Commitment Phobe

What does it mean to you to have an open heart?

To Jeff Shub, it means more than just sharing love and affection. It also means speaking up when things aren’t working and trusting your body to say whatever is there, even when it’s uncomfortable or ugly. 

On today’s episode my very inspirational friend Jeff who helps people live in alignment to their truth, shares the power of dropping into the chaos in and speaking with an open heart to create relationships with more integrity and vulnerability.

Some of the very powerful topics we touch on:

-How men have not been allowed to be themselves or express their feelings.

-the importance of training yourself to hold space for another in partnership

-how working in podiatry led to Jeff’s spiritual awakening and purpose.

-The difference between living a self-focused life vs a life of service.

-What it means to live a barefoot lifestyle.

-Jeff’s upbringing in a Latin Jewish Community and how he’s carved his own path.

-How sharing resentments brings desire and polarity back into a relationship.

-What is the Possibility Management Community Jeff is part of.

To get in touch with Jeff and follow his latest projects, follow him on Instagram: @theurbanbarefoot

Ever feel like you have a parent/child relationship with your romantic partners that kills the intimacy and attraction?

Learning how to recognize the roles you are playing in your relationship can be extremely useful to maintain a healthy and connected relationship. On today’s episode I invite my best friend and business partner Taylor Cohen to dive deep into why we mother our partners, why we play the roles of daughter or son to our partners, and how it all has to do with our fear of letting go of control.

Some of the powerful experiences Taylor shares on this episode are:  

-How mothering her past boyfriend killed the intimacy in the relationship.

-Her experience with sexuality growing up in a religious Jewish home and how it led to her sexual awakening.

-What ‘Undaughtering’ is and how it led to her self-expression.

- What it really takes to let go of control in a relationship.

-How our partners are reflections of ourselves and how we can learn from that.

-The power she found in being softer and more vulnerable in her relationships.

Taylor is also a vegan food inventor, and CEO of the lentil based meat alternative Adashah! Together we lead a four month program called Undaughtering to help womxn let go of the pressure of being the perfect daughters, claim their sovereignty and live fully self-expressed.

Learn more about what I do to help women become more confident with themselves and shed the pressure to be the “good girl” &  book a free 15 minute Discovery Call here:  https://calendly.com/tanai-milgram/15min?month=2021-01

Connect with Taylor to find out more about her journey and her offerings on her Instagram account at @taylor_ocean_cohen

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What comes up for you when you hear the word commitment? 

I bet most of you came up with some associations like “tying down to something,” “choosing one thing and nothing else,” “forever”... 

A big reason people have a fear of committing to a partnership or life decisions is because the associations they have with the word commitment feel very limiting and unnatural. 

What if we’ve been getting commitment all wrong?

In his personal and professional experience developing accountability systems for entrepreneurs and 1-1 coaching, Kevin Hermann has learned a lot about how to make commitments work for himself and others in a way that actually lights him up instead of making him feel trapped. 

Tune into this episode to hear:

-How Kevin brings in playfulness into his relationships to find more satisfaction. 

-How to think of commitment in a way that feels good vs. feeling like it’s limiting and threatening.

-The practices Kevin incorporates into his current relationship to “tend the fire” of the relationship.

-Kevin’s own journey becoming more comfortable feeling self-expressed and living his truth. 

-The difference between being outcome focused and process focused in relationships and projects.

-How the concept of “falling in love” affects how we enter relationships and the power of reframing it to “rising in love.” 

Kevin is currently transitioning to working with youth so they can step up to be leaders of their generation! Follow his journey on his Instagram: @kevin_hermann

To work with me and learn more about what I do to help women become more confident with themselves and shed the pressure to be the “good girl” book a free 15 minute Discovery Call here:  https://calendly.com/tanai-milgram/15min?month=2021-01

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Join me this week as I do a deep dive into the attachment theory with my therapist of 12 years Rosario Garrido. Lately attachment theory is becoming more widely known and I thought it would be helpful to share with others who aren’t familiar with the concept, how much your infancy affects how you form romantic relationships and how you relate to intimacy and commitment. 

Rosario is a Marriage and Family Therapist based out of Miami and believes that attachment plays one of the biggest roles in how we create relationships and develop our sense of belonging and intimacy. Tune in to learn all about it!

Learn more about what I do as an Intuitive Coach and connect with me at my website: https://www.tanaimilgram.com

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What does it really take to build a relationship where two individuals don’t feel like they “complete each other” but instead, are two whole individuals coming together for companionship and intimacy? 

My guest today Dr. Hod Tamir, a developmental psychologist and licensed mental health counselor has dedicated much of his career answering questions like this one to help emerging and middle aged adults have more satisfaction in their romantic and personal relationships. I was pleasantly surprised to hear that he feels optimistic about younger generations making progress in how they show up in relationships with more open communication, healthy boundaries and a greater possibility for what he calls “interdependence.” Tune in and hear Hod’s standpoint as a psychologist on intimacy-related anxiety, how we can create healthier relationships, what he’s learned from studying ultra-orthodox Jewish communities, and the Social Network Theory.

Other questions Hod tackles on this podcast:

• Are we expecting way too much from a single partner? •How does dating in your teen years affect how you relate in romantic relationships as an adult?
• Is the attachment style theory really enough to explain how someone behaves in a romantic relationship?
• How does the way we face challenges in relationships matter more than personality compatibility? 

Dr. Hod Tamir is the founder of the Wisr Place a clinical practice centered on Wellbeing, Identity, Sexuality, and Relationships. To find out more about how you can work with Hod check out https://www.thewisrplace.com/

To work with me and learn more about what I do to help women become more confident with themselves and shed the pressure to be the “good girl” book a free 15 minute Discovery Call here: https://calendly.com/tanai-milgram/15min?month=2021-01

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Ever see similarities between how you relate with your partner and your parents? You know that saying about how we’re attracted to someone that reminds us of our mom or dad?

Regardless of the kind of relationship you had with your parents, our relationship  with our parents or caregivers shapes a big part of our identity and how we relate to others, especially in the ways we tried to please them. The aspects of ourselves that we suppressed to please our parents are mostly what we don’t allow ourselves to share with our partners.

In our conversation today, my guest and close friend Julian Castro talks about his journey becoming more comfortable with intimacy and how he realized his relationship with his mom and the expectation she had of him growing up affected his romantic relationships. Julian talks about his journey towards being comfortable being vulnerable with his family, friends and partners ,and how the freedom to be himself and overcome fears of rejection and abandonment played a big role.

Some of the topics we cover today are:

* What fear of intimacy looks like not just in a relationship but with friends and family.

* How Julian realized that the “nice guy syndrome” and pressure to please women sabotaged his ability to be intimate with others.

* -The power of choosing your singlehood and facing loneliness vs saying yes to any partnership to fix loneliness.

* How Julian overcomes his fears of rejection and judgement every time he shares his art with the world. 

* The very common sources of sexual shame among men that nobody talks about.

* How speaking your truth and talking about the “taboo” increases intimacy in relationships.

* Masculine and feminine dynamics in relationships.

Julian Castro is an artist and the founder of Joule Studios.

Follow Julian on Instagram: https://instagram.com/julian_creates?igshid=1lta4wootrss

Learn more about what I do as an Intuitive Coach and connect with me at my website: https://www.tanaimilgram.com

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How does your connection to the Divine influence your ability to feel love? My guest today, Dr. Leonor Murciano-Luna is a powerful spiritual healer, holistic doctor and teacher that I’ve personally worked with. Leonor teaches women how to connect to love, bliss and their inner wisdom by helping them empower themselves as they change the collective story of the Feminine within themselves and the planet. Join us as we talk about how to release fear by connecting to our natural divine state of love that we’ve been conditioned not to trust as women living in a Patriarchal society.

Some things we touch upon:

• How physical symptoms are the way our body communicates with us and asking for love.
• Looking at the body as an expression of the relationship you have with your spiritual nature.
• The state of happiness, health and how you feel in your Feminine Body is linked with your spirituality.
• Leonor’s NDE and how it led her to her spiritual awakening.
• How connecting to the feminine allows you to embody and feel love.
• How the patriarchy has shaped our external search of validation.
• Facing the unknown is a crucial element of overcoming any fears.
• The importance of taking responsibility from your emotions and realizing no one else is responsible for them.
• The origin of first world feminine disorders such as UTIs and menstrual pains.

Dr. Leonor Murciano-Luna, PhD, IMD, AP is an author, spiritual healer & teacher, artist, holistic doctor and acupuncture physician.  

You can read more about Dr.Leonor Murciano-Luna and contact her through her website  https://consciousfemininemedicine.com/

Learn more about what I do as an Intuitive Coach and connect with me at my website: https://www.tanaimilgram.com

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Working with a coach through something sex-related can be scary — or even feel taboo. But, it doesn’t have to be! Our guest this week, sensuality coach Carli Jo, is getting real with some amazing advice to conquer fear and empower you to have the passionate and fulfilling sex life you’ve always wanted. On this episode, we’re diving into the misconceptions of sexuality, the emotional (and pleasurable!) connections to your body, and everything YOU need to know to trust yourself and own your pleasure!

We’re exploring:

• The shadow aspect of sex that people fear

• Why Carli Jo believes sexuality is the basis of EVERYTHING
• Acknowledging the resistance to self-pleasure and sexuality 
• How to turn your emotions into orgasmic release (and have FUN healing through pleasure!)
• Why you don’t have to be afraid to walk the fine line between pain and pleasure
• What pleasure means to Carli Jo
• The origins of the secretive nature of self-pleasure
• Why you need to know YOUR anatomy through your OWN discovery
• Our TOP TIPS to empower your safety and trust in yourself 
• And so much more!

Connect with Carli Jo on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cannabissensualitycoach/

Have a FREE 20 minute one-on-one conversation with Carli Jo: https://www.carlijo.com/20-2/

Learn more about what I do as an intuitive coach and connect with me at my website: https://www.tanaimilgram.com

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Did you know a breakup can be the BEST thing that has happened to you? Our guest this week, breakup coach Paige Wilhide, helps men and women navigate their unique breakup journeys to help them heal and learn from their experiences. She wants to remove the stigma around breaking up, and create a new narrative about why it is empowering, instead. On this episode, she’s sharing her thoughts on the importance of slowing down in relationships, how you can use a breakup as a personal growth opportunity, and answers all the questions you might be wondering about when & why you should be considering a breakup.

We’re diving into:

• The wake-up call moments that led Paige on her personal development journey
• Why you NEED to slow down and feel your feelings in relationships
• How you can use a breakup as an opportunity to learn and be empowered
• A powerful lesson about acceptance and responsibility in relationships
• Paige answers the question, “Is there a right time to breakup?”
• Why there’s no shame in taking a “break”
• 4 things you can do to determine if you should breakup or not
• How you can reframe your breakup as a rebirth
• The MOST IMPORTANT lesson you can learn from any breakup
• And so much more!

Learn more about Paige Wilhide as a breakup coach on her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakthrough/ 

Learn more about what I do as an intuitive coach and connect with me at my website: https://www.tanaimilgram.com

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If you’ve ever run away from a relationship because things got a little imperfect (or uncomfortable,) then this episode is for you! This week I’m talking with Cesar Rodriguez, an entrepreneur, blogger, and podcaster behind Love Is Our Nature — an open space for challenging conventional philosophies of love & life. He’s breaking down the barriers and sharing his male perspective on why we seek a “perfect” relationship to validate our existence, but leave no space for the imperfect humanness to inevitably show up. We’re digging deeper into the origins of the qualities we seek in our partners and why you MUST make space for humanity over perfection in order to have the relationship of YOUR dreams. 

You’ll hear more about:

• Cesar reflects on his experiences as a commitment phobe 
• Why you pursue validation through your relationships, and how this reflects your childhood experiences
• We debunk a common misconception about men and rejection
• Why the pursuit of the “perfect” partner brings fear when conflict arises
• The importance of making room for humanity, flaws, and vulnerability in your relationships
• How societal norms of masculinity influence men’s ability to be REAL with their partner
• Cesar shares his enlightening experiences with plant medicine — and how it helped him get in touch with his heart
• My #1 reason you should detach your energy and slow down your relationships
• Cesar's TOP 2 things you can do in a relationship to be fully self-expressed
• And much more!

Keep in touch with Cesar!

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loveisournature_

Website: https://www.loveisournature.com

Podcast: https://www.loveisournature.com/podcast

Email: [email protected]

Learn more about what I do as an Intuitive Coach and connect with me at my website: https://www.tanaimilgram.com

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