Let me know if this cycle sounds familiar: The ex makes a unilateral co-parenting decision >> that decision interferes with your parenting time or otherwise conflicts with your morals, ethics, and values >> they know this and move ahead anyway >> you decide enough is enough and say you're not going along with it >> then THEY accuse YOU of putting the kids in the middle.

If this sounds wayyy too familiar, please listen when I say: co-parenting takes two, but keeping a kid in the middle only takes one. Sticking to your boundaries does NOT put your kids in the middle; if you're co-parenting with a high conflict ex, your kids are ALREADY in the middle.

The best way to protect your kids and stepkids from high conflict is by holding firm to your boundaries, not bending over backwards more. For help understanding the “why” behind this, please go read ➡️ THE 10 COMMANDMENTS OF HIGH-CONFLICT CO-PARENTING 👀

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