Commitment Phobe

You know when you can tell someone is an old soul?  That's my perception of Mikey, an intuitive therapist who's passionate about helping people get to know what's going on inside them.  Today we talked about some specific ways that our wounds in our relationships with our parents impact our present reality. 

Tune in to learn what's the difference between the mother and the father wound, what do they represent, and why it's so important to heal your past in order to relate more powerfully with your present.

We also speak on the power of our intuition, how you can develop and connect to it and how to become aware of what's informing your intuition to take more personal responsibility in your life.

Mikey is an intuitive therapist and coach that works with those who are seeking genuine and tangible change in their lives. He offers therapy and other interventions to help you heal and unlock your full potential. As an intuitive therapist he draws on the deep reality of soul and psyche to help you find direction and relief.

You can find him by connecting with him on instagram @mikey.brackett  Or by heading to his website where you can learn more about him and directly book with him Www.Mikeybrackett.com

Being vulnerable and looking inwards can be scary huh? How do we really build the courage to walk through what seems like a dark path and reveal our truths when we are so scared? My guest today, Zach didn't grow up having an easy time being vulnerable. Like most of us, he wanted to hide everything that was wrong and show everyone that he was okay. His biggest fear was not being loved and accepted by others. However, that wasn't leading to a fulfilling life. He was constantly seeking for approval in women to feel worthy, had no idea what he wanted, and carried a lot of childhood pain. 

Tune in to listen Zach's courageous choice to turn towards his darkness and "secrets" to turn his life around and find liberation. 

Some things we talk about:

-How Zach healed his relationship with his father in his adult life. -How vulnerability became a key part of Zach's life to truly create relationships he loved. -How Zach's pursuit of women was a way of trying to get the love he never got from his mother. -How Zach's did a feminine cleanse to get to know what he wants and who he is. -Why Zach feels it's so important to look inward and heal our "repressed childhood." -Zach's path towards getting to know himself and building what he wanted his life and relationships to look like. -How to stay connected and nourish your relationship when things are "vanilla."

Zachary is a writer, a coach and a heart-centered entrepreneur who loves helping others. His writing focuses on his experiences around holistic health, inner child work, addiction, recovery, spirituality, and fatherhood. His coaching is devoted to helping people experience deep fulfillment in relationships, career, and life. 

You can connect with him at zacharygoodson.com.

In the fall of 2020 I decided to commit to only tell the truth for a month, inspired by a practice called "integrity cleanse" which was made popular by Martha Beck who explains that our very health depends on us telling the truth. 

“The second you leave your truth, your immune system function goes down, your heart rate goes up, adrenaline spikes, and stress hormones increase.”

Tune in to find out what I learned, experienced, how that radically transformed how I feel in relationships with my friends, family and men and why I decided to turn that month-long challenge into a lifelong one. 

Being able to tell my truth unapologetically without any filters has been one of the most life changing practices for me. 

Today we talk about the importance of clearning emotions in our bodies in order to clear beliefs that don't serve us with Shadi Henau. Shadi started journeying with cacao in 2014 in Guatemala and it was such a powerful experience that led him back to his heart. 

If you're curious to learn about cacao check out this episode to hear about how cacao can be a versatile tool used for spiritual and emotional processing and help us drop down into our body and let the mind step back for higher wisdom to come through. 

We talk about:

- Releasing trauma from our body that we stored because we weren't able to deal with strong emotions in the past. - How feeling is healing and the power of sittign with uncomfortable, unpredictable emotions. - The misconceptions and judgements we have about being in our wildness.  -What are the hard bus, easy bus, and magic bus in life?

Shadi Henau is a cacao medicine carrier who’s been holding transformational cacao rituals events and trainings for 7 years in Guatemala.

Exactly one month ago I did a spiritual sexual shamanic training with the international school of temple arts which was one of the most powerful and liberating experiences of my life and I had the pleasure of having Shadi as one of the facilitators.

To find out about Shadi's online cacao practinioner training check out:

Use code CPTTM for $25 off https://www.onespiritworld.com/cacao-practitioner-training

My guest today, Shely Esses, is such a refreshing human! I was taken back by her level of comfort talking about all things sex.

Shely believes in the importance of getting to know our body parts as a way of creating a deeper connection with ourselves.

She's very passionate about dissolving all of the shame that's intrinsically associated with sex and helping people heal their own sexual shame due to a number of reasons such as: lack of sexual education, lack of exploration of their own body and lack of conversations around sex and their sexual needs.

Topics we discuss:

- Shely sexual experience growing up in a religious Jewish background.  - Redifining the concept of "losing your virginity." - The impact of the lack of in depth sexual education for children and teenagers. - How our mind impacts our sexual experience and the connection between the mind and our sex organs - How Shely helps patients with sexual conditions such as pelvic floor dysfunction or erectile dysfunction. - The fears that show up for many men around hurting women that impact their sex. - The changes being created by orthodox therapist that are out to transform how sex is viewed in orthodox communities.

Shely Esses is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist that works as a Sex and Relationship Therapist and Post-Partum doula that helps people unblock honest emotional expression and feel comfortable in their own skin and bodies. 

Connect with Shely on Instagram @shelyrachel.lpmft

What are their purpose?

How is it similar and different than the romantic idea of soulmates we have as a collective?

How do soulmates help us align with our purpose? 

My guest today Farah Assad Reyes believes in the importance of looking inward and facing ourselves when we're confronted with situations in life that we don't understand or feel stuck in. 

What's helped her do that? Powerful spiritual tools like tarot, kabbalah and astrology.  In this episode, Farah beautifully explains how spiritual tools like astrology and tarot can be powerful tools to help us do that and how soulmates have specific missions in our lives for our soul's journey as well. 

What we talk about:  - The difference between focusing on how we feel in relationship vs. figuring out if someone is "the one."  -How can we use astrology, kabbalah and tarot, meditation, etc as tools to get to know ourselves on a deeper level -How your astrological chart gives you the information and map you need to grow your soul.  -What is karma? What does it have to do with the reason our souls incarnate? -How our triggers and struggles hold important lessons us.

Farah Assad Reyes is an astrologer with a kabbalistic astrology background related to the soul.

She is also a tarot reader, yoga teacher.  To get in touch with Farah contact her through her Instagram: 

https://instagram.com/farahassadastrologa?utm_medium=copy_link

Farah works with both English and Spanish speaking clients.

You know that woman in your IG feed that keeps upleveling and conquering bigger and bigger mountains and you’re like, “holy sh*t how does she do it?” #goals

To me and to many, that’s Sarah Akiba. Among many roles, this woman is the founder of the nonprofit AWOM, Angel Watching Over Me, the founder of the creative agency AWOM Lab, and she’s a celebrity stylist and creative director.

Sarah’s philosophy in life is to “do whatever it takes.” 

Tune in to listen to how Sarah taps two things that helped her turn her dreams and projects into reality: 1) Her passion to help as much as she can 2) Putting herself first

Some things we touch on:

-How Sarah is driven to make an impact in the world. -The importance of surrounding yourself with people that believe in you. -How Sarah’s vision and belief in herself got her through her darkest times. -Sarah's perspective on the role of struggle and how to see the beauty in the pain and struggle.

Learn about AWOM at https://www.awom.org/

Get in touch with Sara through her Instagram https://www.instagram.com/soakiba

We see so much sex in our media and ads yet no conversations about it!  After realizing her inability to talk about sex Maxine started talking about it with her friends, partners, and doing research about the different ways one can engage in sex! Now she's an advocate for having conversations about sex and putting them out there to stop making sex a shameful taboo. 

If you want an inspiring, thought-provoking conversation about sex, this is it!

Some things we talk about:

-The importance of learning how different people get turned on differently! -How to use jealousy and sharing turn-ons to cultivate connection and attraction within the relationship. -Maxine's personal journey learning how to get to know her own sexual desires and how to express them with others. -How we can start sharing about the things that scare us the most, and how that leads to releasing shame.  -Is it that some people don't feel sex is important to them or have they just not found their flavor of it because of lack of knowledge and exploration? -What Maxine has learned from friends that have differently kind of relationships.

Maxine Cher is a Marriage and Famiy Masters graduat working towards her PHD.

To connect with her, follow her on Instagram on @maxinecher.mft

When I met Meg Beatty and Kevin Hermann, I was instantly inspired by their shared self-expression, intimacy and dedication to what they call “tending the fire of the relationship.” 

We are living in an amazing time of exploration and approval in the relationship world that would’ve been considered outside the norm just a few years ago. 

Whatever form of relationship we’re in, monogamous, poly, open, what stays true is that in order for the relationship to thrive it takes a lot of attention and “work” that doesn’t have to feel like work according to Meg and Kevin!

Tune in to this week’s episode to listen to the special ways Megan and Kevin nurture their relationship in a way that’s connected, clear, communicative and fun.

What you can expect in this episode:

• How Meg and Kev intentionally create their own milestones and phases in their relationship such as the “honeysun.”
• How they create the structure and space to allow their relationship “work” to feel easy and fun. 
• Meg’s experience working with the attachment to know “where is this going?” and how clarity provided the freedom from the relationship anxieties.
• How you build the thing determines what the thing becomes. How this concept powerfully influenced their dating in the first three months. 
• Their weekly check-in practice that Kevin mentioned in his episode on Commitment Phobe!
• What is the fire of the relationship and how do they keep the flames alive? 
• The importance of communicating intentions and desires in sex and intimacy. 
• The role of judgement in feeling turn off and how to create turn on when it feels inaccessible.
• Sexual playgrounds vs sexual cages. 

And so much more!!

Connect with Megan and Kevin on their Instagram profiles: 

Kevin Hermann: https://instagram.com/kev_hermann?utm_medium=copy_link

Megan Beatty: https://instagram.com/houseofmaro?utm_medium=copy_link

When my friend Kristelle offered to take my first photoshoot for my coaching business I thought, "great! some free photos from a friend." 

Then I looked at the photos and thought, "Oh sh*t. This woman has a really, special eye. This is different." Kristelle has a way of capturing vulnerability, power and intimacy in her photos in a very real and natural way. I've been so curious about the brain behind the photos that I decided to have her as a guest on my podcast so she can share her personal life journey and how she captures moments of intimacy in her photos.  

How does she do it? It all starts with curiosity, she says. 

This episode will be very relatable to anyone who has that passion they set aside as a "hobby" as a kid because they felt the pressure to do something more responsible or profitable. 

Tune in to listen to some of Kristelle's stories about her life in Lebanon, her marriage, and how she followed a desire to express her talents that took on a life of its own and has now become a profitable business!

Check out Kristelle's work at: https://kristelleboulos.com/

Connect with Kristelle at: @fromkbwithlove 

If you have any questions for me or want to connect follow me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/tanaimilgram