Commitment Phobe

Check out part II of this episode! 

We’ve been raised in a world that tells us to stop crying, feel better and not feel our feelings. What’s the impact of that? My guest Kara Baruzzini talks about how this leads to us feeling like “there’s a dormant volcano inside of you” and that can lead to explosions in our relationships, or in the case of “commitment phobes,” it can lead to running away. 

Kara shares how to use embodiment as a practice to let ourselves feel our feelings, trust ourselves, feel empowered and be able to hold space for others to feel our feelings too. 

In a world where we’re used to figuring everything out in our mind, Kara is a magical being who learned how to work on herself through the body first as a yoga and movement instructor. Tune in to listen to how you can connect to your body’s inner wisdom and be with and move through emotions you might be uncomfortable with or think are “wrong.”

Some things we talk about:

-How break ups lead to healing and awakening and self-love.

-How pain is a great motivator to take action in life.

-Kara’s journey as a yoga teacher and embodiment coach.

-How the tantric philosophy changed Kara’s life.

-The magic of “bottom-up” healing and how it’s completely different than what we’ve been taught to do to experience our emotions.

This episode includes a free guided embodiment exercise led by Kara!

Kara Baruzzini is a lightworker relaying ancient wisdom into a modern context. She lives to encourage people to move in the direction of self-healing through embodiment, inner child work, and yoga. Her healing journey has led her to deep dive into Tantric philosophy and has inspired her to share this sacred information through her virtual platform: School of Intuitive Yoga.

Website:

Schoolofintuitiveyoga.com

IG: @kara.makingwaves

Learn more about what I do as an Women’s Coach and connect with me at my website: https://www.tanaimilgram.com

Follow me on Instagram to continue the conversation and get updates about the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/tanaimilgram

We’ve been raised in a world that tells us to stop crying, feel better and not feel our feelings. What’s the impact of that? My guest Kara Baruzzini talks about how this leads to us feeling like “there’s a dormant volcano inside of you” and that can lead to explosions in our relationships, or in the case of “commitment phobes,” it can lead to running away. 

Kara shares how to use embodiment as a practice to let ourselves feel our feelings, trust ourselves, feel empowered and be able to hold space for others to feel our feelings too. 

In a world where we’re used to figuring everything out in our mind, Kara is a magical being who learned how to work on herself through the body first as a yoga and movement instructor. Tune in to listen to how you can connect to your body’s inner wisdom and be with and move through emotions you might be uncomfortable with or think are “wrong.”

Some things we talk about:

-How break ups lead to healing and awakening and self-love.

-How pain is a great motivator to take action in life.

-Kara’s journey as a yoga teacher and embodiment coach.

-How the tantric philosophy changed Kara’s life.

-The magic of “bottom-up” healing and how it’s completely different than what we’ve been taught to do to experience our emotions.

Kara Baruzzini is a lightworker relaying ancient wisdom into a modern context. She lives to encourage people to move in the direction of self-healing through embodiment, inner child work, and yoga. Her healing journey has led her to deep dive into Tantric philosophy and has inspired her to share this sacred information through her virtual platform: School of Intuitive Yoga.

Website:

Schoolofintuitiveyoga.com

IG: @kara.makingwaves

Learn more about what I do as a Women’s Coach and connect with me at my website: https://www.tanaimilgram.com

Follow me on Instagram to continue the conversation and get updates about the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/tanaimilgram

Seeing the triggers that come up in relationships as opportunities to love yourself is a powerful shift that takes you from being at the effect of your relationships to at the cause of them. 

How can you do that?

Tune in to learn a little bit about shadow work, what it means to project all of our shadows on to the people around us and how you can start to become aware of that and use it to stop creating unhealthy patterns within yourself and how you relate to others.

In this episode I talk about:

• Why you get triggered by the things other people do and how they speak more about you then them.
• How relationships are a tool for our own self-love
• How to stop being a victim in your relationships.
• How our triggers can be our teachers.
• How to create your dream relationship with anyone you’re dating.
• Some wise words from Osho and Marianne Williamson about the fear of intimacy.

Learn more about what I do as an Intuitive Coach and connect with me at my website: https://www.tanaimilgram.com

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What comes to mind when you think of supporting someone going through some sort of pain? Do you think of ways to make them feel better? Do you try to help them fix it? Do you give them advice?This week my guest Oren Shai blew my mind on what it can mean to really hold space for someone in their triggers/pain by not trying to do any of the above. Instead, we can learn how to feel a deep sense of groundedness within ourselves so we allow others to feel safe and seen being in their trigger without us trying to fix them or make them feel like their pain is wrong. 

-How to create safety and connection in relationships through presence and attention. 

-What it means to know the different “flavours of triggers” in your body.

-How we outsource our sense of  stability to external things and how to start sourcing groundedness within yourself.

-How to give yourself what you need when you get triggered so you can address  things in your relationships from a centered place.

-What somatic healing is all about.

Oren is committed to developing the leaders our world needs by connecting inner work and outer impact. Based upon the belief that the greatest challenges we face today result from the illusion of separateness, Oren’s work supports emerging leaders in reuniting separated parts of themselves so they are equipped to be forces for unification in the world. 

Practically, this takes the form of somatic leadership coaching, organizational change consulting, and co-creative community building.

Oren brings with him over a decade of experience developing people within companies like LinkedIn, and conducting applied team performance research within universities like Stanford.

Learn more at oren.is

Learn more about what I do as an Intuitive Coach and connect with me at my website: https://www.tanaimilgram.com

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“What emotion guided you to how you feel? When you hear the emotions attached to it, you become less defensive.” I’m excited to host Kelbin Ramirez, one of my closest friends from back when I was a student at the University of Florida, whom I hosted a Youtube series with about the restaurants in our college town. 

Kelbin was raised in a Nicaraguan-American home in Miami, came out to his parents in his mid-twenties, moved in with his boyfriend shortly after while also climbing up the ladder at work quicker than most people do who work as radio hosts. I was so curious to hear about what his experiences and hear his story of the impact of hiding in his relationships most of his life.

Some things we talk about are:

• The difference it makes to communicate from how you are feeling, and how to do it in a way that’s compassionate.
• What helped him get through the discomfort of coming out to a parent that didn’t fully accept him.
• What he’s learned so far about how to deal with resentments in relationships.
• How he managed impostor syndrome as he climbed up the professional ladder very quickly.

Learn more about what I do as an Intuitive Coach and connect with me at my website: https://www.tanaimilgram.com

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If you think about it, we all have many coming out stories. We all have moments in our lives where we have to share our deepest truths and show who we really are to the people we love. Ever thought about yours?

My guest Harrison Guy is a gay rights activist and professional dancer that shares with us his experience with the coming out stories we are used to thinking of: telling his friends and families that he is gay. However, there wasn’t just ONE coming out story, every family member and social setting had its own coming out story, and each one impacted his life in a different way. 

It was my pleasure to have Harry on my podcast today to hear his story what led him to the many incredible ways he creates environments where he can help others feel the freedom to express themselves the way he felt growing up in an open-minded home and community. 

Some of the topics we touch upon are:

-What it was like for him to come out to his family and community.

-How the men in his life shaped his image of a man.

-How he created the nonprofit Urban Souls Dance Company and his vision to create a dance company focused on African-American culture.

-Where he learned about courage and how he inspires others to be courageous.

-Harry’s thoughts on what makes a strong partnership and “relationship goals.”

Harrison Guy is the founder and creative director of the nonprofit Urban Souls Dance Company, a modern company that specializes in exploring African-American culture, heritage and expression. He has also been on the Mayor of Houston’s LGBTQ Advisory board, 

Learn more about what I do as an Intuitive Coach and connect with me at my website: https://www.tanaimilgram.com

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There are countless factors that affect how we show up in our relationships. How we were raised, how we manage our emotions, what our values are, even how we manage our stress. 

On this week’s episode I talk to my good friend Ceasar about his personal journey and the lessons he’s learned in order to better himself and his relationships. From healing childhood abuse and learning how to manage his anger and aggression, to having the courage to be his fully self-expressed self man that paints his nails and wears skirts. 

Ceasar is a huge believer in the power of breathwork and thinks that having a breathwork practice is crucial to get in touch with ourselves, heal our bodies, regulate our emotions and connect to the present moment. Tune in to listen to how breathwork can change your life and improve your relationships!

Ceasar is an International Wellness Mentor & Advocate. This came to be as he still presently copes and manages his own diagnosed anxiety, depression, and post traumatic stress, and found his calling as an educator and supporter to mental health awareness causes. As a trauma-sensitive Certified Yoga Instructor, Meditation Teacher, and Breathing Techniques Instructor, he specializes in mindful resiliency for trauma recovery and compassion fatigue, and has taught all over the world. He’s served as a guest panelist & speaker at Rutgers and Fordham Universities, numerous corporate events, podcasts, and is an adjunct professor at Columbia University, teaching Meditation/Mindfulness. As a 7-year U.S. Navy Veteran, he also works with the Veterans Yoga Project as an Ambassador and Master Teacher, with experience supporting recovery and resilience of Veterans. He is the creator and founder of www.TheJourneyWithCeasar.com, a subscription-based meditation library and coaching/consulting service center. And in his spare time, Ceasar is also an award-winning singer, dancer, actor, fight and dance choreographer, musical theater talent, and voiceover artist.

Imagine, what would your self-care and solo time look like if you put in the same amount of effort you do when you’re just starting a new relationship you’re excited about, full of hopes and dreams and turn-on?

What if you dressed up for yourself? Got to know yourself deeply? Put your phone down to be with yourself just like you don’t pull it out in a date? Spent a little more on a nice dinner to take YOURSELF out?

I think dating ourselves is a crucial part of loving ourselves and learning what our needs and desires are so we can set the standard for all of the other relationships in our lives. Tune in to listen to how dating myself has had such an impact on my confidence, relationships and self-love and why I created a whole group coaching program around it.

To find out more information about my 8 week program Dating Yourself check the link in the bio of my Instagram. https://www.instagram.com/tanaimilgram

Learn more about what I do as an Intuitive Coach and connect with me at my website: https://www.tanaimilgram.com

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You know when you know what you want but you feel bad, even shameful about wanting it? My guest today Julia Shepley talks about how not having approval for what we desire is a biiig source of our unhappiness and lack of power! Without total approval how could we ever go after what we want? What can we do to find approval for our desires?

After living a life consumed by shame and fear, Julia shares about the freedom and confidence she got once she approved her wildest desires in her romantic life, sex life and personal life, and how passionate she is to help other womxn experience this liberation and power as a womxn’s coach. 

Julia and I talk about:

• The difference between living out of desire vs. obligation
• Julia’s yearning to be sexually expressed and how she found the approval for it
• How to manage your “Rupture” -when you start reconfiguring your life based on desire and realize how much of your life isn’t working for you 
• Julia’s resistance to start doing personal work and why •Her journey with Herpes starting to share that publicly • Why sex was her “loneliest spot” and how she transformed it to an empowered place.
• The danger of a woman not feeling sexually expressed 
• How to manifest the kind of partner and relationship you desire
• Her newly found appreciation and love for men 
• Masculine and feminine energy dynamics and how to step into the feminine pole
• What she’s learned about what men want from her teachers and how that improved her relationships 

Connect with Julia:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/magic__juju/

Work with Julia: https://linktr.ee/magicjuju

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What does it really mean when to be responsible for our own happiness and needs within a relationship? How does one take care of our own needs, aren’t we relational beings that need people? 

This week I’ve uploaded an old Instagram Live interview I did in 2020 with one of my favorite speakers and guides Kevin Walton where we talk about just that. Kevin talks about why he thinks we need to stop preaching the idea that we need to tell our partners what we need, because we’re the only ones responsible for taking care of them.

Tune in to learn more about the differences between masculine and feminine energies, how to create clarity in relationships, why we attract the type of relationships and people we attract and more!

Kevin Walton is an expert when it comes to the topic of masculine and femine energies within ourselves and within relationships. Check out his work and find out about how you can work with him through his Instagram account @sourceradiance 

Learn more about what I do to help women become more confident with themselves and shed the pressure to be the “good girl” & book a free 15 minute Discovery Call here:  https://calendly.com/tanai-milgram/15min?month=2021-01

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