I am diving into one of the most challenging parts of being a modern human. How much do you care about what other people think of you?
Often times our fears about other people's opinions are the very thing that keep us from making change, from speaking up, from doing the thing we know deep down we need to do, or even pursing our own dreams. If we get trapped in people pleasing and abandoning our own sense of self at the risk of not being liked, long term the results are far worse than they would have been otherwise. I'm sharing my own journey with this ongoing fear and how caring less about others opinions has actually helped me build the skill of trusting myself more and more.

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Typically in social settings we tend to ask the same questions of each other.

How are you?

What's going on in your life?

Or if it's someone you haven't met before, perhaps questions like, Where are you from? What do you do for a living? Do you have children? Are you married?

While these questions are still important insights into someone's life, I was recently asked a casual question at a dinner that I haven't been able to stop thinking about for more than a month. It stopped me in my tracks and made my heart beat fast. I've never been asked this question before so I didn't have a practiced response, and perhaps that is why it was so impactful. I had to really really search within myself for an answer, and to be honest, that search is still happening. And the search to this single question has added so much meaning to my life. I'm excited to ask you the same.

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Have you ever felt like you were walking on eggshells in a relationship? We all know the feeling... we don't want to rock the boat and create chaos and drama, but we also doubt the possibility of experiencing authentic joy here as well because something is being suppressed. It's the elephant in the room that keeps us from feeling free to just be ourself. So we play safe. We play small. We make sure we don't tip into the direction of getting triggered, but we also aren't free to tip in the direction of play and joy. We have a very small range of what is tolerable. While we may fool ourselves into thinking this is what it takes to keep things "good" in the relationship, this narrow range is more like a prison than a safe zone. And it's not just our relationship with others that can operate here, but also our relationship with ourself. Yes, you can walk on eggshells with yourself! In this episode we are going to talk about how to expand our range of emotion, because life is so much richer when we can open up the range of what can be felt and experienced.

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Have you ever felt divided inside yourself? Perhaps there's part of you who really wants to do something and part of you who doesn't. Or part of you that feels sad regarding an ending and part of you that is relieved. Maybe there's a part of you that still longs for a certain dream or a part of you that still carries the burden of a criticism you received a long time ago. We often described our complex feelings using this language... "Part of me feels (fill in the blank)." In this episode we're going to address our many different parts, and how this concept can help us to more fully understand our emotions and triggers they might bring. Most importantly of all, is the invitation we all have to love these different parts of who we are. Even those parts that annoy us or that we would rather reject. We're going to learn how to talk to those parts with love and understanding so we can move into wholeness instead of staying divided in fractal parts inside. 

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No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma & Restoring Wholeness with The Internal Family Systems Model by Richard Schwartz

Have you ever had the hope in your life that someday you would arrive at a point of spiritual maturity where you no were longer triggered by anything? You were no longer triggered by your spouse, or your kids, or your parents, or your co workers, or that really annoying person in your life, or maybe even no longer triggered by your own self? 

I have had this wish for most of my life! I think I have imagined that someday there would hopefully be some epic moment of arrival where I was eternally happy and unaffected by emotional challenges because I'd finally figured out how to master the game of life and had transcended it. If reaching that arrival is even possible, I am still a long ways out, and more so, I don't know that I have ever met anyone who has ever arrived at perfect peace and stayed there forever afterwards no matter what. All the people I know still get off balance...some are better than others at responding to those moments, but I don't know anyone who is no longer triggered by anything. With that said, I think talking about the nature of trigger and response is a worthwhile conversation. Perhaps if we understood some of the mechanics of what happens when we're triggered we can in the very least, get better at responding. 

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Human emotion needs expression not suppression. Yes, that means how to express anger, rage, disappointment, grief, sadness, jealousy, and more. Sometimes feeling our feelings in silence and just being an observer is enough. And other times, those emotions need a bit more drama in allowing ourselves to feel with our whole entire body and not just noticing them with our mind. Buckle up. I'm going to get really human in this episode. 

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This is part 3 in a series I'm calling "Reclamation of Feeling". In this episode we're talking about spiritual bypassing. This was a term I've only learned in the last few years but I have experienced this emotional block my entire life, as I'm sure you have as well. Knowing what it is and what it looks like has been a key piece in learning how to regulate my emotions and move through things with more love and compassion. If you've ever tried to change how you feel by doing spiritual tools, if you've ever tried to just be more positive and optimistic, if you've ever tried to just look on the bright side or be more grateful and sometimes experienced that these things didn't help you feel better, this episode will explain why that can happen. You'll be able to spot where you do this to yourself, and perhaps when you might project this onto others in effort to fix emotions we judge as wrong or bad. What if there isn't actually anything to fix? What if there's just things that need to be felt? This approach can make all the difference.

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In this episode we are going to explore how to travel from one emotional state to another. We've all experienced what it's like to have emotions we resist, where we wish in the moment to feel different. To feel better, whatever better is. But the challenge with emotion, is that you don't immediately go from a low state to a high state. You don't immediately go from feeling anger to feeling happy. Or from disappointment to contentment. Especially if you are actively resisting what you are feeling in the moment. There's too big of a gap between the two states, and in today we are going to learn about what exists in the gap. It's what I call The Land of Observation, and knowing about this place in the gap has been transformative in my journey of Reclamation of Feeling.

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The Co Create App gives you access to over 100+ Guided Meditations, new Yoga Classes, Inspirational Audio Courses, and community Challenges to support you in living into your true identity as the creator of your life. In the free section you'll also find my signature "I love and accept you" meditation which I would love for you to try. To learn more visit brookesnow.com/app. 

In my journey to embody more love and to live with One Heart, I have discovered that my ability to access love has a lot to do with my relationship to emotions. And truth be told, that relationship can be complicated. I can be all over the place from full out numbing myself from painful feelings, to making my emotions mean something about me or others, to spiritually bypassing anything uncomfortable in effort to be positive or more spiritual and fix myself. I invite you to join me in this new series on the podcast I'm calling Reclamation of Feeling. A reclamation is to reclaim something, and what I'm declaring a reclamation for, is the pure marvel it is to be a human with a body that feels. When we disassociate from our feelings because we are afraid to feel something, whether that feeling is pain or even hope and joy, we narrow our experience of life. Instead of living in a world of full color and vibrancy, we tone it down to a life of gray because it feels safer. But life is meant to lived fully. There is so much depth and richness we miss out on when we limit our experience. And most importantly, in so doing we also limit what its like to fully embody love.

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Have you ever experienced a downward spiral? Those moments that knock you off course, and then it's all downhill from there?  We all have our triggers that can set things in motion... what we don't always realize is the spiral can be traveled in two different directions.  In this episode we're going to talk about spiraling up, not down, and how understanding the spiral nature of our own growth can help us live with more compassion for ourselves and others.