live in, it's so easy to be consumed by the world. Let's turn back to God.