Commitment Phobe

Today my guest Derek Hart gives us some incredibly helpful insight on what it takes to maintain harmony in relationships and rebuild them when they're broken in his very own process of "reinvention." How does Derek define reinvention?

I follow Derek on Facebook and absolutely love the truth bombs he posts on his profile that always grab my attention and create  conversations amongst his followers. I decided to spice this episode up by randomly selecting different things he's posted and having him build more on each status and tell us the story behind them. 

Tune in to hear us talk about:

-How can we really create compassion between two people in a relationship. -What's Derek's role in a session? Why is it important to work with a third person when trying to rebuild and repair a relationship?-How can we share our needs in relationships with humility and love vs. defensiveness and demand? -How can couples disagree with each other while remaining deeply connected?

"All relationships must be reinvented from time to time, and this is your time to focus back on the person you committed your life to."-Derek

Learn more about what Derek does and how you can work with him on his website: https://www.understandeachother.com/ You can also follow him on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/derek.michael.hart

How do we follow our desires when we're SO used to doing what we should?

How do we even know what we want when we've been doing exactly what we know will get people to like us? 

This episode with my friend and Women's Coach Danielle Hatton is aaalll about the good girl conditioning, something I can very much relate to!

Danielle grew up being the good girl that always kept it together to avoid causing any conflict or chaos, and knew exactly what to do to be desireable to men. She was so well behaved she even got the reputation in her family as the "golden child." 

Then her life turned upside down and caused Danielle to question everything. Why wasn't she actually fulfilled even though she was doing everything by the book? Danielle's path to her truth and live a life designed by her desires has largely meant deconstructing how she was showing up in the world to try to be a good girl that was always liked, and instead, getting in touch with what SHE wanted and what she was hiding from the world.

Other things we talk about: -How to talk about our sexual desires with approval in relationships. -Why Danielle called off her wedding. -How Danielle got the courage to outgrow her good girl identity. -Why it's so important to get in touch with our true desires. Danielle Hatton is a Women's Coach that helps unfulfilled women gain clarity on what they truly desire & have the courage to create it. Contact her on Instagram to learn how to work with her or listen to her podcast Allow Accept Love:  https://www.instagram.com/daniellehattonn/?hl=en

Having a connected, vulnerable, authentic relationship requires people to be authentic, vulnerable, and deeply connected to themselves. How do we do that?

Mike Aidala talks about it from a holistic perspective: what we eat, how fast we're moving, where we live, how active we are, how connected to our bodies we feel... all of these things impact our abilities to feel connection and turn on in relationships and sex.

Other things we touch on: -Mike's personal journey that led him to becoming a coach. -Masculine archetypes -The rise of erectile dysfunction -The power of vision quests -Communicating our feelings and needs in relationships

Mike Aidala is a leading Performance and Mindset coach who has been mentioned in: Mens Journal, GQ, AskMen, Gear Patrol, Well+Good, PopSugar, Harpers Bazzar, Valet Magazine and more. He is one of the top coaches in America and has been coaching and guiding others for over 15 years. Mike's various programs are for individuals who want to establish an enhanced, more familiar relationship with their mental, emotional and physical selves. He works with Men and Woman on a 1:1 basis using a range of modalities to create, personalized programs that build confidence, clarity and conviction leading to a healthy, happy and more fulfilled life. Learn more about 1:1 coaching here. His Men’s Groups are renowned for their ability to dive deep into issues men face today and come out feeling stronger and more confident that ever. Read about men’s experiences here. Mike is also a lifetime athlete having experience from collegiate football to Olympic weightlifting, competitive stand-up paddle-boarding, ultra marathons, hand-balancing, strongman, big mountain biking and skiing, partner acrobatics, yoga and much more! Mike has spent his life seeking and studying a state of awareness through introspective wellness practices and movement. He also created Mountain Hawk Provisions which designs conscious jewelry. He looks forward to helping you on your journey to health optimization.

Welcome back to season 2 of Commitment Phobe! I couldn't think of a better guest to launch us off than my new friend Cailin McDuff, a women's coach who is an embodiment of full self-expression and approval for who she is in the world. This woman is sweet, funny, sexy, wild, silly, wise, and she is not afraid to embody all of it without holding back.

Cailin and I talk about what it means to let go of the threads of your life that aren't true, let go of everywhere in your life where you're holding back your desires and instead, living a life led by your desires. 

We talk about the shame women have over their hunger for more in their lives and relationships and how she helps women start to have approval for their desires, their yearning and their darkness. (You'll have to tune in to know what I mean when I say that!)

About Cailin:

Cailin McDuff loves helping women slow down, connect with their bodies, and learn to receive so that they can enjoy a life based in desire. Having never had an orgasm until the age of 33 to now fully connecting with her body and all the sensations it provides, Cailin created a safe community-- Cocoon, where she uses her experience to mentor women in creating this shift for themselves so that they can let go, be present in their bodies, and be bright again. She’s also the host of top-rated sexuality podcast, Any Way You Want It, where loyal fans tune in regularly for her authentic, fresh and edgy conversations about sex, relationships, and life. Through events like her "Slutty Soiree" in Los Angeles, Cailin is committed to creating spaces where women step into having full approval for their divine feminine expression.

To get in touch with Cailin:

• Instagram
• Facebook
• Download the Desire Guide
• Website 
• Podcast
• Cocoon

Learn more about what I do as a Women’s Coach and connect with me at my website: https://www.tanaimilgram.com

Follow me on Instagram to continue the conversation and get updates about the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/tanaimilgram

This first season of Commitment Phobe wraps up with my friend Cesar Rodriguez from one of my first episodes, flipping the switch and interviewing me. I talk about what’s going on in my life, my relationships, what I am currently working on in myself and more! We go in pretty deep and it was totally unplanned so this was a little edgy for me and I got to share some really vulnerable, unfiltered truths. 

Tune in to get a more vulnerable conversation than my usual episodes as I let Cesar take the reigns of the conversation and ask me whatever he wanted! 

Learn more about what I do as a Women’s Coach and connect with me at my website: https://www.tanaimilgram.com

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How do you create trust in a relationship? What does the person holding the feminine energy need to feel safe? What does the person holding the masculine need to feel safe?Trust and safety are so crucial for intimacy and connection to thrive in a relationship. A lot of times even when couples feel they’re losing the spark in the relationship, they feel distant from each other or there’s resentment, it’s directly correlated to the lack of safety in the relationship for each person to express their truth and nature. 

My guest Jeff Parker Love is a coach, community leader, healer and group facilitator (among other things) that helps people create trust and safety in their relationships so there is attraction, connection and intimacy. 

Tune in to listen to how he achieves that in his work, especially in a workshop called Sacred Union that I attended which was a game changer for me!

Jeff is also creating a course for women who feel that they are struggling to find conscious men for partnership. 

To find out more about Jeff Parker’s work, his Sacred Union events and be in the loop for when his course comes out, follow him on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/jeffparker.love/

Learn more about what I do as a Women’s Coach and connect with me at my website: https://www.tanaimilgram.com

Follow me on Instagram to continue the conversation and get updates about the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/tanaimilgram

This week tune in to listen to  my guests, filmmakers Matthew & Barnaby O’Connor, talk about their newly released documentary ‘The Pickup Game” where they expose the dark reality behind the  multimillion-dollar pickup industry, in which male coaches teach men how to succeed with women with different tricks. 

Amongst other themes, Matt and Barnaby are committed to spreading the message that intimacy and real happiness can only be found by being honest and authentic in your relationships, even in the initial parts of dating and the pursuit. 

In this episode we talk about:-What inspired them to create this documentary and how it all divinely came together.

-Why men get reeled in so easily into the pickup world. 

-The impact of men not having mentors or father figures that has them turn to books and the internet for answers.

-What Matt and Barnaby think we should all do as a collective to prevent the dangerous situations shown in the documentary. 

-How pickup coaches don’t really look fulfilled yet they make big promises to lots of vulnerable men looking for answers. 

-The dangers of manipulation in sales, pickup and advertising. 

THE PICKUP GAME is an inside look at the emergence of the ‘pickup’ industry – a world where self-styled seduction coaches travel the globe, charging a small fortune to teach men skills they claim will guarantee success with women.

From the glossy exterior, where courses are packaged as self-improvement, to the dark underbelly of sexual assault, pyramid scheme marketing and secret collusion THE PICKUP GAME pulls back the curtain to reveal a world that is fascinating and horrific in equal measure.

From San Francisco to Tokyo – with epicentres in Toronto, London, and New York – men collectively spend hundreds of millions of dollars to attend seminars, download online courses and have one-on-one coaching sessions with instructors they feel can give them the dating life of their dreams. In the minds of students, many of these instructors become more than just teachers. They become idols.

Check out the documentary on 

Learn more about what I do as a Women’s Coach and connect with me at my website: https://www.tanaimilgram.com

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This week my guest is my wonderful mom and energetic coach and healer Karina Zabner. So much of what I’ve learned about being compassionate with myself, and understanding my feelings, connecting to my body and energy comes from her. 

In this episode and last week’s we talk about all the ways that we can take responsibility for ourselves, our energy, our emotions, and the relationships in our lives. 

Some things we talk about are: How to set boundaries in relationships, how to communicate our needs, having self-compassion, why people are afraid of relationships, how our family systems affect our current lives and so much more. 

This is the kind of episode you’ll want to listen to with a notebook and pen because there is so much gold in it you’ll want to write down!

Karina is the founder of The Awareness Journey Co and the creator of The Art of Awareness, an empowerment process she uses with clients in her private practice, group coaching and workshops as a tool to help them improve their well-being, self-esteem, relationships, and their ability to respond to daily challenges in a more proactive way.

To contact Karina you can reach her on her website or Instagram:

https://www.theawarenessjourneyco.com/

https://www.instagram.com/theawarenessjourneyco/

Learn more about what I do as an Intuitive Coach and connect with me at my website: https://www.tanaimilgram.com

Follow me on Instagram to continue the conversation and get updates about the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/tanaimilgram

This week my guest is my wonderful mom and energetic coach and healer Karina Zabner. So much of what I’ve learned about being compassionate with myself, and understanding my feelings, connecting to my body and energy comes from her. 

In the following two episodes we talk about all the ways that we can take responsibility for ourselves, our energy, our emotions, and the relationships in our lives. 

Some things we talk about are: How to set boundaries in relationships, how to communicate our needs, having self-compassion, why people are afraid of relationships, how our family systems affect our current lives and so much more. 

This is the kind of episode you’ll want to listen to with a notebook and pen because there is so much gold in it you’ll want to write down!

Karina is the founder of The Awareness Journey Co and the creator of The Art of Awareness, an empowerment process she uses with clients in her private practice, group coaching and workshops as a tool to help them improve their well-being, self-esteem, relationships, and their ability to respond to daily challenges in a more proactive way.

To contact Karina you can reach her on her website or Instagram:

https://www.theawarenessjourneyco.com/

https://www.instagram.com/theawarenessjourneyco/

Learn more about what I do as a Women’s Coach and connect with me at my website: https://www.tanaimilgram.com

Follow me on Instagram to continue the conversation and get updates about the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/tanaimilgram

This week my guest and I do a deep dive into something lots of people struggle with: loving men. 

In a world where we are trying to deconstruct the patriarchy this seems like a very DIFFERENT message to hear right?Well, as much as women want to date men, they also have a lot of reasons for why they don’t like the entire species, so that creates a lot of blocks in the intimacy of the relationship that women aren’t aware of. 

Join my guest Kelly and I as Kelly talks about how she helps women heal their relationships with men, have a more loving relationship with themselves, and surrender in their relationships and sex lives.

Kelly, a former commitment phobe,  also shares her personal stories of healing, self-love, and how she presently shows up in her relationship with her boyfriend. 

Spoiler alert: Kelly made the first move, and he initially wasn’t sure he wanted a committed relationship! 

Kelley Bode is an international intimacy coach based in Bali. She works with women, helping them to have loving relationships, heal their relationships with men, and turn on their sex lives. She does both group and 1:1 coaching. She is also a podcast host on her show called The Best You’ve Ever Had.

Learn more about what I do as a Women’s Coach and connect with me at my website: https://www.tanaimilgram.com

Follow me on Instagram to continue the conversation and get updates about the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/tanaimilgram