Challenges That Change Us

Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of coercive control and domestic abuse.

This may not be the right time or the right episode today. Give yourself permission to skip this episode and we will see you next week.

If you find that this material concerns you or you ever need some help contact 1800RESPECT – National Sexual Assault, Domestic Family Violence Counselling Service – Call 1800 737 732 or visit 1800respect.org.au, Full Stop Australia – Call 1800 385 578 or visit fullstop.org.au

Today’s episode is another of our special expert episodes where a specialist shares their tips and advice for overcoming a particular style of challenge.

In the episode we will be hearing from Mia Madafferi of Grey Rock Consulting.

Mia is a proud mum who spent 16 years as a lawyer navigating complex disputes across a variety of industries.

As an experienced lawyer, trained to stick to the facts and leave emotion out, she found this difficult to do personally and sought out help.

Since then she has founded grey rock to help other women build and strengthen their muscles to navigate their situation. She specialises in working with clients who are trying to manage communicating with controlling, narcissistic and high conflict personalities.

In today’s episode Mia shares:

-      Just how dangerous and destructive words can be

-      The surprising truth behind which women are most often victims of coercive controllers.

-      Her tips for managing and dealing with a high conflict personality.

Key Quotes

“Words can be abuse. And they can be absolute weapons of destruction.”

“Listen to your instinct. More often than not, the beginning was something felt off.”

“As a friend, your starting point is to be an ear and to hear them.”

Again, these are contacts for free DV services:

1800RESPECT – National Sexual Assault, Domestic Family Violence Counselling Service – Call 1800 737 732 or visit 1800respect.org.au

Full Stop Australia – Call 1800 385 578 or visit fullstop.org.au

And if you’d like to contact Mia you can do so:

www.greyrockconsulting.com.au and Instagram page is @greyrockconsulting

If you’d like to hear and learn more from our community, join the facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/challengesthatchangeus

For my other businesses you can find them through the websites:

www.altitudefitnessarmidale.com.au

www.trialtitudeperformance.com.au

Or you can follow them on Instagram:

@Veravidyayoga

@Altitudefitnessarmidale

@trialtitudeperformance

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Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of depression, anxiety and suicide.

This may not be the right time or the right episode today. Give yourself permission to skip this episode and we will see you next week.

If you find that this material concerns you or you ever need some health, reach out to Lifeline on 13 11 14.

In today’s episode we will be talking with the incredibly brave Matty Hourigan.

Matt is very bravely sharing with us his incredible story of growing up with his father’s battles with depression that eventually resulted in him losing his life to suicide a few years ago

In todays episode Matt shares:

-      What it was like growing up, aware of what was happening with his father

-      The story of the traumatic days when his father disappeared

-      How he maintains his own mental health and his advice for others

Key Quotes

“I did see a level of vulnerability in my father that I had not seen before.”

“The people that I surround myself with is what helped me get through that for sure.”

“If they know that you’re there, that’s all that you can really do.”

“A big part of my healing is...I’m so open and honest.”

“If your cars not running right you go for a tune up, it's the same thing in yourself.”

“If you’re not happy with your counsellor, go shopping.”

“Get comfortable with asking uncomfortable questions.”

Again, if you find that this material concerns you or you ever need some help, reach out to Lifeline on 13 11 14.

Matt also mentioned courses about bit coin trading, you can find those here: https://learntotradewithmba.com/mhourig4/

If you’d like to hear and learn more from our community, join the facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/challengesthatchangeus

For my other businesses you can find them through the websites:

www.altitudefitnessarmidale.com.au

www.trialtitudeperformance.com.au

Or you can follow them on Instagram:

@Veravidyayoga

@Altitudefitnessarmidale

@trialtitudeperformance

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In today’s episode we will be hearing from the incredible Michael Crossland, a businessman, elite sportsman and motivational speaker.

After overcoming seemingly insurmountable odds, Michael has gone on to represent Australia in Baseball, tour with Richard Branson and the Dalai Lama as the opening speaker, opened an orphanage and so much more.

But beneath all those successes lies the story of multiple, massive challenges that he had to overcome from a very young age.

In todays episode Michael shares:

-      His inspiring story of overcoming cancer and other health diagnoses multiple times

-      How overcoming those challenges resulted in an incredible career

-      His routine for anchoring himself every day

Key Quotes

“Hope is the most powerful word in the English dictionary.”

“We must embrace the coolness of the shadows for us to have the ability to enjoy the warmth of the sunshine.”

“We must give without remembering and receive without forgetting.”

“Sometimes in life we have to hit rock bottom for us to wake up to ourselves.”

“We don’t need to see the abs after we decide to get out of bed and do sit ups, we just have to decide to get out of bed and do sit ups.”

If you would like to find out more about Michael you can head to his website www.michaelcrossland.com

If you want to read his amazing words, check out his book “Everything will be ok” where 100% of the profits go to charity.

You can also follow him on social media

Instagram: @michaelcrossland

Facebook: www.facebook.com/michaelcrosslandofficial

If you’d like to hear and learn more from our community, join the facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/challengesthatchangeus

For my other businesses you can find them through the websites:

www.altitudefitnessarmidale.com.au

www.trialtitudeperformance.com.au

Or you can follow them on Instagram:

@Veravidyayoga

@Altitudefitnessarmidale

@trialtitudeperformance

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Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of perinatal depression, anxiety and suicide.

This may not be the right time or the right episode today. Give yourself permission to skip this episode and we will see you next week.

If you find that this material concerns you or you ever need some health, reach out to Lifeline on 13 11 14.

In today’s episode we will be hearing from Chelsea Pottenger

Chelsea is an international wellbeing speaker, ambassador for mental health charities including RUOK? and The Gidget Foundation, and author of ‘The Mindful High Performer’. Her passion is helping busy minds reset, recharge and navigate the challenges of everyday life.

Chelsea was a high level corporate worker when she was diagnosed with perinatal anxiety and depression and everything changed. After going through treatment Chelsea has made it her mission to continue the conversation on mental health.

In today’s episode Chelsea shares:

-      Just how simple some of the things are that you can do to help your mental health

-      How her husband being home when she wasn’t expecting him to be saved her life

-      An inside look at perinatal depression and anxiety

Key Quotes

“The bravest thing you can do is ask for help.”

“I just lost all sense of hope.”

“I just lied to them that I was feeling ok…but the demons were there day 3.”

‘Everyone’s kind of got a bag of shit that they carry.”

If you want to order Chelsea’s book you can do so via here website: https://www.eqminds.com/

You can also follow EQ Minds on Instagram: @eqminds

Or on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/eqminds/

You can also listen to their podcast ‘EQ Minds: Recharge Your Mental Health’, https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/eq-minds-recharge-your-mental-health/id1387764149

And if you would like to find out more about the Gidget Foundation which helps to spread information about perinatal depression and anxiety you can find them here: https://www.gidgetfoundation.org.au/

If you’d like to hear and learn more from our community, join the facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/challengesthatchangeus

For my other businesses you can find them through the websites:

www.altitudefitnessarmidale.com.au

www.trialtitudeperformance.com.au

Or you can follow them on Instagram:

@Veravidyayoga

@Altitudefitnessarmidale

@trialtitudeperformance

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Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of depression, anxiety and suicide.

This may not be the right time or the right episode today. Give yourself permission to skip this episode and we will see you next week.

If you find that this material concerns you or you ever need some health, reach out to Lifeline on 13 11 14.

In today’s episode we will be hearing from another expert, who also has their own challenge story that they will be sharing as well.

Ana-Maria is the creator of a unique coaching method designed to create permanent lasting transformation in your confidence and mindset using neuro-linguistic reprogramming. Her background in academic research, social sciences, behavioral psychology, and cross-cultural communication, combined with a decade of personal immersion in various spiritual and wellness practices and the development of signature meditation techniques that her clients LOVE!

In today’s episode Ana-Maria shares:

-      The power of Unshakeable confidence and how everyone can develop it

-      The importance of forgiveness and how she learnt to forgive her father

-      The specific work we can all do to develop that self worth and confidence

Key Quotes

“When you start to feel fear, you are still fierce.”

“Your net worth is not your self worth and your self worth is infinite.”

“Once you commit to doing the work, every single person can change.”

‘I realised that I can spend my entire life blaming my dad for my relationships...for how unhappy I was…or I can set myself free.”

If you want to find out more about Ana-Maria you can do so via her website: https://lunavoda.com/

If you want to start somewhere specific, she recommends trying this article she wrote:

https://lunavoda.com/the-5-wounded-inner-child-archetypes-which-archetype-are-you/

Or any of her social handles:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/A.M.Georgieva

Instagram: @luna_voda_coaching

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjlbnw_k-b96eC_zaIk__eQ/videos

If you’d like to hear and learn more from our community, join the facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/challengesthatchangeus

For my other businesses you can find them through the websites:

www.altitudefitnessarmidale.com.au

www.trialtitudeperformance.com.au

Or you can follow them on Instagram:

@Veravidyayoga

@Altitudefitnessarmidale

@trialtitudeperformance

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In today’s episode we will be talking about the waiting game that comes with medical issues and just how much stress that can cause.

This episode’s guest is Elizabeth McNeil, a good friend of mine and an incredible women.

Her husband was diagnosed with bowel cancer at the age of 30. At the time they had a 1 year old daughter and were soon to be pregnant with their second child.

This is a discussion of diagnosis and treatment and the chaotic nature of the medical world.

On top of watching a loved one suffer through cancer, whilst also pregnant, Elizabeth had to deal with the unknown, the challenges of the waiting period, Dr Google and more.

In today’s episode Elizabeth shares with us:

-      How she had to learn to accept help in order to survive this process

-      The things that helped the most

-      The surprising and unlikely dangerous times that she struggled through the most

Key Quotes

“Try as hard as you can to let go of the things that you can’t control because there will be so many things out of your control.”

“I think I will always get that same knot in my stomach walking into any hospital.”

“Even that moment after, when everything has stopped, you almost feel a little bit of a loss, how do you move on with your life without appointments?”

‘Night times were hard for me…the quiet, it just felt so lonely.”

If you’d like to hear and learn more from our community, join the facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/challengesthatchangeus

For my other businesses you can find them through the websites:

www.altitudefitnessarmidale.com.au

www.trialtitudeperformance.com.au

Or you can follow them on Instagram:

@Veravidyayoga

@Altitudefitnessarmidale

@trialtitudeperformance

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Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of depression, anxiety and suicide.

This may not be the right time or the right episode today. Give yourself permission to skip this episode and we will see you next week.

If you find that this material concerns you or you ever need some health, reach out to Lifeline on 13 11 14.

I also want to take a moment to acknowledge anyone who has lost someone or has ever been affected by suicide.

I also want to thank Dylan Lewis, today’s guest, for sharing his story.

In today’s episode I speak with Dylan about his personal mental health struggles , knock backs when seeking help and how it wasn’t until his second near fatal attempt to suicide that he finally got some support and the help he needed.

Dylan shares with us:

-      His views on managing mental health in combination with your whole health

-      How he personally manages the dark thoughts when they return

-      Th development of his amazing initiative Mental Mates that strives to help educate and build skills to prevent suicide.

Key Quotes

“Your mental health is about wholeness. Your whole health and wellbeing.”

“The spiralling starts before you even realise and you’re feeling like shit for no reason.”

“You need to have the guts to ask some hard questions. It’s only talking, you’re not going to make the problem worse.”

‘Once someone has talked about it once, that’s the start of the road to recovery.”

If you want to reach out to Dylan, this is still quite raw for him so we ask that you limit yourself to posting a message in our facebook group, which he will be watching

https://www.facebook.com/groups/challengesthatchangeus

But if you want to find out more about his initiative Mental Mates, you can do so at https://www.mentalmates.org/

Or on Instagram at @mental_mates_inc

For my other businesses you can find them through the websites:

www.altitudefitnessarmidale.com.au

www.trialtitudeperformance.com.au

Or you can follow them on Instagram:

@Veravidyayoga

@Altitudefitnessarmidale

@trialtitudeperformance

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In episode 5 of Challenges That Change Us we will be speaking with the incredible Grace Hamilton. Grace is an Australian Rugby union player and Captain of the Australian Women's team the Wallaroos currently playing for the NSW Waratahs and The University of Sydney.

She is the 2019 Player of the year and RUPA people's choice amongst all international teams. Hamilton juggles rugby whilst working full-time in Sport at The Scots College, Sydney.Hailing from a farm in Panuara in Country NSW, Grace Hamilton started playing Rugby on a University exchange in the USA. Growing up around Rugby with her family, Hamilton was always on the sidelines cheering her father and brother yet playing netball and doing all types of athletics. Although never thinking she would play rugby debut for the Brumbies in 2014 and joined the Sydney team later that year.

Over the past few years Grace has had to handle the truly agonising feeling of limbo, training for international events for 2 years, with no idea when she might actually play another game. This only further compounds that challenge of trying to succeed in the world of women’s competitive sport in Australia.

On top of that Grace suffered the loss of her father, the figure who inspired her and supported her through her Rugby Union journey.

Throughout the episode Grace shares:

-      How she handled the loss of her father and the surprising time it hit her the hardest

-      Her advice for how other women can succeed in international sport in Australia

-      Just how crushing it was having to train without playing and with no end in sight.

-      Her advice for how to overcome a stumble or mistake in the middle of a game

Key Quotes

“Allow yourself to get in situations where you don’t necessarily have to think about it [the loss].”

“I was probably the worst I was a year and a half later.”

“Every situation you can either make it really great or make it really bad.”

If you want to follow what Grace does you can follow her on Instagram @graciehamilton4_ or follow the Wallaroos @wallaroosrugby or head to their website https://wallaroos.rugby

If you’d like to hear and learn more from our community, join the facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/challengesthatchangeus

For my other businesses you can find them through the websites:

www.altitudefitnessarmidale.com.au

www.trialtitudeperformance.com.au

Or you can follow them on Instagram:

@Veravidyayoga

@Altitudefitnessarmidale

@trialtitudeperformance

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Welcome to episode 4 of Challenges =That Change Us, which will be quite different to the others.

Every few episodes I will be taking to an expert in their field about challenges they see on a daily basis and get some great tips for you in this space.

Today’s podcast is with the legendary Dave Ballard, aka Classy.

He is currently the Head Of Performance for the Bronco’s and is also my business partner and helped found the company Tri-Altitude Performance.

He has 17 years experience in the sporting industry and has working with the dragons, the knights, the reds and now the bronco’s.

For this episode Classy and I talk about mindset around returning to play or the gym after injury.

Through the episode Classy will share:

-      His career and just the ups and downs and experiences he has gathered

-      How different people respond differently to injuries

-      The importance of having direction’

-      His cool strategy for ensuring a player has prepared properly to return

Key Quotes

“Some people love detail and are goal focused, and the other person just wants day to day, don’t want to look too far ahead”

“It’s having the conversations and dealing with the person based on the style of person they are”

“You need to be consistent in what you’re doing with your rehab if you want it to work or with pretty much anything in work.

If you want to follow what Classy does, check out the business he helped me found, Tri-altitude Performance: www.trialtitudeperformance.com.au or on Instagram @trialtitudeperformance

If you’d like to hear and learn more from our community, join the facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/challengesthatchangeus

For my other businesses you can find them through the website:

www.altitudefitnessarmidale.com.au

Or you can follow them on Instagram:

@Veravidyayoga

@Altitudefitnessarmidale

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Welcome to the third episode of Challenges That Change Us, today’s episode discusses medical testing, the waiting game and the inner critic.

Physical challenges can hit us at any stage and one of the many hurdles that can come with these is how we feel others will perceive us afterwards.

Sarah Hayles is the host of All Things Small Biz podcast. Sarah is a mum, a career woman and an incredible entrepreneur who made it to the top in a very male dominated industry.

She is a qualified engineer, has worked internationally, has managed joint ventures all over the world and has negotiated 9 figure business deals.

However she is now playing in the space of running her own business. West of The Waves, All Things Small Biz and E-Commerce with Sarah Hayles.

But when she was younger she suffered a physical injury after some routine surgery.

In today’s episode Sarah shares:

-      The traumatic process of being stuck in the ‘waiting game’ of medical testing when there is no clear answer

-      How dealing with her physical injury caused her to change how she handled friendship imbalances

-      How she approaches helping her children understand her physical injury as a lesson in kindness

Key Quotes

“Validation is not going to come from someone else outside of yourself”

“I’m the only person who can make my kids ok with that and it’s how I deal with my injury that is going to teach them how to be, how to do, how to act, how to support, how to care”

“If I was the one having to make 70% of the effort, well I stopped making an effort because I was going through a really traumatic time and if people weren’t prepared to put in 50% then I wasn’t able to do it”.

You can listen to Sarah’s podcast ‘All Things Small Biz’ online on any of your normal podcast apps and you can follow the podcast and her e-commerce business on Instagram at @the_ecomm_hub or via the website https://www.sarahhayles.com/

You can also follow her clothing and jewellery business West Of The Waves on Instagram at @west_of_the_waves

You can find everything else on her website https://www.westofthewaves.com/

For Ali’s businesses you can find them through their websites

www.trialtitudeperformance.com.au

www.altitudefitnessarmidale.com.au

Or you can follow them on Instagram:

@trialtitudeperformance

@Veravidyayoga

@Altitudefitnessarmidale

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