Coming Out Gold

I am so excited to chat about this week’s topic. Seriously. If I had a megaphone, I would shout it out to the world because I am so passionate about women living to their full potential, and I want that for every woman because I truly believe it will make our world a better place. My big goal today is to equip you with tools to anchor yourself to what matters most so your life has a clear direction. This is about learning how to stop floating through life so you can live an intentional story. Buckle up buttercup, because we are diving in!

Have you ever been out on a boat? If you go out and drop anchor, the boat stays in place. You can jump off, do some snorkeling, have a swim, whatever, and the boat stays in place. But if you take that boat out, jump off to do some snorkeling, and have a swim WITHOUT dropping the anchor, the boat is not going to be where you left it. This is very dangerous. Well, so is living life without being anchored to the things you say matter most.

Too many women are anchored to the monotony of adulting when we should be women living with intention and purpose. They want their lives to matter and their days to have a purpose, but this is challenging. There are too many responsibilities, and many lack healthy boundaries. There seems to be this feeling that what we are doing isn’t enough, that we are not enough. It is wrong to work so hard without getting closer to your dreams.

Many women have shared how they feel like they're living life on auto-pilot instead of being alive in their own story. No one wants to feel like they are sleepwalking through their life. This is not really living, and they deserve so much better. I lived far too many years of life floating through my days, fighting to survive with little hope of ever learning to thrive. It was a bit like sleepwalking or maybe even a walking zombie. If I can come through the blazing fires I have walked through and learn to plan a life of intention and purpose, you can, too.

Listen to today's episode and follow these simple steps to drop anchor, set a course, and live your life with intention and purpose so you can:

You deserve to live a life full of purpose and with a clear direction. And you CAN live a life full of purpose and with clear direction. I can help you anchor yourself to what matters most. Be sure to grab my free Active Core Values mini-course at the link below so you can start living your life with intention today.

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Today we are going to tackle the subject of comfort zones and if you are following my podcast page on social media (those links are in the show notes for you) then you will have seen that I am keeping the promise I made in the last episode. I am showing up each day with a face-to-camera video chatting for about 5 minutes on a random topic. This was something I challenged myself to do to force myself out from hiding and into the light. It has certainly been a mountain-size leap from my comfort zone. But can I tell you something? The wins I have gotten far outweigh the hives doing it brought! So as I chat today about comfort zones trust that I and my hives are coming from a place of soul-deep experience.

Now in Tammy Terms, I say comfort zones are imposters. They create a false sense of safety wooing us to stay forever because it is easy. I believe that if we stay their too long comfort zones lead to complacency. Complacency leads to apathy. Apathy leads to hopelessness, and it is a rapid downhill slide from there! Personally, I believe the root of comfort zones often goes back to the shoulds we have unknowingly been carrying on our backs. It is easier to stay toeing the line we were told to toe than it is dropping the line and jumping into something unknown.

Far too many of us have set up housekeeping inside comfort zones. These areas may have served a purpose at one point, but one day we wake up and realize they are suffocating us. We want to feel safe and we also have a desire deep in our souls to live the life we dream of living. These two things can rarely cohabitate. This is why we must step out of them! We need to stand up as women, confident in our strength and power so we are capable of stepping into the unknown adventures in pursuit of a life that matters and aligns with our values. We need to press past the walls of comfort into the freedom that awaits us on the others side of that brave first step.

I want to offer you a simple way to do this. This process will help you close the gap between your comfort zone and your ideal life…and it will do it in a way that is manageable for you no matter your season. Remember, the key to lasting change rests on the simplicity to maintain it so mind let me teach you how to mind the GAP

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Hey Lovie! Welcome to today’s episode of the Coming Out Gold Podcast. I am so excited you are here. I believe by showing up you are a woman ready to make some changes in your life. Ready to shake off the shoulds and start going after your dreams. If I am right in that, then you are at the PERFECT PLACE.  Pull up a chair and take your seat at the table because today we are tackling something called sunk energy. This term is new to me, but I have lived it more times than I can count. I believe you are going to recognize it as well so let's dig in.

If you feel like you are pouring time and energy into relationships and situations that aren’t making life better, this episode might help you out so you can be a woman pouring time and energy into relationships and activities that bring more energy, are purpose-filled, and with healthy boundaries.

I believe women want to invest in what they value. They want to invest in relationships with people they love and champion. They want to BE loved and championed. They want a life spent pouring out their gifts into the world to make it a better place - for themselves, their people, and the world. They want to matter and they want what they do to matter.  There aren’t enough hours in the day to get it all done to sink more into areas not bearing fruit.  It is wrong to stay stuck in an unhealthy circumstance or relationship based solely on the fact that you’ve already invested so much time and energy.

Here's what I am sure of:  If I can walk away from a 20-year marriage and come out the other side more sure of who I am and what I deserve, you can walk away from whatever it is you have sunk energy into that you know isn’t bearing fruit. And you will be better, stronger, and more powerful than you can even imagine.

We can do this in three simple steps:

Follow these three steps and begin taking back your time and energy so you can move towards a life you love.

Listen to today's episode and be willing to ask yourself some hard questions.  I created a free pdf of questions for you to use to do this.

You can be a woman who pours time and energy into relationships and activities that bring more energy, are purpose-filled, and have healthy boundaries.  I can help you get clear on where it is you want to go and create a plan for moving forward so you can begin investing time and energy in what you say matters most.  DM me with your thoughts!  I look forward to hearing from you.

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Are you a woman who feels like an imposter in her own story, constantly afraid of being “found out"?

Have you fallen victim to what this world calls imposter syndrome?

Are you ready to be a woman sure of herself, her gifts, and the role she plays in her story?

If you're ready to stop questioning yourself and your value, to stop running from the “not enough” and "who do you think you are” voices inside your head so she can put one foot in front of the other in the direction of the life she wants.

This topic has come up in so many conversations lately, and I have heard so many women speaking on the feelings of imposter syndrome.  It is a bit of a buzzword right now in the self-improvement arena and may be as common as breathing in women.  In my work as a coach specializing in identity and purpose coaching, I have come to recognize this as a pervasive problem among women.  As we begin to understand our true identity and get to know the woman we were designed to be, we learn to see this with a different lens.  This allows us to address the emotions and make a plan to dispel them.

Here is the three-step plan:

Follow these three steps to find freedom from what’s holding you back so you can share your gifts with the world.  Then you will find success in these areas:

Today you can put an end to imposter syndrome!

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I always want to be transparent with you and it is important for me to be 100% real.  Not for one second would I want to pretend that all is perfect in my world and I have it all together.  That’s just not true…not of anyone actually.

This past week I spent time outlining several future episodes while also taking a class on speaking.  I spent so much time at my desk and in pouring out all the words I think my Fitbit gave up and quit notifying to move my body.  I also found myself a bit run down … okay, maybe I felt like I was run over if I am being honest.  2022 has not been kind to me as I have faced loss and illness and challenge upon challenge.  My anxiety and stress have been next level!  I have been trying to press on…reminding myself of my CPR method of consistent, persistent, resiliency.  I have been practicing it faithfully.  But after a holy come-apart or 20, I realized I had to stop and honor what my mind, body, and soul needed before I found myself in a place where that choice was taken away.  I truly believe if we don’t listen to what our body and souls need eventually we will experience a total meltdown and will find ourselves laid flat on our backs so we are forced to give it time to heal.

In today’s episode, I want to invite you into the conversation in the hopes that you will give yourself permission to honor what you mind, body, and soul need.  I hope you will reach out to someone you know who is going through it.  And I hope you will find hope that winter will end and Spring will burst in full of life.

You are loved.  Always.

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Have you ever felt controlled by the needs and emotions of others?

Do you long to be a woman who honors her values and communicates your needs clearly and kindly?

You CAN be accepted for who you are.  You CAN ensure you are in relationships when your needs matter.  Your values CAN become guiding lights in your life.  Your relationships CAN increase your energy and improve the narrative of your life.  And you can do this by setting healthy boundaries in every area of your life.

Too many move through life with unhealthy boundaries.  The needs of others are constantly clamoring for attention leaving their energy and time drained by the all-consuming needs of others.  We can’t continue to give away what we need while others take and take and take to have what they need.

I’ve spent most of my life believing that if I met the needs of others they would love me and never leave me.  I poured out all of my soul, time, and energy into what others demanded from me.  It became a mutually manipulative game that ended in disaster. Please benefit from my experience and make a choice to create healthy boundaries now so you don’t follow in my steps.  Thanks to therapy, loving friends, and a lot of hard work I have learned to practice healthy boundaries.  There is a simple process for doing this that you can follow as well.  It isn’t easy, but it is simple, and it will radically change how you move through life.

Here is the plan:

If you follow this plan, you will begin to establish and communicate healthy boundaries in all areas of your life.  This will free up an incredible amount of energy and time you can use to chase your dreams. Listen to this episode and download the free tool a the link below and start setting healthy boundaries today.

Doing so will provide:

Stop being held captive to the needs and desires of others and give your best to create your dreams.

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Are you a woman who is feeling frustrated with her life and business or career?

Are you ready to be a woman with a clear identity and a well-defined path forward to the life of her dreams?

I believe you want to love the life you're in and the one you're building.  You want to jump out of bed each day full of energy and excitement for what’s to come.  Even the challenges are welcomed because they are simply another step in the direction of your dreams.

Life can become a groundhogs day surviving one day to the next which leaves you feeling defeated.  It can feel as if life is passing you by. It is wrong to feel exhausted by your one beautiful life because it has gotten hi-jacked by dream-killing responsibilities and soul-sucking, dead-end jobs

After having my life implode I had no choice but to focus on surviving from one day to the next.  I worked as many as three jobs at a time to make ends meet.  I poured my soul into jobs that left no room for my own dreams and I couldn’t see a way out of that cycle. I endured intense fires but I didn’t let them consume me.  I persisted and came out the other side.  Now I help other women learn to do the same.  Together we can step past limiting beliefs and the broken bits of our stories to rise up from the ashes in power and strength ready to keep moving towards our goals.

Working with a coach may be simpler than you think.  Here is the lowdown:

Follow this path to find the perfect coach for you, work together to create a clear path forward, and do the work so you can get off the frustration train and soar to new levels.  I suggest you listen to this podcast.  Then head to my website to book a discovery call.  We can see if we are a good fit and get started living a better story.

By working with a coach you should:

I believe you are worth this investment.

Head here to find the blog version of the episode and here is the link to book a discovery call. I hope to talk with you soon!

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Do you dream of being free? Free to move forward, to trust yourself, to take chances, and try new things?

Too many women are held prisoner by fear to the point they stay within their comfort zone and never chase the dreams of their hearts. This isn't necessary. You can be a woman brave enough to let fear exist without allowing it to impede your desire to live your best life because the truth is you can survive anything life throws your way.

Fear is a roadblock to our dreams. Yes, the reality is you might not know everything needed to chase a particular dream. This is a natural part of growth and learning and being a beginner. In addition, you have been served messages rooted in what you CAN'T do and you've been taught to believe them. But the truth is, it is wrong to hold yourself back because you are scared of the unknown.

I am here to offer and new way!  Through my journey, I have learned to combat fear in a way that anyone can apply to their journey. It makes you the captain of your story so you can step into the life you were designed to live.  And I believe you are ready to be free and live your best life!  

In this episode you will learn to:

And be sure to download the free pdf I made to help you do this. You can find it at the link below.

When implemented, this plan will teach you how to:

Don't stay paralyzed and miss out on the life of your dreams. Don't live in fear instead of with purpose and passion. Don't keep living the lie that you can’t go after your dreams because YOU CAN!!!!

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Are you a woman who wants to feel in control of her time and calendar so you can make progress in the direction of your dreams?

Do you feel as if there aren’t enough hours in the day to tackle your never-ending to-do list?

Are you tired of focusing on the urgent and not having time to focus on what matters most to you?

Lovie, it’s so wrong to get to the end of the day feeling like you failed to accomplish what you wanted to do…what your soul longs for.

Many of the women I have worked with have expressed feeling like there isn’t enough time in the day to get it all done. It is so disheartening to live in a perpetual state of exhaustion. I used to be the poster child for over-scheduling and trying to cram too much into a day, but since creating a unique system to manage my time, tasks, and energy, I have a clear path through each day.  Now I can end the day feeling accomplished instead of exhausted. This system is simple enough for anyone in any season to adapt to their own needs.

Assuming you already tackled goal setting as we chatted about in the last episode, you should be ready to tackle your time by doing the following:

List all the tasks you do daily

Ask yourself if you do them because you can, you should, or you want to do them

Categorize each task into like actions

Create your ideal schedule

Time block your day to maximize productivity and minimize wasted energy

After listening to this episode, set aside 30 minutes to tackle these steps. Be sure to download the freebie I made to help walk you thru the process at the link below.  And please be certain you snap a pic and tag me on social media, so I can check in to see how you are doing!

If you implement this system, you will be able to:

manage your time and energy, not vise versa

define success benchmarks for each day

create a flow for your day that maximizes your energy and makes you more efficient.

set yourself up for success

build margin into your day to account for life so you aren’t stressed when challenges occur

There is no reason to continue being managed by your calendar. Stop the exhaustion caused by the constant hustle and move towards the place you dream of being. Follow this system and you can move from being a woman so exhausted by life, she wants to throw in the towel to become a woman in control of her time and calendar so she maximizes her energy and achieves her dreams.

Manage your time; don't let it manage you.

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A resolution is simply a firm decision to do or not do something. It leads to white-knuckle living and requires us to hope and pray willpower shows up in hyperdrive. Unfortunately, for most of us, willpower is a bit wishy-washy. Think about a professional athlete. Numerous children grow up wanting to be one, yet very few get there. Their will to compete at this level is not enough to get them there. A strategic, tactical coaching program is what helps move them closer to the dream becoming a reality.

What leads to actual change that is sustainable and reasonable is goal setting. Goals don’t require the fickle bedfellow willpower to roll in. When done correctly, goals are full of actionable, measurable, tactical steps. They have a beginning and end. They require us to set up systems and processes that take us step by imperfect baby step in the direction of our desired result. They are made with a willingness to make different choices and an awareness of the sacrifices required to see something to come to pass. Goals have more depth than resolutions, and I think that makes them easier to achieve.

Listen to today's episode for the inside scoop on how you can do goals differently in the new year and in a way that will lead to success time and again.

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