Hi Clare,  I still stumble and ruminate about this whole notion of change. I know you answered already a lot of questions and the anwers are logical, but this system here just keeps asking and not knowing.   So the thing is: change just happens if for the system it makes no more sense to sustain a behaviour. Ok so far. And when and why this happens, who knows? Something has been seen, heard whatever. Suddenly the systems sees things differently and what made sense yesterday doesn't make sense anymore.   So this sounds like there is nothing to do, no attitude to take, no whatever to initiate this change. But still there is seeking and wanting to change. Where does this come from? And still and this is my main question there are tons of people who claim to decide to change or decide to do things differently and it worked for them. What is this then? Delusion? It was just the system ramdomly changing things and they just think they had a say in it? Or what? Do you have any thoughts on that?